Pheromones for attracting someone you once "had"...

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First let me say I’m very to knew to pheromones so I still have to purchase them and do a little experimenting.

Last year, I met a girl in Chicago (I live in AZ currently) through a cousin that I had an INSTANT connection with. I mean I’ve never clicked like that with any other girl before. And the way she is is exactly what I want in a girl. The last few days that I was in Chicago, we started talking a lot and when I got back to AZ, we talked almost daily (90% of the time was her making the call). After about a month, she told me she fell for me (just from talking!). At that time, I expected to move back to Chicago a few months later in August because that was my plan for a long time and she knew that. But after a while, we both realized that I was gonna end up not coming so me and her slowly just stopped talking. After that, I tried to make contact with her sometimes but most of the time, she ended up not answering and not getting back to me so from August til December, we talked maybe 4 or 5 times. Then when I went to Chicago again in December, we slowly started to have a connection again but as much as before (her ex came back into her life…which she is now broken up with though.)

Since I came back from Chicago in January, she has tried talking to me a lot more but I kind of avoid her because I decided that if I talk to her whenever SHE wants, she’s gonna think she can control how she wants things to go with me. So I thought I should wait until I go back there before I talk to her more. (she actually recently told her cousin “I don’t think he likes me anymore. He doesn’t talk to me as much.” in a complaining kind of way.

So long story short…there’s a 90% chance that I will be moving back mid April and I really wanna connect with this girl again and hopefully build up to a LTR with her.

I’ve got some real good help through PMs lately but I decided to make this post to see other people’s opinions and suggestions.

My personality (copy and paste from my introduction post): First, let me say that I would like a long term relationship. I’m still young but there are a few girls that I have a lot of interest in that I just think would be very stupid to let go. My reason for that is because it is VERY hard for me to actually like someone past a sexual level and those 2 girls are the only ones (out of hundreds that I’ve met my whole life) that are a perfect match for me and actually make me want to be serious. I’m more of the quiet type but once I talk to someone, things usually go well. I’m more of a laid back person (unless I drink) so I don’t really go clubbing or anything with a lot of dancing (the dancing part just isn’t my thing). I mostly meet people at lounges, small parties, hookah bars, pool halls, and the gym and it’s usually through people I already know. I used to be the VERY shy type (very) a few years ago but I my confidence went up and is still slowly going up. Basically, I’m at the point where I won’t have a problem talking to a girl that I’m interested in like I used to be, but I’m still not at the point to just go up to a girl that I don’t know and start a conversation unless I’m introduced to her…unless the girl is around me and I can tease her about something in a joking way. I guess the reason for that is that I don’t like it to be obvious that I’m interested. I don’t like to look like I’m chasing a girl AT ALL. And yes, I tease a lot. Seems like with the girls that have been attracted me, it all started from my teasing and each one of them “fell for me.”

Her personality: She’s honestly similar to me. I would describe her as very hard to get comfortable with someone, isn’t the crazy party girl (but she does go to parties and has some fun…she’s usually the shy girl that you have to go up to), laid back, and when she finally does get comfortable, she doesn’t have a problem letting a lot of things out. When my cousin (her best friend) saw how comfortable she was with me, she was VERY surprised. This girl has only had 1 boyfriend that she recently ended up breaking up with (very bad relationship).

  1. What do you think would be a good idea to use when I’m around her (other people would most likely be around too)? I’ve done very well when we’re at a party, and me and her start talking and separate ourselves from everyone else. She starts to follow me everywhere after we talk…like if I get myself a drink and start talking to other people, she stands right next to me and walks behind me everywhere I go. Basically, if you saw it you would think we were together. But this usually only happens when I initiate the conversation with her.

  2. What would be good to try if we ended up going out alone?

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This can go either way, I am not saying talk to her when ever “she” wants but if you like the girl make a effort or she just may move on before you can get back there. If your busy when she calls just say. “Hey I am busy right now can I call you later” If you don’t want her to control then lead, don’t pull back from contact or play games. Boys play games, men lead and they can still show interest and lead at the same time. I know this is something guys learn from all the PUA information they read and I am not saying this is a bad thing. PUA techniques have there place but PUA is for fast pick up and release or for the initial first contacts not for long term relationships. At some point you have to get real if you want it to work.

I would suggest using IFM (if you have it) and IH when out with her and AMMO IFM and IH when alone.

Tisha

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I did leave an important point out though…her ex is still causing problems in her life and I’m pretty sure the things he does is getting to her even though they’re broken up. Bad idea to get involved when this is happening. (I recently found this out). I left this part out because I believe that this come to an end real soon. Of course, I will not attempt anything if she’s still involved with him. The story I gave in my first post when I met her was when they broke up the first time (and she got back with him a few months after we stopped talking). So I’m sure in this case you would agree to just let her go until that part of her life is over.

And to tell you the truth, I started off thinking “let me just stop trying to talk to her while I’m here…when I go back, whatever happens happens” basically deciding to just let her go while I’m here. And as soon as I decided that, she started calling and texting all the time. Funny how life works…So it’s not games I’m trying to play. I just thought it would be a good idea to back off for a while because if I talk to her a lot while I’m here, it’s pure friendship.