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Yes, I’d say when someone does not have a good sex drive that means something is wrong. I didn’t realize that would be a controvertial point. We are designed to be sexual beings.

Biologically speaking, in the animal and plant kingdoms, organisms die after they reproduce or cease to be able to. Survival and reproduction are our biological imperatives.

I think most healthcare practitioners will tell you the patients who live the longest healthiest lives are the ones who are sexually active.

I’m not sure how you’d do a good double blind study to prove such a general point as healty people have a strong sex drive. Looking at individual diseases, though, I’m sure you can find plenty of evidence that sexual desire and/or activity corrolates with health. The issue of prostate disease has been discussed on this forum. A man who has regular orgasms is less likely to get prostate cancer.

The Daoists and Tantrics have believed for thousands of years that sexual arousal provides a rejuvenating function. There is scientific evidence that this is true in terms of stimulating the endocrine and immune systems. The healing power of touch is real.

You are so right, Bella. I definitely missed one there. When I first read about SAMe years ago I thought it was a hoax. It seems to be good for everything: arthritis, cardiovascular disease, liver disease, depression. I have seen it work for premenopausal depression. But what makes it especially valuable is that it supports the liver. Very often the liver is stressed out from trying to remove excess estrogen.

It is also good for hangovers! Alcohol diminishes the body’s ability to produce its own SAMe. So if you’re not a happy drunk…

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I have a few suggestions along with what is already here, & I do think it’s really gallant & cool that you guys are making these efforts. Anyway…

If you can get your wife off the Prozac & take the SamE like Bella said, that’s a good idea and have her ( if she’s willing ) to take an Omega-3 supplement. Either a pill or drink flaxseed oil or buy it ground up, like wheat germ and put in on yogurt or cereal. It’s really good for all brain functioning and there have been studies showing that different people use it up faster than others.

Also, for the liver ( & I thought I just read on here that’s where sex hormones are produced ) Milk Thistle.

Also, does she exercise? That is obvious, I know but, it really works wonders, you feel so much more alive and active and maybe the endomorphins will act as a natural anti-depressent.

Also, what any guy should try ( & vice versa ). Why don’t you get your wives their own pheromones because then they would be in a more positive, happy, confident, sexy mood & it would be like a double enhancement.

Also, role-playing. You could do like fun Teacher/Student ( or whatever you like ) but, also, if you can get into the moment like ( almost like time-travel ) do one where you are 10 or 20 years ago when you first met and started dating & remember what you felt like and what you were thinking and how you felt when they were new and you see all their positive best qualities. Those things are never lost if they are true, just forgotten.

And Jono101 (? )/ Albert Einstein: I feel sad for you. It is sad when a deep feeling just evaporates like summer haze but, you never know. And you say, if you love something let it free, well do that & maybe she’ll come back to you.

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Wow - I was out of the loop for a while and did not see all the additional comments in the thread.

Thanks everyone for all the additional input. I am sure it will help people down the road.

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Wow! Very informative thread. I’ve got some questions, but I want to read more of this site before I post them to get a better understanding of the full depth of all of the info surrounding pheromones and it’s effect on personal interaction-- but, I still feel the need to comment on how great a thread like this is!

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I concur. I found this thread EXTREMELY informative! Thank you Robbie! It is definitely going to help, even though Im not married yet, its getting there. A thanks to everyone.

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Hello all,

I would like to reinforce the Omega 3 advice Kimmie D gave. I got my wife a book call The Orgasmic Diet. I involves taking fish oil (High in Omega 3’s), Calcium magnesium zinc supplement, dark choclate, and cutting sugar and caffine. It works quite well. My wife really responded to the program as has several of her friends. She stopped the fish oil because it was to many pills per day.

I really like this tread!

BBG

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Sometimes, nothing will help. Of course, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do our best. Sometimes it is just nature’s way with women, poor things. Sometimes, it is their own poor self-image.

As to Prozac, see if she can switch to Wellbutrin. I had one GF who was on Prozac when I was in her town. She tried but was largely inorgasmic. Later, she called me up and said “Joe! I’ve switched to Wellbutrin and YOU should be HERE!” I took her meaning as her libido problem was resolved.

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Very interesting thread…

When I started using pheros my girlfriend of the time didn’t like IFM at all. With many girls it has a negative effect, repulsive sometimes, like Ammo (surprising!)

I reordered it a few months ago, and not only has the smell been changed, but I’m with my “new” girlfriend now and IFM can calm her.

So again, the best way to know what is better for you is to try out the different products which seem to correspond to what you’re aiming at and find the best one.

TAF (at the right dose) can “renew” a relationship that has gone into routine.

Some people don’t need -none, some use it to “compensate a natural lack” of it.

And sometimes social pheromones can lead to sensual or even sexual relationship !

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Nice thread but there is an anomaly here, cutting down on caffeine and eating dark chocolate, dar chocolate contains caffeine and in grater amounts then milk chocolate.

Caffeine Content of Coffee, Tea, Chocolate

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This has been such a helpful thread for more than one reason. For starters, one of my main motivating factors for getting into the pheromone scene was to regain my wife’s attention. With both of us being caught right in the middle of the rat race, I feel like we have drifted apart and become something closer to good roommates than lovers. Each night I have showered immediately after work to scrub off any A314 from the day and apply fresh scent for when she gets in.
The first night, I used IO and didnt really notice much change one way or the other. The next night I applied Ammo 2x and within 45 minutes of her getting in she was accusing me of always disapproving of her. It was insane. I felt like the ammo really made her feel intimidated no matter how comforting and reassuring I tried to be. But on the third night I tried IH 2x and that is when I noticed a change. She sat on the couch and actually talked to me instead of having her face buried in her laptop. We laughed at a tv show or two, made pans for the weekend and even discussed a few topics that have been driving a wedge between us. I could not believe it. They should really change the name from instant honesty to Instant Marriage Saver

I also am very pleased to hear all the comments about the SSRI’s. I have been on Lexapro for approximatley 3 years due to severe anxiety. However, I have been wanting to get off of the meds because I just can not stand the side effects and feel like I could better treat the issue by making lifestyle changes and learning more about myself. So for the past 3 months I have been slowely weaning myself off of the Lex under the guidance of my therapist. I will not lie to you, I have been on the pills for so long that I was really concerned that I would not be able to survive without them. But then I read about the 5 HTP on this thread and started to research it on my own. I now feel like I may have a legitimate chance of living without the numbing effects of the SSRI. I CAN do this.

It is funny to me; I came here to get a discount on my first purchase through androtics and ended up finding a place where I felt at home and meeting some really great people in the process. That has been so much more benificial to me than the original gift card could have ever been.

Thank you,

Chad

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Glad for it Chad. If you have any questions just post them somewhere - we are always happy to help or give our opinions and experiences.

bh

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Hate to troll around old posts but I had to say something.

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aw and his wife ( my sister) are having problems, and since he is a major computer geek, I thought getting the 304 would help him.
I will check on them ( I am going to their house soon) and let you guuys know what happened.
Was also wondering where to ask for a few samples with my order ( already paid ,Love paypal)
Which would be cool.
Thank you !

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Bumping this great thread back up to the top. The 2 main questions I get asked again and again through my website and blog are:
How can I attract this girl and How can I re-attract MY girl.

The answer to both is pretty complex.

Relationships and love and intimacy are built on bonding and a sense of oneness, but great sex depends on risk, separateness and novelty.

Making both coexist in a long relationship is about trying to balance both. Make her feel loved, supported and respected, but also allow/build in some separateness and independence, so you can both go and do things you love to do, then reunite for some quality together time.

As stated here, pheromones can definitely help put the icing on the cake, but have to complement a good foundation.

If you’ve lost your way and forgotten how desirable each other are, then don’t just think you can plonk in sexual pheromones and everything will be golden. It’s no surprise that others have found in this thread that socials work better - re-establishing a sense of intimacy and connection first, so you both feel loved and bonded is a great idea.

Combined with this, go do new things together; social gatherings and parties, where you can go off and be separate, whilst looking across the room at them talking to an attractive member of the opposite sex and feel a pang of jealousy, or at least something stirring in you.

I have a blog post titled: Monogamy and the Coolidge effect, which elaborates on some of this and shows that we’re all naturally predisposed to novelty when it comes to sex. If you want love and sex, then you need to recreate novelty, excitement and bonding/intimacy and make the two coexist.

Focusing on the lack of sex is such an all-consuming thing for a lot of guys, as we all need to scratch that itch, but it starts with making it your purpose to be affectionate and connected day to day, outside the bedroom - if you only ever kiss her when you want to get laid, she’ll naturally see through and be irritated by it.