Need help with a man I've dated 2 months on Instant Sexiness B and Instant Openness

[deliah49]

Hello everyone! I am new to writing in the forum.But have read plenty over the past year.Anyway I need some Help if POSSIBLE from all of you…I met a nice man about 2 months ago all was going really well,on our first date I did not ware any type of Pheromones or perfumes.I wanted to start off this date clean and fresh and start slowly using Pheromones.I have no store bought perfumes at the time.Anyway I used ~Instant Sexiness B 1x and a mild amount at all times and some Instant Openness 1x 1.1 up until the 9th of October because this man kept bringing up that he Loved the perfume Obssesion…so I bought a small bottle from Walmart and tried it that weekend and he loved it.I did’nt use any of the pheromones at all with it.Then monday he did a complete back off on me. In my thoughts I think that this perfume he likes sooooo much brought up sum bad thoughts from past relationships that have failed.He had mentioned that he would buy this perfume for them…I do not want to ware it ever again unless you all have sum good advise…I am confussed now about the situation so give me your thoughts Thanks for reading and for your Help in advance. ~Deliah~

[1Ev1lkitty]

Then monday he did a complete back off on me. In my thoughts I think that this perfume he likes sooooo much brought up sum bad thoughts from past relationships that have failed.He had mentioned that he would buy this perfume for them.

I’m not sure I understand the sequence of things here. If you are dating someone and expecting closeness and warmth and they are backing off as you put it, try being more direct with them in asking what put him off. It may be the Obsession or it could be something else that you are not aware of.
Personally, if I were in a situation where a man mentions a favorite perfume that he likes for his lady to wear, if would inquire (ask) him further. What does it remind you of? What about it do you like? etc? The moment I hear an affiliation with a previous woman or relationship, I would introduce my favorite fragrance. I believe that it’s good to have your own signature.

[Sillykitty]

No no no, do NOT change yourself because someone else wants you to. Perhaps he likes that perfume, but remember, he was attracted to the you that he first met. When you try to become what he “thinks” he wants you to be, he will respect you less, even if he doesn’t consciously realize it himself. If he likes that perfume so much, he can wear it himself, lol.

[Kelsey]

I agree with deliah. When you start of a relationship like that then they become aware that they can change you and mold you into what they want and after that it never ends.

What that confuses me is the same perfume that he used to buy for these women that he might be having a bad reaction about now he liked at start.

I suggest you stop wearing that perfume and get your own signature scent as the others suggested.

Don’t be afraid to ask him why he is becoming distant and as a woman you should never be afraid to leave a guy or that a guy leaves you because at that point desperation will set in and once they sense that they start acting up or think they can do what they want and get away with it cuz you don’t want to or can’t leave.

I don’t like playing games personally but I think men play more games then women and we need to guard ourselves against the tricks.

Be you and do what you need to do in terms of asking him what the deal is but make sure you give him that vibe that you are asking because you would love to continue with dating him but at the same time you don’t have time and will move on.

If you have instant sexiness/a I suggest you wear that with some instant honesty or cttm 2.

Instant sexiness/a makes you feel confident and sometimes you need to give off that vibe so the guy can get over himself and realize that he is dealing with a woman who is ready for action.

Cttm 2 I love because it’s just perfect in intimate situations. You get them talking and at the same time to open up and I have had some really good make up and intimate sessions with these it was like he was reading my mind and giving me what I want for the first time.

I spoke to John and he did release some of the P78 series. I haven’t tested all of them but MX341 has become a favorite of mine because it makes me feel pretty and comfortable with who I am.

[John_Sebastian]

The sense of smell is the strongest memory recall of the entire sensory system.

I agree that you should stick with your favorite scent, also remember that our neroli fragrance goes with everything (so far).

From a mens perspective I can tell you that sometimes a girl will pass by wearing a familiar perfume and we do notice. Maybe more than most men care to admit.

[deliah49]

@Sillykitty

No no no, do NOT change yourself because someone else wants you to. Perhaps he likes that perfume, but remember, he was attracted to the you that he first met. When you try to become what he “thinks” he wants you to be, he will respect you less, even if he doesn’t consciously realize it himself. If he likes that perfume so much, he can wear it himself, lol.

Thanks I was thinking the same thing !!!

[deliah49]

@kelsey

I agree with deliah. When you start of a relationship like that then they become aware that they can change you and mold you into what they want and after that it never ends.

What that confuses me is the same perfume that he used to buy for these women that he might be having a bad reaction about now he liked at start.

I suggest you stop wearing that perfume and get your own signature scent as the others suggested.

Don’t be afraid to ask him why he is becoming distant and as a woman you should never be afraid to leave a guy or that a guy leaves you because at that point desperation will set in and once they sense that they start acting up or think they can do what they want and get away with it cuz you don’t want to or can’t leave.

I don’t like playing games personally but I think men play more games then women and we need to guard ourselves against the tricks.

Be you and do what you need to do in terms of asking him what the deal is but make sure you give him that vibe that you are asking because you would love to continue with dating him but at the same time you don’t have time and will move on.

If you have instant sexiness/a I suggest you wear that with some instant honesty or cttm 2.

Instant sexiness/a makes you feel confident and sometimes you need to give off that vibe so the guy can get over himself and realize that he is dealing with a woman who is ready for action.

Cttm 2 I love because it’s just perfect in intimate situations. You get them talking and at the same time to open up and I have had some really good make up and intimate sessions with these it was like he was reading my mind and giving me what I want for the first time.

I spoke to John and he did release some of the P78 series. I haven’t tested all of them but MX341 has become a favorite of mine because it makes me feel pretty and comfortable with who I am.

Thanks for your input!!!

[1Alpha]

@John_Sebastian

The sense of smell is the strongest memory recall of the entire sensory system.

I agree that you should stick with your favorite scent, also remember that our neroli fragrance goes with everything (so far).

From a mens perspective I can tell you that sometimes a girl will pass by wearing a familiar perfume and we do notice. Maybe more than most men care to admit.

I agree with this statement as well! I met a good looking client at work some years back and she was wearing a perfume, which I don’t know the name of, but as soon as I had a whiff, MAN, it transported me back to a high school girl that I had a crush on! I swear she wore the same scent!!!

I ‘knew’ that they weren’t the same woman, BUT, I would blush and be somewhat flustered when I spoke with her! She may have thought it was just her looks, but for me, it was that perfume that brought back those feelings gushing back!!! Now, even if you ‘know’ of the effects of scents, we can’t handle it, you can just imagine if they control you subconsciously. He can say whatever he wants about Obsession, he likes it, doesn’t associate it with anyone…bah, humbug!!!
If I was wearing MY mones, I may have been able to cope.

Sillykitty comments also get a nod from me, from a guy’s POV!

Wanted to share that with you!

[MangoMartini]

@John_Sebastian

The sense of smell is the strongest memory recall of the entire sensory system.

I agree that you should stick with your favorite scent, also remember that our neroli fragrance goes with everything (so far).

From a mens perspective I can tell you that sometimes a girl will pass by wearing a familiar perfume and we do notice. Maybe more than most men care to admit.

So unbelievably true! I can recognize certain colognes in an instant because I associate the scent with a particular guy. I’ll walk by the men’s cologne section in Sephora and my mind goes like this: sniff sniff - smells like X - it’s D&G Light Blue for Men

[tisha23]

The sense of smell is the strongest memory trigger there is. Even if it brings back bad memories though this doesn’t mean it repels people. This is why women growing up in abusive households tend to end up with abusive mates even though consciously they say they will never fall into the same situation as their parents. The smell of familiarity even when negative can attract.

I would still stick to your own scent preferences. Never change who you or your likes and dislikes for someone else even with something like scent unless of course you love the scent as well. If you do eventually you lose you or are trapped being something your not.

Tisha

[deliah49]

@kelsey

I agree with deliah. When you start of a relationship like that then they become aware that they can change you and mold you into what they want and after that it never ends.

What that confuses me is the same perfume that he used to buy for these women that he might be having a bad reaction about now he liked at start.

I suggest you stop wearing that perfume and get your own signature scent as the others suggested.

Don’t be afraid to ask him why he is becoming distant and as a woman you should never be afraid to leave a guy or that a guy leaves you because at that point desperation will set in and once they sense that they start acting up or think they can do what they want and get away with it cuz you don’t want to or can’t leave.

I don’t like playing games personally but I think men play more games then women and we need to guard ourselves against the tricks.

Be you and do what you need to do in terms of asking him what the deal is but make sure you give him that vibe that you are asking because you would love to continue with dating him but at the same time you don’t have time and will move on.

If you have instant sexiness/a I suggest you wear that with some instant honesty or cttm 2.

Instant sexiness/a makes you feel confident and sometimes you need to give off that vibe so the guy can get over himself and realize that he is dealing with a woman who is ready for action.

Cttm 2 I love because it’s just perfect in intimate situations. You get them talking and at the same time to open up and I have had some really good make up and intimate sessions with these it was like he was reading my mind and giving me what I want for the first time.

I spoke to John and he did release some of the P78 series. I haven’t tested all of them but MX341 has become a favorite of mine because it makes me feel pretty and comfortable with who I am.

Thank you for your input it helps alot!!!

[deliah49]

@John_Sebastian

The sense of smell is the strongest memory recall of the entire sensory system.

I agree that you should stick with your favorite scent, also remember that our neroli fragrance goes with everything (so far).

From a mens perspective I can tell you that sometimes a girl will pass by wearing a familiar perfume and we do notice. Maybe more than most men care to admit.

Thank you!!

[deliah49]

@tisha23

The sense of smell is the strongest memory trigger there is. Even if it brings back bad memories though this doesn’t mean it repels people. This is why women growing up in abusive households tend to end up with abusive mates even though consciously they say they will never fall into the same situation as their parents. The smell of familiarity even when negative can attract.

I would still stick to your own scent preferences. Never change who you or your likes and dislikes for someone else even with something like scent unless of course you love the scent as well. If you do eventually you lose you or are trapped being something your not.

Tisha

Thank you Trish you are so right.I had planned on not ever waring it again.Now to get that right mix of all the choices of Pheromones.

[deliah49]

Thank you all for your input!!! I did see a difference in him when I put the instant sexiness on again.~Almost out of it though~