Hi
Sorry for the late response - been busy recently.
The girl,Y, is a friend of an associate - we are all in the same field though working for different people, and on occasion it’s a sociable industry so we were out drinking together with a bunch of other people. (8 guys and a couple of girls - she was the only single girl there).
I was wearing a full complement of pheros - in particular MX102 (4 sprays and it was a warm evening, old-skool MX101, P79, Ammunition, IH, IS, IG and P74. I think, by the way, that Tacitus is right about P74 reducing the tension between Gentleman and Shine, but I am not sure that it is entirely eliminated and can lead to unhelpful results when combined with large amounts of alcohol. I added some TuTH as the evening wore on).
Spent most of the evening chatting with pretty much everyone (except Y as it happened). People drifted off and I took the remnant to a cool club - unusual setting and not a bad crowd for a Friday night. Gets late; everyone drifts off home. She sort of forces me to share a cab with her and as she drops me off sends off intent ‘i want to be kissed vibes’. I have been ignoring the attraction signals earlier as it’s easier dating people outside the industry but in any event I do the gentlemanly thing, kiss her and take her number.
We both work in an industry where there are not that many girls and a concentration of high quality men (youngish, cosmopolitan, driven and some are moderately to very wealthy). Like the female equivalent of working for a model agency, perhaps. So the benchmark is not that low.
Meet up for drinks a couple of times after that (nothing of note happens) and then she has been out of town for a few weeks. Since then I have received one to two text messages a day, every day. She asked whether I missed her and tells me at least once each day that she enjoys my company and looks fwd to seeing me when she is back.
Whole thing is quite sweet really, a bit like what a guy might do when obsessed with a girl. I like her (she’s an accomplished girl, not bad-looking too) and feel flattered by the attention but still reluctant to date somebody too seriously who is in my field of work and not sure that I am ready to settle with one person for a bit (whereas I think she is). I have let her know that I like her but have been much more low key but the intensity on her side remains high…
(By the way there are two or three other girls that I met lately, to whom I have given only the smallest degree of encouragement, that are also pursuing me).
So, yes. Nothing quite this extreme, but my sense of the pattern of things is similar. Pretty extreme for me in the circumstances and handling with care. What if it goes wrong? Hell hath no fury…
I am not yet very experienced at managing multiple long term relationships. But if building a ‘harem’, I think best let them know the score first. I think a girl will settle for a time share of Mr A314 rather than have nothing provided she didn’t think originally that she stood a good chance of having the whole thing to herself.
late 20s. Met her the first time a couple months ago but never really talked to her. So known her a couple of weeks now really. 4 sprays MX102 on a hot evening. See above for rest of the mix (but I would bet that MX102+ old skool MX101 were the key components, with 102 driving the obsession).