Hello Bumblebee 
Welcome to Pherotalk !!
A little more information about you would help in getting you qualified for that 25$ GC and also in identifying the best phero for you.. I presume you are 36 from your profile info.. how is your personality like… dominant or coy/ which part of the world are you from.. ? post some more info regarding these…
https://pheromonetalk.com/t/how-do-i-qualify-for-a-25-gift-certificate/19934
Now getting to the problem at hand.. 
Looks like boredom / familiarity is causing the lack of attention.. but congratulations first for the long standing relationship. Its normal in such relationships for this kind of issues to pop up sometime during its course…
when we get comfortable with each other most often the mystique/veil of suspense about the other partner disappears… getting comfortable with each other is excellent but sometimes it gets stuck in the rut of predictability… what I would suggest is try something different… get some new titillating clothiers.. rehash your wardrobe.. not just for nightwear but for day wear too.. remember those days when you used to dress up for your date…take a trip back in that route.. if he is the one who normally takes initiative in bed… try a change once… and yeah.. dont forget the pheromones…
I would suggest two pheros for the situation… Instant Sexiness and Instant Shine.
there are two variants of sexiness … “A & B”
Instant Sexiness A projects a sexy vibe… more like that of a woman who knows what she wants and takes it.. la Angelina Jolie.. Instant Sexiness B projects the vibe of coy sexiness probably more in sync like that of a marline Monroe / natalie portman.. type… What I feel is that get the one which may be opposite your regular personality… ur partner is used to your regular vibe.. when it changes… he has to sit up and take notice..
Instant Shine is a happy phero which puts people at ease.. and in a good mood… reduces chances of rejection…( a tired and irritated partner may not be in a mood to play) when people bring home stress from work.. it affects the sex life.. wear a few sprays.. u can be liberal with it.. and in less than half an hour of exposure you can see a mood change in your partner and yourself.. it also projects this youthful vibe… helps in amplifying the impact of Instant Sexiness.
You can also consider getting Essence of woman from love sent for use along with these two. Androtics dosent sell it. you can read about it in the women section and how to use it. Unlike the other two, EoW stinks big time.. you may need a nice perfume to cover it…however it is a good addition and can leave a big impact when used with sexiness and shine