I am a 34 year old, married, stay-at-home mother of three living in San Diego, CA. I’m not sure why I’m here yet…curiosity I suppose. I wouldn’t mind enhancing my relationship with my husband, we are so busy that we have little time to talk - it would be nice to have deeper conversations when we get a chance to be together.
I guess I would also just like to see the effects of this stuff in general. Does it really work? Will it help me achieve my pre-child-overload charisma again? Is it like an ego-boost in a bottle? And how much of it is psychosomatic? What effect does it have on kids…will it help with my most difficult child? I have hundreds of questions like those!
Instant honesty is well liked by many members of this forums who are currently in a relationship! IT really gives the opportunity for deeper conversations, just the way you like them.
Most product will still affect kids much too some extend, making them talk more (instant openness and instant honesty) and making them happy (instant shine). But dont use too much androstenone (turn up the heat) around them, since it can annoy and scare them.
You have some great questions that the Girls on the forum would be more then willing to help you out with.
Yes I believe Pheromones do work in conveying deep primal emotions bury deep in each and everyone of us like when we get arouse without knowing the reason why Just like human basic instincts Pheromones seem to activate and invoke the most primal nature of us. For example you smell a rose and it brings memory of romance its deeply imbeded in us soo we feel happy and romantic with the thoughts that elude us from smelling a rose. Pheromones are similar but a little bit different it invokes certain feelings and emotions that are deep within us.
I believe it will, Personally using Instant Shine it’s added charisma and confidence to myself even if the self effect is not the desired outcome the effect you might have on your prospective target might be worthwhile, for example if they feel at ease and happy around you and want to be near dont you think in return you would be more of a happier person in that situation but usually pheromones works on yourself and the target, win win situation.
yes exactly it’s a great ego boost but wearing Pheromones is not a magical answer to every pressing issue in life it will give you a boost and edge but you must convey your emotions and personality to suit the need of the desired situation and outcome, If something was to make you feel sexy you must portray at least that sexiness in yourself as in interpersonal skills and your own body language to conveyed to the other person what you want them to see in yourself, pheromones will definitely give you an advantage but you do and will have to put some effort along the way to get the desired effect.
I pass on this one
Im going to quote someone famous on our forums with difficult children his name is Madison Tate you can read his Journal in the mens forum funny little guy who speaks of himself in the 3rd person very gifted I must say in a special way .
“Just Shine the little darling and all is peachy” meaning istant shine does wonders for children especially bratty disgruntled loud mouths they just seem to instantly by magic become confused by the amount of happy emotions they are overcomed by.
Personally I wouldn’t use it on kids though as I really don’t have personal experience with kids Just my opinion but many users have reported positive results with Instant Shine on your liitle love ones who go gaga sometimes when they dont get their way.
Hope this helps and wellcome to the forum the girls on the forum will have more in-depth answers for you as Im just a sensitive guy trying to fit in LOL
I don’t get the opportunity to stop by and welcome new members anymore with my busy schedule. I think you’ll find that you are amongst one of the most open and valuable forum on the web.
I saw your title and as it happens I’m currently right here in San Diego doing some work. So far it’s pretty freaking cool place. Been here before, but so much cooler this time around.
Who knows what happened last night, but I can tell you it was very “FUN.”
Sure I got asked to leave the bar by security but so did everyone else I talked to today. Sure I had a HUGE hangover this morning, but hey it was all worth it.
Do pheromones work? You bet they do. I am living proof guys and girls. I do have a charming way about me that everyone loves.
Here’s a way to look at it:
No pheromones; toast with butter (good but could use some magic)
Pheromones; Toast with melted butter and fresh jam (Holy wow thats tasty)
Oh and no I wont tell anyone about the girl at the bar. Jazzy and April tried to force me to tell last night, but not even the torture session they put me through could get me to share my story and photos.
Through a simple buttered toast analogy you have made even clearer to me the relationship that pheros have to people, good show ol’chap!
And Greetings InnateEnigma, I hope you find everything you are looking for, and by that I mean I guarantee it!
Like you will be told many many times, a great place to start would be reading some if not all of the stickies in the sections that grace this forum. They range from technical to really down to earth. You will never cease to learn something, even if you read the same one time and time again.
So again welcome, and let thine browsing commence, and in he spirit of Knowledge.
"There are four kinds of people, three of which are to be avoided and the fourth cultivated: those who don’t know that they don’t know; those who know that they don’t know; those who don’t know that they know; and those who know that they know. "
Wow - thanks to all for the great responses and info.!! This forum really is awesome. I would love to leave a long thank you to each of you…but the littlest evil one is refusing bed-time and duty calls, so I have to keep it short.
So…thanks to all for the info - you know you rock!
Thanks Mockingbird for the compliment on the pic…I love those!
Thanks Jasx69 for your time and in-depth info - do you win all the girls over with that sensitive guy stuff?
Thanks to SteveO for making me feel special! Even if it is just my city that drew you in my direction!
And BigIrish - thanks for the starting pointers…I’m on my way to read as soon as little leach goes to sleep .
I was going to send you a thank you for the awesome auto message when I first signed in…so imagine my surprise when you posted on my welcome post! The auto message was awesome and very welcoming. It raised my interest before I even checked out the forums.
I hope you are enjoying your stay in San Diego - it doesn’t get any better then this! How long are you here for?
Yes it works but its not like alot of other pheromone sites hype it up to be. Alot of people have to high expectations because of this and have trouble with pheromones. They end up missing the true benefits that comes with using them. If you havent already read this link.
Mones are great for enhancing your relationship. I suggest for a deeper more intimate feeling and more conversation you try out IH. I would up the dosage to 2X. This will save you money in the long run because you will need less sprays.
It will help but wont do it all for you.
It can be, some pheromones do up your confidence and your ego does get a boost when people are paying attention more.
That depends on your personality really. You seem level headed and slightly skeptical but open minded so I think in your case very little of it would be really. After you begin to see some repeated hits and reactions you know when its a real reaction or just something your causing by your own actions. But there will be times when someone will behave a certain way and you think its the pheromones but are unsure.
I have kids, I am sure mine are much older then yours though. 20 and 14 both boys they were much younger when I started using pheromones though. Both of them have always reacted very well to pheromones. As far as it helping with a difficult child it depends on why he/she is difficult. It wont change them but it can effect there moods. Make them calmer, less cranky, More social. Some can make them clingy. The alpha ones can convey you mean business when you say something. The only ones I would really be careful using around them are the strong sexual male pheromones like TUTH or Raw Power. Those can make them go either way. Some kids fall in love and some get nervous and aggitated by a strong alpha presence.
I suggest starting out with the basics. Instant sexiness A is great. It attracts attention, gives off a strong confident sexy vibe.
I also suggest IH as I mentioned above and Ishine.
Ishine is warm charismatic youthful fun and it draws people to you. Great around cranky people to. My boss turns from a devil into a giggling mass of happiness when exposed to it.
If you have any questions just ask.
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Thanks for all the great info. Tisha. I’m definitely not looking for anything to do it all for me, but a little help sounds great!
I’m looking forward to taking advantage of IH as soon as my husband is around again! One at a time…but throwing in something a little hotter sounds interesting too!
My kids are 3, 5, and 9 – the 3 year old is the one I need help with. She is headstrong, stubborn, bossy, and a control freak (even above the normal 3 year old!), and all of the techniques that worked with the other kids, plus a load of new ones I’ve tried, just don’t help to calm her. She is very prone to screaming tantrums and hitting when things don’t go exactly her way. On the flip side, there are times when she is sweet and able to compromise and she is very enjoyable to be around…even helpful. I’m hoping maybe IS will help access that mood a little more often. She and I also just butt heads a lot lately because I am so irritated with the prolonged meanness she displays. Maybe if we are both exposed to IS it will help lower the tension a bit?
I am concerned a little about the effect on my 5 year old, who is already very docile, sweet, and happy. He is also prone to being emotionally overwhelmed though…too much of ANY emotion will send him into a tailspin. I guess we’ll see. I’m excited to start trying stuff out!
I would love to hear any information from people who have exposed younger kids. I don’t want to take any chances on screwing with their natural chemistry or causing any harm.
I grew up with lot’s of Sisters go figure soo being beaten up constantly by my eldest sister can make you turn out that way LOL just kidding god knows I got away with pulling their hair out and frying their Barbies in the Microwave sweet memories.
Your kids sound adorable from what you wrote from an outsiders perspective they just sound cute and adorable especially the way you describe them , headstrong, docile, bossy, control freak, hitting well maybe not soo much hitting but I dont really remember a day when I was young that I wasnt all those things , but your a parent soo it might be a different perspective from your viewpoint especially the influence of your middle child.
I hope pheromones help you out with your little Angels.
Ciao “J”
P.S Love the pic very Angelina Jolie Lips yum sorry soo not PC to hit on a beautiful Mom.
Hey J - thanks again. It’s hard to tell weather I likes the compliments on how my kids sound or the Angelina Jolie comment better…after all, I love my kids the best - but if ever I chose to switch sides, Angelina would be my first target!
My kids are adorable if I must say so myself, but even I have to admit that the third one is just pure evil sometimes (meant in the best way possible, of course!) My older two are so well behaved, that - unlike most youngest - they won’t hit her or push her around; I’ve even given them the go-ahead to retaliate if nothing else works, and they still won’t. The littlest is really just spoiled rotten - the older two always pampered her and coddled her and now she thinks she’s the boss of the house. She even tells people like her teachers and my friends that!
I’m on my own with them most of every week, and I’m fed up - which doesn’t help. Hopefully a little boost of Shine will!
Thanks again for the cool response - I’m really starting to love this forum! I feel a new addiction arising!!!
I always say that to, I tell my husband she is the only women I would cross over for LOL
I am going to tell you what my mom told me. Its a stage and “this to shall pass” It dosnt make it any easier though
Everytime the boys would go through a stage my mom and the doctor would say “this to shall pass” and “I will miss it” . Keep telling yourself that when your ready to pull your hair out. I never believed I would miss it but I do.
You can try a few little tricks but you may have tried them already.
When my son was 3 he got mad at me for something. I dont remember what but it was one of his few tantrums he had. Well he informed me he hated me and was running away more then once so I said ok. I got his coat and hat and threw some cloths in a bag. Handed it to him and walked him to the door. He made it as far as the light post. I was sweating bullets. Then he turned around and ran back crying. Never had a tantrum after that. I told him I was so glad he came back and that I loved him and would have missed him so much of course He is 20 now and I didnt scar him for life. He still remembers it though LOL Sometimes you have to be devious to get your point across.
If she wants to be the boss let her be the boss. Tell her what the boss has to do though. Ask her to make dinner, clean the bathroom, Hand her the bills and say to her your the boss you have to pay these. She will change her tune pretty quick and be begging for you to be boss.
My boys would fight quite a bit despite there age difference. Will was 6 when I had Brian and he coddled him at first but as they got older they would fight more. Brian of course being more spoiled would be the hitter. Will wouldnt hit back either. Putting them in there room dosnt help because there room has stuff in it. Get a big garbage bag and put all there stuff in there. Take stuff away. Now that works . Remember your bigger then her you can do it LOL . I hide them (the bags not the kids LOL) in the basement and they would not get anything back until they learned to behave. They would have a bed and a night stand in there rooms thats it. Drove me insane the first few times yelling “can I come out now” You have to actually do it though. Once they know you will follow through they start to listen more when you say “knock it off”
I also suggest since your alone with them all week that you have some “you time” time when you get to not be with them and your hubby has to watch them. I did once a week and let me tell you it saved my life. I would sometimes just go over my sisters house and use her bathroom to take a long hot bath without someone knocking on the door. Your still you, you dont stop being a person when you become a mommy.
Ishine is powerful but I never tested to see if it could stop a tantrum. They wont effect the kids badly but I dont know if they can make the terrible 3’s totally better either. maybe just easier to tolerate. It will be interesting to find out.
Hey another San Diegan!! Cool, even though I live near Pine Valley, I work in the college area and grew up in El Cajon.
Tell SteveO that the weather is unusually cool, and will be in the 80’s by the end of the week.
Welcome to the Forum, you’ll like it here, lots of helpful people, as you’ve found out. Another lucky thing is, when you decide what to order, if you order early enough in the day, you’ll get your stuff the next day, they ship from L.A.
Hey Tisha - if you ever get hold of Angelina, let me know!!
It’s really funny that you told the story of your son running away! My husband and I tried that with the two youngest who decided they wanted to run away together. Unfortunately…together they were just too brave!
I will try the other techniques, letting her be boss should be interesting!
Its funny you tell the running away story, both Tish and Enigma.
I remember when I was 5 I was angry at my mom for a reason only a 5 year old could be mad at her for… I wanted to be taller and it was her fault that I wasn’t. So I did the run away thing and of course made it 10 feet and ran back. That was the first time
I got her back tho. I pretended to do it again, but I hit under the porch for 10 minutes. She got super super scared and worried, then I popped out and surprised her! I thought it was a great joke…she didn’t…
My mom also did the boss thing on me, again, totally worked. Doesn’t matter what the age Got in a fight with my dad a year ago because as the ever powerful 16 year old I know everything. Long story short, now I pay for my cellphone, insurance and gas for my car (when it works) and all my entertainment, but I sure as hell respect how much it sucks sometimes to be an adult now.
Thats just my perspective as a 4 year old in a teens body. Sounds like you have two great boys tho, congratulations.
