You may just need to play with your dosages, mixes, application points, etc. I also think you should stick with mixing Instant Sexiness/A and MX134 and leave MX135 out, or vice versa. At least until you get a feel for which kind of guy your TG is and what kind of pheromone signature works best for you. In my opinion those give off conflicting signals unless you’re experienced with mixing. I’m still not to the point where I will play with a mixture of those vibes, unless I feel I need a shot of Instant Sexiness/A/MX134/TAL to the chest for the self-effects.
Also, is your TG taller than you? Perhaps spraying to the top and back of your head would affect him better than your wrists, unless you do a lot of hand waving while you talk.
Give it time. I know how it is to want things to start happening now, but there is a learning curve to overcome as well as an adjustment period for your targets. He may not be a longtime friend who would be completely flabbergasted by a change they can’t put their finger on, but I think he’s known you long enough to get a good basic feel for you. You’re screwing with that now, and he might be slightly confused by it.
you’ve got alot of great suggestions from well experienced ladies here.
Just wanted to say that you should get mx135 and instant sexiness for sure!! and ofcourse dress really pretty/sexy lol and there’s never a day where I got no hits at all.
Eow does work, but it’ll take time to find the right amount and use an appropriate cover scent. (I recommend you try it on a weekend when you have no work, and see if it doesn’t stink so bad! lol) however, apparently the new batch is much better, so that’s great!
Totally lotally agree w Ariadne. Total guess but I get the idea this guy might be into the TAH side of things, so my first thought is that MX134 and IS/A is an awful lot of TAL to use on him. You aren’t wrong in doing that! Just that a lot of guys prefer one or the other. Maybe try goin TAL free/TAH heavy one day and then TAH free/TAL heavy the next.
Ariadne and Kitten- I think you’re both right about the ISA/MX134/TAL versus ISB/MX135/TAH. I kind of had the feeling he isn’t the type to respond to the first mix. In fact, I remember him being a little standoffish the day I wore it and that’s not like him . Well, at least now I know which direction I should focus. He is an alpha type and I think he would respond better to a softer, girlish vibe. If I understand correctly, that would mean I should use the ISB/MX135/TAH angle instead. Thanks again for the suggestions! Round 2, here I go!
(After this, though, I’m going to direct my energy elsewhere. I’m starting to think that he just might not be into me no matter what I do, lol!.. I’m not sure why that’s funny.)
And I totally agree with Kitten, I think your TG is probably a TAH man. I got this sense immediately when you described him as “masculine” more than once.
Candy, I have read this post again. We seem to have a very similar situation.
It is sooo hard to get that exact combo. You def have the right personality going in the right direction.
Have you tried a simple combo w/ TG? I found that in my eagerness, I was wearing too many things. I would start out simple, then panic before leaving the house and totally phero-bomb myself.
Some TGs don’t respond well to either of the Instant Sexi. Recently I have had good luck with Instant Openness and TAH. Go figure. Although it was not TG.
Also, what I am finding is that some guys are so totally focused on what is in their head at that moment, they are oblivious to what is going on around them. Even if you ARE the one for him. Seriously. Hmmm. Just off the top of my head here. Maybe some TAH and lots and lots of Instant Honesty?
Anyway, please keep us updated on what’s happenin!
Phernoob- I definitely think the way to go with my guy is the TAH angle (vs TAL). It fits better with my own personality anyway. I definitely went overkill with the mix of pheromones on my first try and got a slightly cold shoulder for my trouble. My TG is working in a different area this week, so I won’t be around him enough for pheromone exposure until next week. However, I may be going out this weekend with some friends and, if I do, I will see how it goes with other guys. Still, I can’t wait to try out the new combo next Monday with my TG! I’m going to keep it pretty much the same for the entire week, because I think I’ve been confusing him with all my random, ever-changing scents. If he doesn’t respond to it at all, then he thinks I’m a troll and my fantasies will remain fantasies for all time . Anyway, thanks for the recommendations! Using TAH and Instant Honesty and some other pheromones and copulins is what I had in mind. I hope to report good things very soon!
OMG - you are not a troll!!! Good lord girl get ahold of yourself! Remember he is in his own little world. For all you know he could be fantasizing about you. You have to remember they are on a different realm of existence than we are.
Is he over 30? If so, he is def more TAH and less Lust After Me or IS.
Trust me, I bagged a smokin hot co worker who was chased by all the other chicks at work… There were 3500 people in our building at the time. It was alot of work. Took many months… And a lawsuit…
At first, he seemed so not into me, I thought he was gay. Today, he is in our basement in a grungy t-shirt laying laminate flooring. Still not into me, but he is having fun with laminate. 3 kids, 1 minivan, big mortgage - you get the picture. Go figure. You sure you want this?
I guess my point is that you will NEVER know what he is thinking or whether the pheromones have an effect… Dont give up!
If he is not interested - he is not worthy of you.
what a very warm and supportive response to candyland, so I repped ya girlie!
Candyland…I thought at once that I wasn’t getting any successful response with the pheromones from my target guy and was quite ready to throw in the towel on that one…but it turns out that it was working after all, he just needed to get use to the change(first time wearing pheros around him). I think phernoob is right, you never know what he is thinking at this point…certainly don’t make a fool of yourself, but definitely give this one a little more of a go, especially since you are beginning to understand the pheromones better as well as different combos.
BTW…that particular target of mine is 100%, hell, 110% alpha and he does respond really well to Tah.
I still haven’t got where I wanna be in regards to using the pheromones and most of that is due to personal situation which limits my activity(i.e., going out, etc.) but I am having loads of fun with the pheromones…and it was actually when I started doing that versus looking solely for a hit that I begin to really notice the hits.
Good luck this weekend. Have fun and then go at him again on Monday (good luck, I’m wishing you better results)
Phernoob- Awww, thanks for the support! You are so sweet! I really feel the love on this board. Everything you said made a lot of sense, too.
He probably is in his own little world half the time. One of things I love about him, though, is that when you go to him for help, he becomes completely attentive and focused on just you. It’s intoxicating.
He’s 32, masculine, and has a protective side to him. I also think TAH is right up his alley.
I hate not being able to read his mind. I just need one little hint (a meaningful look, a suggestive touch) that he has the capacity to feel for me what I feel for him. And even if, for whatever reason, it doesn’t go anywhere with him, at least I know he thought about it. And that would be enough.
He sounds really great! Is he your boss? What do you do?
One of the problems I found is misreading the TG. I mistakenly thought that my TG was not an Alpha. WRONG.
I think part of the problem for you is location. Is there any way you could be with him in a non-work setting. I dont know where you work. Is there even a cafeteria or something? Break room? My BFF has had great success finding TGs in the cafeteria.
If you can get him to not think about work for one second…
I somehow weirdly got myself into the position where the TG is now not in the professional setting (veeery loooong story) - so I’m hoping that might help.
Also - wear the TAH. I am having positive results with it…
Hey Candy ,
I agree with phernoob…Guys have a way of hiding their feelings until they know or think they will loose you. I had this guy give me the cold shoulder for months until he saw another dude hitting on me and started to act like my b/f..lol go figure…
Remember , you have to make the pheromones work for you so if in your subconcious you have fear and doubting yourself you may be giving off that vibe…
We are women we hold more power than we know so tap into that get your man.If infact he doesn’t go for you then ya like phernoob said “he is not worthy”
Djacquelyn- I also believe I haven’t yet exposed him to the right combination of scents long enough for him to have a response. I think I finally got a handle on the right mix, though, but we’ll have to wait and see next week! It’s good to know that 110% alpha = results with TAH. Hopefully my guy will be all over that. Anyway, thanks for the support! Just when I think of giving up, you guys pull me back from the edge! If I do go out this weekend, I’ll let everyone know how it went. And then Monday should at least be interesting. crosses fingers
Phernoob- He’s my supervisor for a 4-month internship. I got another month or so and then I won’t have any excuse to be around him anymore!!! Oh no!
I definitely agree that location is part of the problem. It’s hard to foster that intimate atmosphere in a work setting. I could have lunch with him, but it would be more like us being in the same room and not actually having lunch together. He would think it’s weird if I suddenly try to sit at the desk with him. I think you’re so totally on target with getting his mind off of work. That is such a good point. I’ll see what I can do.
Diatris- Yeah, I think it might unleash the alpha male in him if he sees other guys flirting with me. Too bad there’s just not that many other available guys around! If the situation ever presents itself, though… it’s on! I really do have to work on having the right attitude and stop doubting myself. It’s always been one of my problems.
Ariadne- LOL, I know you’re right. I’ll just want more, *more, *MORE!
I wanted to update everyone on how things have been going with the internship and my sweetheart of a supervisor :o.
I’ve been wearing a simple mix for the past 2 weeks as a way of creating a signature:
Drops of EoW on neck and chest
A few sprays of mx135 in hair
Pink Sugar cover
I haven’t been wearing my IS/B or TAH because I felt like it made me appear too weak (although that may have been all in my head because I was just feeling insecure on those days). I haven’t been wearing any Instant Shine or Honesty b/c I wanted to limit the scent combination.
I wish I could say things are going as planned, but the truth is, it’s just not happening for him. He’s still as wonderful as ever, but there’s nothing special going on between us.
One fact I haven’t mentioned (b/c I vainly hoped it wouldn’t make a difference) that may be affecting his openness to me is that he’s very, very recently divorced and has a 4 year old daughter. (Ah, the plot thickens). I don’t know if the divorce was amicable, but it may have wounded him a bit. He may even still be in love with his ex-wife. They still see each other b/c of the kid. I don’t know any details.
Thus, I’m going to have to accept that he’s just not in the right place in his life to pursue a new relationship or have a little fun with a new woman (the latter is all I wanted). Another time, maybe, things could have been different.
It makes me , but I’m a big girl and I just have to deal with it. I tell you what though, I can’t wait for this internship to be over so I don’t have to be tortured by his presence anymore. This unrequited interest really bites. Well, lesson learned. I suspected he was emotionally unavailable from the start and when I recognized my own growing attraction, I should have trampled it ruthlessly.
Awwwwwwwwwwwww. Hugs! Sorry to hear that Candy boo. That ex-wife and child thing does put a new twist on things. I would keep experimenting with the products if I were you esp. the instant honesty.
I hope you are not too attached that you won’t get over him. In any case we are all here for you.
Just don’t put too much “faith” in the pheromones. They are not magic bullets, just “enhancers” to what is already there.
Most of the work is going to have to be done by the “who” you are. Your overall behavior etc. Men and women are drawn to different things. It can take a lot of time to figure out what those things are, and how much of or which of any of those various things come in to play with a particular person.
Men are often very selective, expecially if they are coming off a rough prior relationship. More cautious. (Just like women can be…) You may be more firmly in his radar than you know. Time and patience can be key.
Also, decide if you are after a one nighter, a short-term, or long-term type of relationship. Approaches will be different.
. Well, at least now I know which direction I should focus. He is an alpha type and I think he would respond better to a softer, girlish vibe. If I understand correctly, that would mean I should use the ISB/MX135/TAH angle instead. Thanks again for the suggestions! Round 2, here I go!