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Field Reports & Anecdotal Experience Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports
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I’m so not usually a TAL girl. It usually just makes me extremely irritable and ready to lash out at anyone that I generally don’t mess with MX134/300 or IS/A too much. Today, however, I didn’t really care if I was irritable or lashed out at anyone. I was ready to bite anyone’s head off and spit nails to begin with.

My boss decided to tell me that she doesn’t believe me when I say I’m swamped with work, and now I have to document every minute of my time from the time I arrive to the time I leave. This is for the forseeable future. The only people I know of who have had this sort of requirement brought down upon them are no longer with the company, so I have reason to be upset and angry over this. I’ve never received a verbal or written warning, however, so the axe cannot fall immediately. Oh, and did I mention I did absolutely nothing wrong? Another supervisor I’ve been assigned to helping when I have time has been angling to get a full time assistant, so he’s said a couple of times that I’m not available to him as much as he needs. That plus the fact that a project I was supposed to work on Tuesday was rescheduled for another day leaves my boss thinking I’m not actually doing anything. Oh, did I also mention this boss is actually never on-site where the work is done, so has no idea what goes on? She actually thinks a couple of people who sit on the internet for half their day are motivated workers. She has no clue, and doesn’t care to acquire one. :angry: Anyway.

I’ve been playing around with p87 and p103 and thought they might make a good combo for work. This morning I sprayed:

2 sprays MX300 to the back of the head
1 spray p103 @ 12.5mcg to my chest
2 sprays p87 @ 12.5mcg to the back of my head

I was so calm throughout the morning, despite the fact that I wanted to cry from frustration when I woke up. I spoke with a couple of supervisors about this issue, and was assured by both of them that there was no way I was going to be fired over this. Assured in a way that implied “let that boss try, and I will be there to intervene!”

A couple of coworkers were flabbergasted when I told then what was going on. Not that I think they wouldn’t be if I was phero-free, but they were downright angry to hear about this. Much more so than I think one would expect from such a sullen, me-first and the gimme-gimmies environment we work in. It felt like I was amassing my own army.

When I typed up my detailed time account, I made sure to account for every bathroom break, every half-minute drink break I took, etc. One of my coworkers suggested I go as far as saying what I did in the bathroom, but that may have pushed the envelope a tad too far. :wink:

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Poor Ariadne, it sounds just like my workplace :frowning:

I try not to wish bad things on certain people, because I do know that wishing can sometimes cause them to come true, and when that happens, the karma will come back to you (even if they deserve it).

I know, I was absolutely shocked when I was told of these “things I had done”, which I had never done, and can even prove it, if anyone would even bother to check. Which of course they don’t, and haven’t bothered to, even in prior strange accusations.

For example, a couple of months ago, I was accused of speaking rudely and hanging up on a nurse that works in a local doctor’s office. It just so happens that this nurse and I get along fabulously on the phone, and I asked the admin. to please contact this nurse and just ask her.

today, it was apparent that she had not even bothered to call, and was still convinved that I had done this.

Your mix sounds nice, except that I do not have any p87.

I like the calmness that you experienced. Did you also experience any better focus, as in how to best deal with the situation?

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Yes, definitely. Usually when I get mad, I mean really angry, I get all “FCUK ALL Y’ALL, I’M BRINGING THIS HOUSE DOWN UPON ALL OUR HEADS!”, but today I did not. Thankfully I do not get that angry very easily or often. My anger was at that level, but I was able to think a lot more clearly than in times past when I have experienced injustice and the possible loss of my livelihood.

It is amazing to me how people aren’t willing to fact check. I have a wealth of supervisors and coworkers who could vouch for the type, quality, and amount of my work, but instead of going to any of them, this absent entity makes her own judgment based on… nothing. Well, it’s based on pettiness and a need to have absolute control over everything and everyone, but still. Based on nothing factual or concrete.

How do these people become managers/bosses again?

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Lies, deceit and manipulation, perhaps??

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I’ve just finished a half bottle of wine, so my indepth and smart comments will have to wait for now. I’ll pop back round in the am to comment on the P87. I have very strong thoughts on how that played into your mix.

However, if Diane is poking around, she can also offer some great, great insight, bloody brilliant lady she is.

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Is Mercury retrograde or something to be causing all this BS?

No, but Venus is, and Pluto will be in two days.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN?? Where is Catlord to explain this?? :confused:

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You are so obviously a highly competent woman-to-be-reckoned with, ariadne. Sorry to hear about the a$$hole boss. You’ve got the right stuff (pherowise and otherwise) and will end up shining over all of this ridiculousness. Good for you for keeping your cool (MX300 is amazing that way!)

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MX300 and just a little bit of Ariadne and you get super woman.

I’m very curious how the other two putatives played into the mix and were you wearing them around that mean old sea hag? Where as MX300 will give you that Alpha woman in control vibe of ANY situation, I’m curious how the yippee yahoo of P103 worked in combo? Then you have that Ultra “get it done” vibe of P87 mixed in there it almost seems as they would cancel themselves out.

Cialdini calls our instincts “click whirr” and if ever there could be a better definition of P87 I’m not sure. Perhaps, modern day Cro-Mag :slight_smile:. I believe someone, maybe Tacitus, called it reptillion which is a damn fine definition itself.

Anyway sorry about your situation and not looking to downplay it (I have full confidence in you) but, could you give me some feedback on these two in conjunction with each other?

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Ariadne -

Were you eerily calm at work?
Were you cooly objective?
Were you able to plot/plan/observe/deflect actions & reactions from other people at your office, then turn them into beneficial opportunities for yourself?
Did you have decreased emotional responses to events that you would normally react to?
Did you feel like you could “read” your coworkers and say the right thing to get them to be your “army?”
Could you manipulate the situation to your benefit?

Was any of the above mitigated/augmented/altered by the p103, in your opinion?

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It’s called getting promoted to their level of incompetence.

Consider this person I work with. Even though he didn’t know anything about computer systems management, I was told by our director I would give him an administrator’s account to one of our major systems. As a result, he managed to get us hacked in a major way. (He used his username as a password. the third most guessed password). Did he get fired? No. He was promoted, given a raise, made sole administrator to another of our major systems, and sent off to classes to learn how to administrate the system. In other words, promoted to the level of his incompetence. Also, should our director ever stop suddenly, this guy’s head would be soooo far up the director’s ass…:roll_eyes:

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Why doesn’t this surprise me?? :roll_eyes:

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Reminds me of Seinfeld when Elaine promoted the psycho from the mail room. Figure that would be on Youtube but nothing found :stuck_out_tongue:

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Awww, thanks Steve! Maybe I need to get a pink cape with a big pink A? :wink:

Why I chose the components of this combo:

MX300 can make me an irritable bitch, but it also elevates my status in other people’s eyes (the standard effect). I usually don’t use it because of its effect on me, as I said, but I figured I needed all the worship I could get. I didn’t want sexy at all, and I’ve never been able to turn MX134/300 sexual unless I loaded it down with cops.

P103, on me, doesn’t give me the yippee yahoo (TAC does, however). P103 brightens my mood, though, and lessens tension. I really needed that as when I get stressed (which I’ve already been over the past few weeks due to work), my neck and shoulders hurt from being in a constant state of contraction. P103 is like a massage therapist in a bottle.

P87 makes me not care about what I’m feeling. I’m able to focus more (never tried TAF, though maybe I should to contrast these two), corrall my thoughts, and set emotions aside. When I’m stressed/upset, my thoughts are all over the place, mostly focusing on whatever it is making me stressed/upset. P87 has been a great help on this front. Perhaps P87 activates the rostral cingulate cortex, which helps suppress emotional response to negative stimuli?

So my theory on mixing these was:

  1. I wanted a truckload of respect and reverence, so MX300.
  2. I wanted to feel better mentally (uplifted) and physically (relaxed). P103.
  3. I wanted to not be overly emotional about the situation and think clearly when it came to handling my boss and anyone else I needed to speak to about it. P87.

I think this mix worked extremely well and succeeded in doing what I asked of it. I did wonder how the P103 and P87 would work together, if they would be single players or combine to form Voltron-emone and do something entirely unexpected. Thursday morning, I didn’t care. I thought I was as good as out the door so it didn’t matter. The end result was something akin to what I can only describe as zen.

I tried this same combo again today, and the result was exactly the same. Stressors were present, but I was able to effectively deal with them without getting overwhelmed and wanting to throw my hands up in frustration. I’m going to continue to experiment with this next week, to see if the self-effects are sustainable. Neither yesterday nor today did I personally encounter my boss. Any communication I had with her was via e-mail, as it is going to be from now on as she has a habit of conveniently “forgetting” important things you tell her.

I think a P103/P87 mix would be good to try for meditation. I usually meditate for stress reduction (haven’t been able for a month or so, though. Bad me), and I wonder if it would enhance the experience. I suspect it might.

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The answer to all of the above is an unequivocal “yes”.

The answer here is also yes, but I left it out of the above because I’m usually pretty good at reading people, and I don’t think this combo helped (or hindered) that in any way. As far as saying the right thing, I seemed to, but it was almost as if I could say nothing wrong. I’m not sure what component to attribute that to, but if I were to guess I would say it was the MX300.

I’m usually quite adept at doing this anyway. :o It’s possible that the pheros helped push my abilities in this situation.

I’m still trying to decipher what the P103 might have caused as far as other people’s reactions to me. I didn’t see any giddiness, but rather a happy willingness to be on my side and be there for me. Almost everyone I spoke to readily jumped to the conclusion that I was being egregiously wronged, and almost seemed shocked to even hear that I was encountering such troubles.

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Thanks for the responses and the kind words everyone! It makes me feel all snuggly inside!

I wanted to mention that I had been thinking for some time of trying out Spaceland for relaxation, and the only thing holding me back was that I was unsure of the scent it comes in.

Forget about Spaceland, I’m buying a 30ml of P103.

And probably P87 as well. :wink:

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I must’ve been in a coma to miss a report by my favorite little badass! :smiley:

I concur on the MX300 (MX134). I only drag that one out when I’m not kidding. I’ve been testing P87 and it makes me feel distant. P103 I haven’t tested much, so I won’t comment. I think this mix served you very well under the circumstances. You kept your cool. :cool:

Now, a question about your boss. How was your relationship with her up to the point before she lost her mind? How did you get along? WTF is up with her? You say this has been done to others. For some reason she’s after you. Is there possibly a reason she has it in for you? Christ, you’re right, it sounds like a set up for dismissal! But why?

Maybe she needs more bran in her diet. :roll_eyes: :stuck_out_tongue:

Great report, ari, reps.

Bella

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awww im so sorry i missed this until today also! im so sorry that ur work boss sounds like a big mean b!tc# :frowning::frowning::frowning::frowning:

honestly, just dust urself off and know that u will do better than her in the long run because obviously you know how to keep ur cool and deal with situations like this well :slight_smile:

reps and rooting for u!
<3 remmy

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Thanks so very much for filling in the details for me. Its right along the lines of what I was thinking and makes a lot of sense. Great handle on the mones and way to use them to your advantage.

Your reply to my questions earned reps and TOTW vote from me. Well done

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Thanks so much Steve! :slight_smile: