My starbucks barista loves me no more?

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It was love at the first sight… I was wearing pherlure. She just went nuts on my hair, started playing with it (a little less than a year ago).

After that whenever I go there she’d give me free drinks! One time I went in and she was not on duty, she talks to her guy friend next to her (who works there too)..then she introduces me as her new best friend..they ask me to sit with them. He asked me if I wanted a drink, I said yeah I’ll go order..he said no I’ll make it for you..he went and brought me a nice venti iced tea. Then they took me with them to a bar to listen to live music. I wasn’t really sure of her intentions as she was showing interest in the same time calling me her best friend (and we don’t know much about each other).. I guess she was unsure if I would respond positively to her. So we developed this slight buddy relation, I mean we never hang out outside of starbucks, we don’t have deep conversations or know much about each others lives.. I just love her! an unconditional non-sexual love, I could think naughty about her if I want but I usually don’t. She is the most adorable thing on earth, when you see her brewing that coffee and working like a honey bee. She’s the cutest/friendliest/ most energetic star bucks barista I’ve ever seen. Looking at her brings a big smile to my heart. I brought her a big stuffed animal, a camel to show her my appreciation.

But recently things changed, she doesn’t open up to me anymore.. I don’t know if its the pheromones I’ve been wearing..

She’s been exposed so far to pretty much everything: turn up the heat, AMMO, Instant Female Magic, A314.. I think A314 is the one that killed it.. i noticed when I wore turn up the heat that night, it put a blush on her cheeks for the few seconds we said hi, AMMO made her shyer and do that interest showing then take away- look away type of thing that some girls do.. A314 gave me that vibe that there is a GAP between us, she just stepped away.. I mean she’ll respond to my hi and hello but dry, not rude dry.. like not comfortable hi.. girls whom I met after I started using pheromones from androtics are cool with me, I’m treated different than before I started using products but its all cool, its positive.. I miss my starbucks fairy though :frowning:

there’s another girl at starbucks who also gets SUPER intimidated, especially that she’s not so good at making the drinks and when I give her comments or ask for something different she gets nervous in a weird way, it makes me uncomfortable.. I’m like trying to say “relax!, its just a frap!” and she’d call me “Sir” when she gives me the drink although we know each other.. I told her not to call me that, she said she says it to everyone..

the other baristas are cool with me, guys and girls new and familiar..

I miss my starbucks fairy :frowning:
*and the free drinks :stuck_out_tongue:

MX271 I'm Just Stunned!
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you said you don’t know her too well, so you don’t think it could be something going on in her life or something?

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Or maybe the stuffed animal (too early)??

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I’ve only tried MX sprays but I believe this reaction isn’t rare with A314 and its offspring. She’s working at Starbucks (not a high prestige job) and you are sending off a vibe she is beneath you, between your actions and your pheromones. Unless you counter that with alot of actions, body language, and tone of voice on your part, that’s what she will believe. I call this the “General Zod effect”- you look attractive but people are afraid to get too close to you because you look powerful. I think you have to be extra gracious or it can turn off alot of people. Also, I believe Instant Openness would help buffer that effect. As near as I can tell, A314 mixes don’t have much androstenol, which is important for approachability.

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ASK HER!!!

I doubt that a one time exposure to A314 caused her to permanantly stop opening up to you, considering that she had gotten to know you, at least somewhat, without the A314.

I’m thinking that giving her the stuffed animal may have made her a bit uncomfortable, or possible even made her see you as a bit wimpy. (No offense intended, just a making an observation of what I see as a possibility)

But again, ask her why she hasn’t been as open or friendly with you, and listen to not only what she says, but how she says it and what her body language is saying. If the distance has anything to do with the stuffed animal, just tell her that was meant only to show your appreciation for the free drinks.

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I think u waited too long and now you are in a friendship zone. Now she thinks of you as a friend. You bsically blew it my man.
And what the heck were u thinking giving her stuff animal when you havnt even asked her out yet.

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I gave her the animal like…more than 3 or 4 months ago! I don’t think it has anything to do with RECENT two weeks changes..

and I wear A314 everyday now..

and I’m not romantically interested in her (for you guys who say you blew it or friendship zone, I chose to be friends.. If I wanted more she would’ve known it at first contact)

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Talk to her!!!

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i was actually going to say this at first…

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Is her sudden withdrawl at all around the same time that you started wearing A314 around her? How much A314 are you wearing? If it started happening around the time you started wearing A314, I think it’s safe to say that the A314 is what is creating the distance. Try buffering it with Instant Honesty and/or Instant Shine. Maybe a touch of p74 and Instant Openness (really just the a-nol to lighten up the Honesty a touch, I’d say ~2.5:1 IH:IO)