Hello, I’m a 21 year old guy who currently resides in Michigan.
I’m a college student and I’m studying theater. And yes I know this is a horrible career choice, I’m just hopping to not end up serving coffee for the rest of my life. In any case a cursory glance at me and most people would assume I’m just your average run of the mill dick who likes to put people down just for fun. While I do tend to be a bit abrasive, as any of my close friends could tell you, nothing is really further from the truth.
I have a bit of a domineering personality, in a crowd I often stand out. I’m loud and some would say obnoxious. I’m narcissistic despite being aware of my own shortcomings. I’m a very noticeable person, to say the least. However, I do have a bit of a insecurity in that I want people to like me. I mean really like me. So, knowing that I’m an abrasive person, If I’m in a strange situation where I really care what people think about me I sort of clam up. Cause I mean no one likes an asshole, and I’m an asshole. It’s a bit of a catch 22. So for the most part I try, and succeed, not to care what people think about me. That way I don’t calm up and just sort of go on living as an jerk and people can like me or not, it’s up to them.
The obvious flaw in this strategy of social interaction on my part is with girls who I really like. Because if I really like them, I care what they think. I have huge problems talking to, not necessarily attractive girls (though that is often the case), but girls who just “do it” for me. So to speak.
So basically I’m here because I need something that either makes it easier to talk to (or get them to talk to me) the special girls, the ones who really make an impression on me. Because all’s i really need help with is the initiating, after that I’m golden. I’m sick of settling for what I consider to be second best because I just can’t relax around the 1st.
I have a couple of ideas that just might help your situation.
The first is Instant Openness, which will help with approach anxiety. Instant Openness will relax you and those around you, everyone will be friendlier and conversation will flow more easily.
To add depth and intimacy to conversations, use Instant Honesty. Others will feel more copmfortable around you and will be more likely to trust you and open up to you. Instant Honesty is also great for creating and strengthening emotional bonds of all kinds.
I also think you should try Instant Gentleman, it will give you a more confident, trustworthy air,and might help to counteract some of your natural abrasiveness.
I hope this helps, and just ask if you have any questions!
Oh my god…reading your info was like reading my own idea of myself when I was in college doing theater…I mean word for word man. I’m serious…you have the exact same problems I had to work thru the last 15 years. crazy.
I studied Theater 4 years,then move here to NYC and have been working on and off in Equity Shows and National Tours for 9 years a working pro.. but still you’re always gonna have a day job until you strike it rich! So find something you love while you at it! IMHO
Really? That’s pretty awesome! So if I may be so bold, why NY? I mean the whole location thing is a pretty overbearing choice in my life that I have yet to make. It’s like LA, NY, and Chicago for Comedy. Or recently I’ve heard that Michigan is on the up, but I’ve lived here for ever and am a bit sick of the scenery so that option isn’t too serious atm.
If I were you, I’d get IO, IH, IG & IS Ammo… but i digress…
I agree with Silly Kitty…
Seriously, I do understand being abrasive because of insecurity, I was EXACTLY LIKE THAT all years of college ..so I think you need to make a conscious effort to chill out!
IG & IS will help with that for sure.
But if you’re like I was in college, I was always the asshole in theater, but the most successful too. I always got the leads and at the after party, somehow I was still obnoxious Felt I needed to show off, to get girls to like me.
So I say you need to chill and “allow yourself” to exude that real confidence I know you have inside you.
IG & IH & IS …im my humble opinion might help you give off a signal of a tcool calm confident dude a women can trust…that way you don’t have to act out so much to prove that you are…because mones give out the signal…you have to do the rest.
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So find something you love while you at it! IMHO
but i digress…