Well, the main point or reason I bought any pheros at all was in order to hopefully spice things up a little with the hubby; and when I found IH, I thought that would be a great addition as well. I know I haven’t been as great with the reporting lately as I was at first, but the reason for this is that none of them did any good for what I wanted: despite my best tries, (along with everything else I’ve tried) I found out that he has been cheating on me. 
And has went to see a lawyer about a divorce. I guess I wasted my money on all the MX’s and P’s I bought, looking for any kind of help. I know pheros can’t do everything, I just had hoped they would add a little something to my attempts to make things better. I wish it had worked. 
Not your fault at all, please don’t go blaming yourself.
Oh yes there is.
Now more than ever.
Now it’s for you.
Soon you will begin to grow back into yourself.
Grow into who you could have been.
Grow into who you will be.
Better, stronger, smarter
I know it is a long passage from here to there.
But there is a there.
A future, out there.
You will get there.
Yes, plus why even bother trying to have fixed this if he’s been out cheating on you for who knows how long? Forget it, I know it’ll be hard but get over him eventually, and make him feel like he hasn’t caused you any pain at all. That’ll hurt him.
You’re still young, with your whole life ahead of you. Now you have your arsenal, you can get out there and play!
Don’t think of it as money wasted, think of it as an investment in your future. I know, its hard to see it that way just now, but its true.
Either your glass is half empty, or its half full. Its up to you 
honey, you deserved better than that i know when we love someone its hard to see beyond that but he did you wrong and well you have the tools to help yourself on your feet and to recover from this. Its ok to be hurt to be mad but its HIM not you whos done the wrong here something wasnt right you deserve better and Im sure you’ll find someone better later on. we cant change the hearts of others if they’re set on something but we can pick ourselves up flip em the bird and move on. cyber hugs and goodluck.
It’s true, it’s been said countless times that pheromones can’t/won’t change the minds of others so not your fault (or the pheromones.) He’s just a dog, and wanted to play that part so he did. You don’t need that.
I want to wish you the best and good luck. You will overcome this. Use the phero’s when you’re again ready for them. You can keep them for quite a long time so don’t worry about them going to waste. You’ll be fine. Big hugs!!
cancermoon, I am truly sorry to hear that, I came here for the same reasons as you, apparently to no avail.
What I have decided is that, despite the pheromones, I left things too late, there was not enough left to work on and she wasn’t prepared to put the effort in. Sometimes people just grow apart rather than closer, there is no point raking up the past, it just hurts more.
Please don’t give up, I haven’t and what I have found is that, now I’m single ( not that I’m looking) I am noticing far more impact on other people, to the point that I am having to fight certain of them off physically.
Put all your little bottles in a box, when you are ready, drag them out and start afresh, you will be amazed at the results. Alternatively, I could come over and prove to you that they work 
If you want a chat to try and see the male perspective, PM me. I can tell you for a fact that you are not the only girl on here in this position, some of us have a nice little PM support group going in the background 
Awww, I wish it had worked for you too. I think it often happens that we find the phero world looking for answers to one question and then find that it was the wrong question. The thing to keep in mind here is that there will be a day after tommorrow.
First thing is that you’ll want phero help to DOMINATE the divorce proceedings. I don’t mean in a belligerant or mean way but you want to be the best you possible.
Hope things get better for you Moon.
I am very sorry for what you are going through. What he did was really inexcusable. Really bad.
The thing to remember about the pheros is that they make suggestions for you. You were suggesting connection, love, acceptance, desire. It looks like he had already decided not to accept those suggestions and to travel down the sewer instead.
Once he made that decision there was nothing you or the pheros could have done.
I can’t imagine the pain of rejection youare going through right now but please know we all wish you the best here.
I’m really sad to hear this. Any relationship falling apart is sad and difficult for at least one member of the relationship. It will take some time to get through this, but you will.
We’re there for you.
(I should have stayed in bed today, first Tish, now this 
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Thank you everyone for your support and comments. ((hug)) I am just so messed up right now, I can’t believe what is happening. Our 18th anniversary is on Monday, this is definitely not how I had imagined it. I know communication is the most important part of a marriage and that it had fallen apart in the last year or so, and I truly hoped the IH or other pheros would help open up the doors for us. I’ve been going to counselling alone for many months since he won’t go with me, looking for a way to try to ‘get back’ to where we used to be. I know now the reason he wasn’t willing to try is because he has already moved on to someone new. I’m just devastated. I wish IS worked for me, I could use the pick-me-up.
Thanks again for the support; I appreciate it so much.
Thank you.
I join the support vibes for you. You are not alone on this journey. Maybe things are to be spiced up in unimaginable ways into your future once you are ready to allow it. Until then, and because there is not such product like Instant Healing for a broken heart, yet; my sincere desire that all these responses spray you with sparks of hope, appreciation and self-love.
Thank you, I so appreciate the nice words and feelings.
I didn’t think things could get worse, but they have. After I found out about my husband and his girlfriend, I have been so upset and unable to sleep or eat or concentrate at all, that I took some time off of work. Since I’m a nurse, and work taking care of pretty sick elderly, I didn’t feel as if I should put any of them at risk due to my frazzled mental state. I would feel awful if I mis-medicated someone, or something similar!
I went back to work today, only to find out that my boss has eliminated my position while I was off. She had a list of reasons for it, mostly having to do with the fact that the last three weeks, I haven’t really been ‘all there’, due to the situation. Which she knew all about, and has been giving me fake sympathy all along. So now, although I still have a job, which I am thankful for, it is all changed–hours, shifts, areas that I work–which makes things really hard now that I have to take care of my kids on my own. (More on my own, I should say.) As if this isn’t already hard enough on them as it is, now I won’t be available for them as I usually am.
I’m starting to wonder what the hell I did to have all this pour down on me at once? I wish there were some ‘instant fix-it’ spray…
(((Cancermoon)))
If you need a friend, PM me and I’ll send you my email addy. I’ve been there, darling, and I can tell you this much… down the road you will thank your lucky stars that this jerk is out of your life. You deserve so much more, and it is waiting for you to grieve this and shake the dust from your shoes.
Meanwhile, my heart aches for your loss of hopes and dreams.
Diane
Sometimes in order to see the light at the end of the dark lonely tunnel you are in at the moment, you first have to go through it with hope that you will see the the light at the end of the tunnel. Or like a boat in the middle of the ocean, battling the storm and the waves when all things seem bleak. Finally seeing the light of a lighthouse not too far off, like a glimmer of hope it will finally seem. You just have to go through it; I’m in the same tunnel as you ever since my mom died, so even though this is different the pain still hurts but hope must still remain in order to see the light.