Its a strange thing but the foundations of solid and long term attraction are almost always laid in the space between contact and no contact - I can’t think of a particularly logical explanation, other than that’s just how it is.
Your question is more or less explored on this recent thread, so its well worth a read:
So what would be best to attract her again ?
Although the mix that suits you best may be slightly different from his but that can only be determined by evaluating her personality and testing.
Yes, it can happen without mones - but for most of us, the mones help it hit-home more effectively and efficiently.