Should I tell her I'm married?

[ramtajogi]

Honesty is a best policy ..

@dsouza

Ok.

Here goes.

I am married and this girl I see at a hotel I regularly visit for the restaurant service sees me with my SO all the time. At the least she knows I’m taken.

But when I talk to her I can tell she is responding to me and is wanting more of me In fact when I wear mx297 around her I become full of charm, and couples with some shine I’m able to keep short conversations going. She works weekends and I see her and talk to her a little each week.

I know she likes Shakespeare and is into books and tans all day in her home . She says she does nothing until she going back to college in the fall.

I am kinda hoping at the least we can be friends. But I don’t know if I should come out and state:

“Look I should be honest with you and tell you right now I am married”. I mean she might see me as this honest guy but even moreso she may just want nothing to do with me and it may kill all the attraction. On the other hand not lying leaves so much weight off my chest I don’t have to worry about slipping up with lies or leaving out details at a later point. Or her finding out for herself and wondering why I never told her.

If I leave it out she may see me as a guy whose taken and I’ve got a push pull effect going with her I will not make the same mistake I did chasing that other skirt who lead me on for so long and then broke my heart.

I was thinking a gentlemen thing to do would be to simply ask her if she’d like to make a trip with me to a bookstore and have a coffee with me since she likes books. I don’t plan on jumping her or anything. I just want to get to know her possibly as a friend for the future but then again the attraction I have for her is deep. there’s a lot of build up lust but I’m controlling myself…

If I ask her out and she says aren’t you taken, or have a girlfriend, or married, I have to be smart and say yes, but I thought we could go as friends..

Of course if she jumps me like most guys who may be in that position, fellows I would have to do the right thing

hmmmmmm I think Honesty is a best policy ..
well thats my MOTO .. Honesty has backfire me bigtime dude but I still belief in honesty. honesty will get you out of lota shit I recon … then again anyway if you married ! why the f*CK you wana get in dis shit ?

[ramtajogi]

OMG Iam sorry I didn’t read all therad b4 .. hmmm I see you one of those dsouza whom don’t give a fuck … okay I am sorry dude I got da picx where you come in from hmmm all sweet

[castlerock]

I would clearly stay away from her. I am old school thinking and I like to be safe than sorry. One thing can easily lead to another and I don’t want to put her or me in a difficult situation. I have plenty of friends. So I’m fine on that end.

I’ve had situations where my friend’s wives started developing some serious attraction to me. One of my friends even flat out said while we were having dinner at his house, “She wants you. I can tell.” I just blew it off with a joke. I replied with, “I want her and we have sex 10 times a day while you’re at work.” I’m serious. It can get ugly quick. Shit happens. So better to be safe than sorry. I like to take safety to an extreme. That’s all I can say.

[millwark]

I didn’t even bother reading most of the posts after the first ones from the op. The bottom line is…it seems like his goal is tantamount to saying, “Hi new girl. I’m married, but still want to have sex with you.”

I just don’t see the point…even if you did, the direction you’d be going in is still an immoral one. I feel bad for your wife.