Hey there atouch! Welcome to the forum! The togo’s are great for trying out how the products work!
I’ve been married many years and found that, in my wife’s case, socials like INSTANT SHINE are MUCH better than TUTH or IJ… Some extra IS and a bit of AMMO are all it takes for her!!!
I’d suggest you eventually get the 2x strength of IS and 2x strength of IH. These are a happy and closeness and at ease to talk to you combo vibe.
For work, IG or A314 spray would be good. If you want to get them to feel like they can open up to you as well, you can also layer your IH and make it a work combo!
Here are a couple of good threads you should look at: