I figured this is the best place and the greatest group of guys to ask.
Do shy guys prefer a girl who takes charge or a girl who is just as shy as he is?
I think it will depends, if you got someone in mind, maybe just act alpha first, and see if he enjoys it or it annoy him. If it bugs him just say something like you were too hyper last time…
Ok i just read my post again, and i think i need to say: be yourself more than trying to change the way you act, it will attract far more guys than trying to fake taking charge or being shy. 
It’s a catch22. I’m a little on the shy side. I really like a girl who’s forward, but you can easily scare a guy like that off by coming on too strong.
It depends on individual. It depends on what he wants.
well said mb. rep
It depends… if an extroverted girl finds a shy guy cute and interesting, and the guy feels the same, yes!! the opposite always attract, but the problem is that they must complement each other.
MockingBird’s got the best advice of all - be yourself. But that being said, that doesn’t mean you can’t go say hi to the guy. If you want to go say hi, go say hi!
Usually shy guys are perfectly willing to talk to strangers or people in general, but they are equally content sitting quietly, or in their own world. (At least was such in my case). If someone had come up to me and taken some time to talk to me, I’d open up. But there have also been times when I’ve just been in my own thoughts and I wanted to stay in them.
I wouldn’t worry about ‘offending’ them or anything, as long as you aren’t being pushy, I’m sure they’ll be more than happy that you’re talking to them. If they aren’t, then maybe they just want to be alone, in which case you just move onto a shy guy that does like you talking to him.
If a girl is as shy as he is, well, then probably nothing will happen unless you guys somehow bump into each other, in such a way that it is memorable or generates conversation. But either way, in order for people to communicate, at some point someone has to say ‘hi’ either verbally, over email, sign language, or by grabbing his ass (which, I might add, is definitely an attention grabber).
Hey guys ,
Thanks so much for the advice.
No Phya , I am definitely not gonna do any grabbing yet …
I do have someone in mind and I wanna ask him out but I don’t want to seem too forward and then turn him off.
Oh if you are talking about asking guys out, definitly do it if he is shy. Most of us will feel honored to be asked. And we probably wont refuse since we are already impressed 
Unless the person in mind is very antisocial and you dont think he respond well (not trying to judge or to offend anyone ), you dont need to worry about anything!
Sounds to me like you know what you’re talking about …
Now all I need is the right pheromone products to help me on my date…
Am all open for suggestions…
I agree, reps. I’ve been asked out by a few girls before in the past and I’m also shy. It caught me of guard a few times but I was definatly flattered. Shy people are often waiting for other people to make the first move and then they become as open as the confident ones.
I have to agree with mockingbird on this one, be yourself cause relationships never work out if your not yourself around your mate. Theres no reason not to be assertive though, as a guy i would like that, but theres a fairly fine line between assertive and aggressive, i would try and make sure not to cross that.
I’m sure the ladies would have plenty of suggestions about what products to use on a date. They probably have better experience with pheromone combos to attract guys. I don’t really have much practice there.
Get yourself phero-equipped and go get em.
why pheromones? Just tell him you’re not wearing any underwear..that should work
That would most definitely work.
But just in case…
Listen to mockingbird, hes right, you should definitely be yourself because a relationship will never feel good for you if you are always masking who you are so you can fit in with the person. If you really have feelings for someone and make a life change for that reason its a different story. In your case, theres no harm in being assertive, as a guy i would like that, just be careful because the line between assertive and aggressive is very thin and a girl coming off as too aggressive is a major turn off.
That could definitely work.
But just in case…
Listen to mockingbird, he’s right you should always be yourself. From my experience relationships are never fun if you are masking your real self when your around your mate. Making changes to how you act for someone can be really good in a long relationship, but if right off the bat you are someone other than yourself you wont get comfortable being your real self around whoever it is you’re chasing.
My answer is that theres no harm in being assertive, as a guy i would like that in a girl, but there is a fairly thin line between assertive and aggressive. My advice to you would be to try hard not to cross that line but still make yourself present to him.
Shy guys.. They’re adorable aren’t they? It depends on what type of shy guy you have the approach you take.I think Instant honesty would be a good one and maybe Is/b. I have good hits with shy men naturally though so perhaps what works for me wouldn’t work for you.
Depending on the guys personality sometimes its better to be fairly quiet and soft spoken yourself.
However, shy doesn’t always mean beta-male.
Most of the time for me a good tactic is to start off soft sweet and approachable and to take things up a little at a time as the guy gets used to you. Hence the instant honesty suggestion.
Shyness in my experience has always been an approach fear issue.
Just pay attention to the guys cues and being a bit pushy as long as you’re sweet or funny about it is ok.
Thanks for the advice Electra. This was an old post. I was surprised to see someone replying to it.
I get the feeling that he is really into me and it’s just a fear factor but he won’t admit it.
In the meantime while he gets his balls I am just having some fun.