Figured the girls needed a cheat guide of our own. There are more I’m sure but figured Id throw this out there. Gents, if you have any to add, please don’t keep it to yourself.
Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they’re interested.
The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. Once we decide we like someone, the body automatically begins changing physically to signal attraction. Body language hasn’t changed much since the dawn of man. The messages we are conveying with the body language of attraction are: I’m harmless, I like you, 'm approachable and I’m fertile.
He’ll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we’re attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they’re so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they’ve even registered it themselves.
Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you’ve drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you’re interested.
His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally “opens”. The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly “open” expression.
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He’ll smile at you and establish eye contact.
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He’ll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you’ll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous; they’re practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he’s trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he’ll unconsciously detach from his friends or a group by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He’ll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They’re the equivalent of the female lip lick"I want to look good for you." Unconscious self-grooming.
He’ll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what’s going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you’re talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
He’ll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death). Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It’s an extension of preening and it’s astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it’s an almost 100 percent sign he’s interested and trying to look his best.
Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he’ll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage, standing tall with legs slightly spread. He’ll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
He’ll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it “visual voyaging”?his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don’t kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he’s letting you see him do it. The message: I’m considering you as a sexual partner.
He’ll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He’s letting you have a good look at what’s on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time. If he’s standing, he’ll adjust his package.
He’ll stand close to you. This has cultural overtones, but in general a man will approach you and stand as close as socially acceptable.
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He’ll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It’s also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we’d most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he’s willing you to look, touch and admire the part he’s proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases… subconsciously pointing to his sexual assets.
He’ll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It’s a displacement activity (fiddling) because you’ve made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he’s imagining his shoes under your bed.
He’ll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he’s interested, he’ll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It’s a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we’re attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you’ll take more drags on your cigarette. If you’re drinking, you’ll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra-sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person’s mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He’ll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects; his beer bottle or can (any round object), rolling it in his fingers and squeezing it. They remind him of your breasts: his body is “leaking” what’s happening in his subconscious mind. He will play with (women will use cylindrical objects in the same way)
He’ll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction.
He’ll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. He will find any old excuse to touch a woman on the arm, back, knee or shoulder or any other body part in a way that’s not creepy. If it’s done right, it’s enough to make the hair on her skin stand up and take notice. The arm guide isn’t just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he’s making sure he knows exactly where you’re going by taking you there. He doesn’t want to lose you! It also shows you’re being “taken care of” so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there’ll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
He’ll lend you his coat or sweater. He wants it to be his jacket because it’s a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says “what’s mine is yours,” something that’s been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back). It smelled of him to begin with; it’ll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to get it back.
- Leaning toward the person (shows interest and engagement) By moving his chair or body to get closer to really listen to the conversation. A cheeky smile is another clue that he’s flirting leaning away signals dislike or withdrawal.
- Head tilting (also shows interest and engagement) looking over someone’s head, avoiding eye contact and looking around, signals lack of interest; even if you’re extremely shy, try to maintain eye contact as much as possible!
- Flushing/blushing: the body’s way to mimic the effect of orgasm, probably the most obvious involuntary evolutionary I’m available and interested signal you can give (one reason women wear blush and lipstick).
- Racing heart. Another unconscious response if you’re attracted to someone, your heart rate rises; and interestingly, if your heart rate is high, it makes the person appear more attractive!
- Feet and knees pointed to the person. If your feet are pointed directly at someone, it’s a sign of attraction or interest. If they’re pointed off to the side, it indicates lack of interest.
- Mirroring, where one person copies the body language, gestures and speech patterns of the other, or orders the same food or drink
Women (adding to men’s signals, many of which are used by women as well):
- Pouting and licking her lips while lowering her eyelids and gazing upward at the man
- Show her hips off by standing with one hip thrust outward slightly; also walking with more of a sway than usual
- The “boob shoulder” a sideways look at a man while raising the shoulder slightly upward to symbolically emphasize her breasts
- Showing the wrist, a delicate and vulnerable part of the body
- She will sit with her ankles crossed (to make the legs appear slimmer and hips wider) and to subconsciously point the knees at him
- Head pedestal: if she’s looking at you with interest while resting her chin on her hands, she’s subconsciously saying,“I put my face on a pedestal for you. You like?”
