I’m going to an early 4th of July party with my new girlfriend tomorrow. Her entire family will be there. She has a rockstar family filled with (multiple) valedictorians, doctors, lawyers, 3.9+GPA students, and community leaders. I feel a bit outclassed. I whole-heartedly believe that I am the man but this is a little ridiculous.
I’m either going to go with 3 shots of MX297 or a the following mix:
3 drops A314 - behind ears, neck, wrists, jawline
2 shot 1x IO (Neck)
2 shots 2x Instant Shine (Face / Hair)
I will certainly be dressed well (this is an informal party, not too well) and I’ll be on my social A-game. I plan on talking to as many people as possible and leave conversations with people laughing or smiling. That way I leave a positive impression on as many of her relatives as possible. I am mostly asking for pheromone recommendations but feel free to give whatever advice you feel is appropriate. Everything I own is in my sig.
Can’t go wrong with A314. Seeing how it basically is respect and Alpha in a bottle. A314 and mx297 are a good combo from what I have read. MX297 is like Mr. Right and Mx301 is like Mr Right now. MX297 is sorta of social also and it gives off that boyfriend and trust vibe. IS is always good too. Idk bout IH haven’t used it yet
I should have been more specific concerning my goals. I want her family to like me and feel that I am worthy to be her boyfriend. The reason that I was considering A314 was due to the fact that it is the trust/power/respect juice. Instant Shine makes me feel awesome and IO would get everyone chatty toward me. I felt that specifically that combination would be a winner. I have also had phenomenal results with MX297 and I could see that being a success for the evening as well.
I was hoping for suggestions for different combinations and the reasoning on why such a combination may be better than the one I am currently considering.
Academical and career acheivements doesn’t automatically equal high class. Look at Washington. A314 would definitely be the base mix, your instant shine is solid so the only thing I would say is intstant honesty, it’ll promote deeper conversations to go well with your alpha trust and respect pheromone, this mix A314 is and ih I’ve used at work dealing with high net worth people and have had amazing results. This also leaaves more of a lasting impression, it’ll help avoid congative dissonance with them trusting you first. Even if they learn you’re a gum cleaner for the bus company, their impressions of you will almost all the time trump out any negative connotations associated with “less than par”
Thanks P51, I’ll replace IO with IH. I was wrestling with that idea in my head but I thought I wouldn’t want anybody giving me uncomfortable information on our first encounter. However, I stand a better chance of creating a social bond or two with the IH. If I had A314 Social Bonding Edition, this would definitely be the time to take it for a test run.
I’m sure the armani suit is a joke but this is a 4th of July party. Anything more than a polo is overkill.
Your persona, social status and assets define your class. However, those things often go hand in hand with education and achievement. Not too many people achieve great success without having it going on at several levels.
Hey he’s only 24 and on the way up. It takes decades to succeed as a lawyer, doctor, community leader, etc., so I wouldn’t sweat it much unless you were a lot older and didn’t do jack with your life.
The family is looking to see if you would be a good provider. Academics and job typically show drive and ambition. They’re all family and should have the same social values. If she went out with you, there there has to be something there that sparked interest.
Unless, you are from a high-status/ prominent family, super rich, hold a high powerful position, having a degree from a top school carries a significant weight in this society. It sucks, but people form much pre-conceived notions about other based on a little things like that. Also, any average family, let alone those that put emphasis on education, knows that Harvard is the king.
Why do people look up to celebrities and atheletes as “High Status?” It is because they are freaking rich? If they don’t earn as much as now, they wouldn’t garner that much attention and respect.
For normal people, the bragging rights usually come from what undergrad they went and graduated from, unless you have a PhD or MD or soemthing. It sucks, but that is just how people are; they just judge you like that. I am pretty sure, even if the OP’s family wasn’t that well off or “high class”, if he has a bachelor from Harvard, his gf’s family would look very highly upon him. I bet even most of his of girl friend’s family didn’t even attend an Ivy school. The Harvard degree would look better than even 500 drops of A314, $10,000 latest Armani, or even driving Ferrati, at least in his case.
I disagree with the idea that people look up to celebrities simply because they’re rich. In fact I think they get rich because of their ability to get people to look up to them. They do that by being good at what they do, and arguably the best at what they do. I never had many conversations about Kobe’s contract and income, but I’ve had plenty about his skill, scoring record and the win/loss record of his team.
If you want to impress the family, don’t try to hide what you are. Think about what drives you, what your passion and calling is and talk freely and openly about it when questioned. If these are people of any real merit, then your ambition and enthusiasm alone should impress them.
If not, don’t be too concerned about it. The friend/jerk rules apply here as well. What I mean is most guys have been interested in a girl that only wanted to be “just friends” and of course there’s always the jerk that upsets her and while she may agree with you when you explain all the logical reasons the jerk is wrong, she keeps going back to him…because he’s not acting on her logic levels but on her emotional levels and the harder you try to convince her that she’s made a bad decision, the more defensive she’ll get and the faster she’ll run to him.
The girls that used to fall the hardest for me were the ones who’s parents absolutely hated me. So her parents and other relatives may not approve of you…big deal. You obviously were able to attract her in the first place. As long as you can connect to her on an emotional level instead of a logical one, their logic based arguments on why they might think you’re unworthy will fall on deaf ears.
I’m not suggesting you go out of your way to piss them off, just be unaffected by their opinions. Don’t worry and don’t show any worry.
like Radman said, just be yourself. There are various ways to impress people. I was just trying to make a case that a Harvard degree is impressive to MOST people, no matter how you look at it. Likewise, being tall and having a supermodel face is just as impressive, if not more. However, it is just good for first impression, but ultimately, it is going to come down to who you are as a WHOLE.
Having said all this, it is pretty much up to you and her, if the relationship is going to work out or not. If her parents or relatives make decisions for her, which is so 1900’s, her family is probably not that cool anyways. Just try to be a good overall solid citizen. I don’t think you can go wrong wit that. Additionally, if I were to mone up, I would use A314 + IG + IS (+ IH).
I can’t say anything about what mone to wear in this situation as I am too new.
I do have experience with your scenario.
Dress nicely, be honest, be passionate, and be yourself.
People like to talk about themselves, let them, and take an active interest.
Confidence in who you are is extremely important, if you psych yourself out, then you are in trouble
If they have a negative view of you, don’t let them get to you. Stay calm
There are different levels of high society, and what I have learned by living with them is this…you can have the status credentials (and they do make it easier), but your persona is more important.
How does it feel to ask a question, and then figure it out on your lonesome (own), BC?
From what you’ve said, the only thing that I’d add, if anything … would be IH. If you normally see IO working at 2 sprays … 1 spray of IH, if 4 sprays … 2 sprays of IH. Let IO ‘RULE’ the evening.
P.S. And you’re never outclassed … you just THINK you are.
I am a newbee but have been so impressed with the bonding effect of IH that I would strongly recommend that you keep IH in your mix. Afterall isnt the IH effect that you would desire from her family, "feel that they had known you so long that you are welcomed into their fold without resistance..A314 will take care of any status issues and IS to boost your mood )
All the best bro
It worked out very, very well.
I went with
A314 - 3 drops
Instant Shine 2x - 2 sprays Instant Honesty 2x - 1 spray
Luckily it was a smaller crowd than she had anticipated, about 12 people total. I only went with one shot of IH 2x because I didn’t want too much nol-to-none conversion. Her dad and I bonded really well. He told me about his business ventures and her dad, uncle, and I talked about property acquisitions. I didn’t feel uncomfortable but the topics just didn’t seem like something to discuss upon meeting someone. I talked to everyone and they all seemed really receptive and open toward me. Luckily, I am very charming and confident. I gave advice on phones and general computer use advice. We discussed good beer, sports, volunteering, recipes, vacations and other random topics. I stayed far, far away from politics and religion. They seem like a fantastic family. I really think her dad and I hit it off. I could see him and me just hanging out on a random Wednesday afternoon, he is a very cool man.
Are you implying that gum cleaning is somehow an inferior profession? I’ll have you know that I’ve been a gum cleaner for years. You have no idea what sort of hell that’s been, scraping still gooey, stringy bits of Juicy Fruit off the bottom of seats, so people can have a pleasant, gum-free trip; starting out as lowly gum cleaner’s apprentice on the local district lines, learning the tools of the trade, suddenly feeling the passion flowing through my veins, knowing that this is what I was born to do! subscribing to all the journals, devouring every bit of knowledge I could, until I finally outpaced all of my colleagues, overcame even my master. I have heightened this to the level of art! And when I finally settle into bed, my eyelids fluttering into brief, paroxysmal sleep, and my fingers still coated with a thin residue of Big Red, burning my flesh as the desire to bring my profession to still greater heights burns my soul, I am content, knowing that I have made some difference in this world.
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