First Verbal Contact
Open Up… Showtime! A bright, friendly, enticing expression will be the first communication of both your interest in her (as a man) and your availability. Try to keep your eyes locked onto hers, even if you have to use the old “shy salesmen’s” trick of staring at the bridge of her nose (which is impossible to detect by the person being observed as being any different than a straight look in the eye).
Show you are Harmless and Interested… It’s as easy as saying “hi!”, commenting about a common environmental experience going on around you, or making a light, self-depreciating joke. Just say something non-offensive to get the ball rolling, and remember… Use No Stupid F*ckin Pick-up Lines… EVER!
Get her to Toss you a LifeLine… Listen closely. Let her provide you with a safe subject to talk about that is interesting to her.
Remember, it’s your dominant male attitude more than your words that makes the greatest impression – because her head will be reeling and she probably won’t even hear what you’re saying anyway! Be naturally curious about her, but not blatantly interrogatory. Pretend that you’re the host of a party and are making the rounds – be informal and at ease like you imagine Hugh Hefner must act at the Playboy Mansion. Ask questions that demand a thoughtful answer instead of a simple yes or no. Give her a chance to open up her thoughts to you.
Exchange names; use the Handshake Trick… Rotate to the right. And use her name exactly as she speaks it to you.
Establish rapport; seek out common interests to which you pretend to be always agreeable. You like _____ (whatever it is she likes ) _____ too! Let it be known that you make no excuses for your desires to get to know her… and you don’t feel the least bit ashamed to be doing this (even if you do).
IMPORTANT: Don’t come across like a total “me too” lying fake because – unless you’re an academy award winning actor – you don’t stand a chance of pulling it off. Make sure that your interest in a particular topic is genuine, or you’d be better off to just say nothing and press the conversation forward in hopes of finding some other common ground with her that’s more to your liking. Some topics (like for instance shopping… barf…) are just too feminine and you wouldn’t be expected as a normal
Don’t trigger all those tired old dating associations by asking for her phone number, or if she’s available, etc., too soon This only sets you up for a reflexive rejection. Instead, ask what she finds most compelling about some aspect of her life, something that makes her think and thus begins to evoke the romantic trance. Find out what’s missing in her life right now – what her dreams are. Talk in a comforting voice and pause at random moments (but don’t overdo the pausing) to get her hanging on your words a little bit. Be fascinated and interested in her… but keep some mystery about yourself in reserve. Focus the conversation on her and only dole out bits and pieces about yourself. Mystery, mystery… mystery!
Always make 'em laugh… Utilize humor, but always cleverly, gently and with some scarcity (don’t be a non-stop jokin asshole!). Mildly self-effacing (a small joke made at your own expense), or conspiratorial humor (share a laugh about someone or something else in your immediate environment) is always the best application. Humor should be used like a spice… just a little bit makes the food taste great, but if you pour on the whole bottle you’ll gag on it. Two or three light moments is enough – and be sure to never make a joke at her expense like some kind of super-cool asshole. Not everyone understands that you’re joking… especially if your delivery is deadpan (seems serious) or you come off as being aloof or even somewhat cruel. This kind of “humor” is known by psychiatrists as a hostile wit. It’s nothing more than a left-handed way of sticking a dig into someone while trying to seem like your just a joking, lighthearted sort of guy. Very deceptive. Women see through this nasty sh1t like it’s made out of glass. So easy does it!
Give Her a Sincere, Personal Compliment using her Name (but only onetime and please restrain yourself to her hair, nails, apparel, etc never ever her body). You perform a little bit of social magic merely by honoring her experience of life. Talk with her and get a feel for what her passion is. Then craft a sincere compliment that is unique to her, and deliver it in a way that is cleverly intriguing. The trick is to make it seem as though you were just struck by the notion to tell her this “something” about her that you find so utterly fascinating. Remember, you radiate charisma by making a person feel better about themselves after having encountered you, as opposed to feeling worse.
Begin by observing the “3 A’s”… Appearance, Appliances (jewelry, tattoos,piercings, hairstyle), and that “air about you” Ambiance. You re looking for something unusual about her that really ties into some aspect of her persona which she seems to either be promoting (perhaps unconsciously), or is some central characteristic of her general presentation …and then act a bit embarrassed about it. This will seem cute and disarming! Most people are a bit ashamed to admit to being suddenly smitten by someone. But
women find this kind of endearing!
