Ok, I haven’t had a first date with a girl in a LONG time. (Since college 6 years ago.) Now that I’m recently single again, I decided 2 weeks ago to give picking girls up a shot.
I’ve had some decent success. 3 numbers in 2 weekends. My icebreakers were brilliant, and I found I’m a bit more charming than I gave myself credit for.
However, I’ve been unable to convert my success to a date yet. I’m not a big fan of the game, so I don’t know if I there are rules I’m not following.
One girl wanted to hang out badly enough she was willing to ditch her friends and let me take her home that night, despite me being a complete stranger. She looked me up on facebook the next day and added me. We talked back and forth on it all day that day (Sunday). I asked her to a casual Tuesday dinner on Monday, and she then pulled a “I’m busy the rest of this week.” We talked a few times since then, but she hasn’t really shown any interest since I made my move. Very odd…she did visit my dad’s carepage a few days ago for the second time. (In other words, I know she’s looking at me online.)
The most recent girl I picked up at the Journey concert. I gave her a copy of my biz card. She said she’d email me and she seemed REALLY interested. I got a text from her that night. I texted her back once, she replied. I waited until Sunday to reply. We had one more exchange, but then nothing today.
So anyone care to give out pick up pointers for someone you just met? Once you get the info swap, what do you do to seal the deal and get date #1? What kind of a timeline do you expect when talking to someone new?
i’ve found that to be some of the best advice ever. get them thinking about you and if possible, talking about you with their friends, get them wondering when they will see you again. not like every other guy wondering when they will see her again.
a few things just on the first read. follow your intuition. if you liked the girl at all pretend yesterday didn’t happen and keep pushing for the date. don’t pester or badger her, but if its been a few days with no response, try again. what exactly do you lose by doing that? also, try starting out your next conversation by bringing up something funny or interesting from the time you guys hung out in person. this will help alot. also, dinner may not be the best choice. its too hands-off. do something fun, like mini golf, or meet for drinks. something more casual. dates arn’t work. have more fun!
one note about “the game” the system they talk about isn’t some kind of method for tricking girls into liking you, its the same thing we all do naturally, but written down in a systematic fashion. think of it like a blueprint, judging by the nature of what you guys are doing you know where you are in the model, and what to do next to take it to the next level. So just do what feels right. we come with instincts built in on how to do this but ignore them by overthinking things. place no weight on the results and just go have fun. things will work out.