Ok, so I got some questions that I would like to have answered, especially from women.
If you want to know the background of my situation, you can go here and read it.
Please don’t think bad of me for posting that, ok?
First of all, I want to admit something. I’m starting to fall for my ex again, big time. Which is not good, I want her to fall for me, not me for her. I am wondering if there is something to keep me from not falling for her again.
So, the thing is, after we had sex, she took a quick shower to rinse off. As she was getting ready to leave, she asked, "Is this ok? Should we be doing this? Is this healthy? I mean, we are not together anymore, and it wouldn’t be right to get back into a relationship.
I said, “Well, we are just having fun, right? I like having sex with you, and I don’t really want to look for it somewhere else.” She said, “But you got to be able to move on. What if I start having feelings for you again? What if I start wanting more? As soon as I start having feelings for you, you are going to dump me. Would we stop if I do?”
I didn’t respond right away, I didn’t know what to say, she was right, but at the same time I didn’t want things to change. Then I said, “Well, I dont’ know, we’ll just have to see when the time comes, you’ll let me know right?” She said yes.
After a while when we were getting dressed after a quick rinse, she asked, “I mean, what are we?” I replied back, “We’re just having fun, why can’t we just keep it how it is, nothing serious, but not being just friends?”
She said “Yeah, you’re right, I guess this is alright.”
I called her that night, and we just chatted for a little bit. I asked her if she was cool with our arrangement, she said yeah, she was fine. The next day she didn’t call me at all, I wanted to talk to her, but I wanted her to do it. I know the game, and I know I shouldn’t be the one showing too much interest. So I texted her saying hi, she replied much later. No call though. I didn’t call her throughout the day, but she never called. I was about to go to sleep, and I still wanted her to call me, but she didn’t. So I caved in and called her, we chatted for about 10 minutes and then she said she was tired and she was going to sleep.
I’m still not too familiar with weird female behaviour. What is she doing? Why is she being this way? Not too long ago, she was calling me often. But now, I’m the one doing it. I feel like she is pulling away. Can anyone offer me some answers?
I know, I know, some of you are going to say, “Why do you want her to fall for you when you don’t want to fall for her?” The answer to that is because she is more volatile than me. I already like her enough, but I don’t want to like her more that I would be putting myself in a vulnerable position.
