yes, and intimacy to a woman doesn’t mean sex.
we’re replying to the post in order to see what could be done immediately to recover lost libido. most of the time its something simple. seeing a doctor and getting blood profiles and a complete physical exam is the only way to rule out the physical portion of it. but sending your spouse to the doctor to ‘get it fixed’, when all she needed was a little emotional support is a bit of overkill.
counciling is nothing more than 3rd party discussions. they’re useful for spotting communication issues, but again, there are things that can be done at home before involving anyone else.
there are issues that need to be solved, and the hope is that they’re easy ones that we can work with. sometimes they’re not.
i grieve a little when one of these quests to rekindle turns for the worst, like this one:
same goes for Diamond’s journal.
at this point in my life, I could not fathom a marriage without some physical intimacy. I don’t just desire to be with women, I desire to be with My Wife, even though the ol’ urge on her end is a bit low. she loves me enough to give me attention, even if she doesnt feel like it, because she wants to express love in a way I can understand it, just like I want to do for her.
the fact that he cares enough to ask and try, is encouraging.
thats why communication is key. if, in the end, she doesn’t know why she’s not aroused, and he’s done all in his power to get the roadblocks out of the way and understand her, (and she understands herself and has tried as well) then its time to see a doctor.
this forum is only designed to help so much. if its something she’s unwilling to try for, then there isn’t any way that we can assist. its out of the scope of the users here.
then theres the “fake it till you make it” approach. that might work, too. 