Once you get in the habit of looking for IOIs, misinterpretation of signals becomes a really big issue…This is especially true when you start interpreting a woman’s behaviors and mannerisms to simply ‘see what you want to see’. ie, you want to believe a woman is attracted to you, and unconsciously justify the notion that she is attracted to you, by interpreting her body language in a manner that satisfies that end.
In the case of pheromones, there’s always the issue of having certain expectations while wearing a pheromone product, and interpreting different things in a manner that fulfills your expectations. The article mtnjim shared with us really comes to mind.
Anywhoo, this all reminds me of a situation with a good friend of mine a couple months back. He was going gaga over a lady, but was completely lost when it comes to women. He’s very much a late bloomer in certain ways, and many of the little life lessons we all learned when we were younger still seem(ed) foreign to him. I wanted to help the guy out, so one drunken night I told him I would give him something to help him out. Initially I was going to give him some pheromones, but ended up giving him a copy of double your dating by David D instead; along with a couple of random articles about seduction and attraction I’ve picked up over the years.
He read all of the stuff I gave him, but I think the only thing that really sunk in with him was learning to read IOIs. Long-story made short, he started unreasonably interpreting different things about her behavior, mannerisms, body language etc, without building any real solid ground with her. He saw more in their relationship than what was really there, simply because he wanted to believe something was there. It all eventually blew up in his face…creating a whole lot of awkwardness in the process.
It kinda sucked for him initially, and I still give him shit about it to this day…but he did learn his lesson it. This past summer in fact, he even snagged himself an official ‘ladyfriend’.