So how do you reproduce this feeling of confidence so you know mones will work for you?
I’ve had days when I’ve tried to dress up the best, shave, get a haircut etc, and still been in a rather depressed or timid mood. And mones didn’t do anything.
I’ve had days when I didn’t give a damn about anything (The way I looked), even if I combed my hair perfectly or wore the nicest clothes and mones worked on those days for me.
So the question is how do you reproduce confidence so that mones will work?
And does paying attention to your looks make you more insecure? After all your trying to FIX yourself up so it must be that you think something needs fixing which leads to a lack of confidence? I wonder if world class models are really insecure people deep down inside …?
I think your ability to handle situations is going to determine your level of confidence, if you don’t have experience to handle a new situation, the initial risk you have to take will make you more confident and with repeated exposure to this situation it will build your confidence.
I think that looks, grooming, fashion should be an expression of that ability of confidence instead of being the source of confidence.
To reproduce that confidence you need past experiences, they can be negative or positive, you could focus on the positive ones and use that as a reference for the present.
There are lots of people that look confident/alpha but in reality are not, usually this confidence is situational and ego-based, when exposed to a different/certain situation their true colours show.
In terms of pheromones, I don’t think changing signature that often is a good idea, if you could think which combo/mix you had the most positive effects and focus on that mix and wear it until your like one with the mix and its signal I think that would do good for your confidence and eliminate confusion.
Just know that it is not the end of the world if a hair is out of place, or you have a blemish or your shirt gets a little wrinkled. You will have those days where everything is mint, fresh clothes, clean cut, clean shave and perfect complexion. Other days you will not, you notice yourself a lot more then other people notice. You are your own biggest critic. The people who mattter and are worth your time will not car about a few minor things that are out of place. Like the Saying goes, “Those that matter don’t mind, and those that mind, don’t matter”. If you are comfortable at the end of the day, that is all that matters.
Do the things that make you feel powerful, have a song that pumps you up? Listen to it, love how you feel after you work out, pump some Iron. Got a shirt that makes you feel like a fucking pimp? Wear it. Self-Improvement is a noble goal, self-obsession is not.
What I’ve noticed is that any time one is aiming for perfectionism they are going after a self defeating goal.. On the one hand many of us were rather told to do the best, look the best , earn the best, try to win in life, compete etc etc I came from one of those families.. And I find that in one way it makes you get ahead , in another , your always unsatisfied.
I like your words Jabez: “Self -improvement is a noble goal, self-obsession is not”
Very well put.
I have found when I link my clothing to success.. Say for example I had a day that went well with my favorite jacket, mones, shirt etc.. then what I do is I stay away from those clothes for a while and then when I know its time to go out and meet people (women) I purposely wear that outfit.. Its like it brings back all the confidence because I associate positive past experiences with it.
So it is like an anchor in NLP. The clothing that is and the mone signature… Used daily it becomes negated and boring. So the trick is to have my favorite outfit, mones etc used on days when I party.
Still18 is right, don’t change up a good thing.. be consistent.. i have found that changing up mones signatures all the time is confusing not just to others but to me because I’m behaving differently, when I look back its like a shock to me.. Not always a good thing.
Around the same people switching up signatures too often can formulate a lack of trust. Switching up once after a long while can make you appear mysterious in a good way.. But keep changing signatures around from one to another and trust is gone – so is congruence (even actors prepare for movie roles for years sometimes in advance).. And with lack of congruence and recall of what works best for you, confidence may be effected too.
good question. I’m bursting with confidence on some days. I’ve been a mobbing victim in the past and I was at the lowest level of confidence possible for quite some time, causing depressions. When I finally managed to get out of that shell, before I knew it I was on the opposite side. Straight on the road to an alpha. With the speed of light.
My confidence comes:
50% from my (positive) experience as a leading alpha (leading groups) and other positive experience, that’s all subconscious
10% from the way I look (if I look bad at a day I actually have problems establishing solid eye contact and I’m not feeling so comfortable, making it hard to just flirt relaxed)
40% NLP. Rooted affirmations, mindsets I set up over months and some over years. When I fall into a mindset like “I can’t do this”, “I’m not sexy” etc I counter with simple opposite lines like “I can do anything”, “I’m sexy”. Thanks to lots of NLP this happens automatically, before I even register a self-criticism thought I already have the counter line in mind. Sometimes I have to counter “manually”, I guess it has to do with how in the present I am and if I am sleepy. This doesn’t fix everything but it’s a powerful tool.
Open for more questions if needed.
PS: If I’m at 100% confidence, then IG and A314 and Ammo can enhance it to 110%.
NLP works but I find if you have to say to your self "I can do this " or “i’m sexy” in the middle of a thought it will just mess up your presentation.. I find when I try to think things to make them ok i mess up.
I have found a fantastic site on the internet that uses a russian technique for implanting empowering statements and removing negative belief roots in the causes of many illness social phobia to be one of them.
I find they do work and this contributes to my newfound social confidence by 30-40 %, 30 % is status (new car, expensive clothes, nice jacket , career etc), and the other 20 % or so is my physical condition (trying to get to peak shape for summer). Mones I say offer 20% improvement.. i wouldn’t say 10%.. I have literally seem magic unfold with p75 and in combos with IS IO IH etc.. In a sense they kicks me up to 100% or more.
Had I had all these things in my 20’s I’d say I would have it made.. Being around colleges, work environmensts etc where you can meet so many people. But I way past that age and its harder and harder to meet people.
Cold approaches dont’ work as well. I find even if you get #'s women flake all the time. Its because they forget about you they meet so many other people in their lives on a daily basis in college or work.
This is a mone forum so I’m not going to go into too much detail on NLP.. but look up Bulgarian psychotherapist Dr. Georgi Lozanov and you’ll find more info on what I’m learning from.
Dsouza, I remove the negative belief roots through deep meditations and lucid dreams. It doesn’t get fixed easily and usually takes me months or years. But you get a more or less clear answer on what the root is. Have you tried this?
I can’t share your negative experience with NLP, if you have to stop the presentation or slow it down only to counter a self criticism thought then you’re doing something wrong I think. The thoughts usually come all the time, even during presentation, so if there’s a quick response from your brain as answer to self criticism you usually won’t notice it. You can use the affirmations a few dozen times before the presentation and then usually you won’t have to manually repeat them.
If you say “I can do this” whenever you feel stress it’s probably not an anchor for good emotions anymore.
In my experience the easiest way to create good anchors is to do it together with other people. One way is practice: You help the other person, and then they help you.
I have been listening to alot of Anthony Robbins but not his get the edge product yet
Maybe he subliminally influenced me? haha
If we look back to some of my very first posts, I had been out of the dating game for a while, had put on alot of weight, and was looking to get abit of an edge for when I get back into the game. So you could say, I wanted an “Edge” or advantage for myself
Pheromones would at least make my re-entry back into the dating game a pleasant experience, and even though I’m still pretty fat, super-hot women still seem to be very interested in me, which is good, must be my personality
