Shivers at the thought.
Well, you know Tisha is a girl so she must know what she’s talking about in this situation. Look at it this way though, two girls here told you that you’re attractive! So go use it man!
I know I’m a pretty good looking guy, it’s just that I guess I’m ‘spent’ at my high school. NO girl shows interest in me and, aside from the girl mentioned, I show interest in NO girl.
Puts me in a tough situation. I guess I can wait for that reply, and take it and swallow it. Hopefully, the unlikely happens and she dumps him for me, but, just like Tisha said, I’m not keeping my hopes up.
Hello lakerman, I’m a couple of years older than you and after reading your story.. a lot of memories came back. The whole situation is 100%, exactly the same, as everything I went through with my previous girlfriend. Me and her only brokeup 2-3 weeks ago. We dated for many years on and off, and recently we grew to be a really strong loving couple, we had it all. It ended really briefly due to out education and not being able to see each other as much. We haven’t spoken at all since then, it all ended in a 20 minute PHONE CALL.
sigh
When youve had as much chemistry and history with 1 certain girl as I have, and you end on neutral terms, I don’t think you ever truly lose her. Christmas is coming up and no doubt I’ll see her at the club, and most likely there will be another chapter to our story. I know that too well. Know HER too well. It’s like, shes starving herself of me, and then when she sees me she thinks she can do what she pleases with me. Like I’ll welcome her back with open arms. Maybe I will, because of how laid back I am, but I dunno, could I put up with the childeshness?
You wanna be serious with this girl but just now you cant. Youve done a good thing, said your part and walked away. I know you said you see a lot of each other BUT, just dont seem needy, they like a strong man, with some independence.
Just ask yourself if you were a girl, would you rather have the strong spirited guy who can handle himself? Or would you rather have the pathetic guy, crying on the phone begging for her to come back to him.
This advice may not apply to your situation but it was given to me and it helped me get through so much. You seem like too nice a guy to end up getting screwed in this one, good luck man.
Thanks, man.
We haven’t sent the second message yet, but I said “the hell w/ it” and we sent it. IDC what her reply is gonna be, really, cuz I know she won’t dump her bf for me, I realize that.
I feel like I might be being selfish making her choice between us two, but I think she just feels safe w/ him right now, and she doesn’t have to ‘please’ him constantly, as he lives 20 min. away, I live less than 10.
I think, sadly, it’s gonna end up nipping her in the butt. They aren’t gonna last forever (obviously) and if she comes running to me after “the breakup,” my pride is gonna tell her that I just can’t go out w/ her. (Contradicting, I know, but I’m nobody’s second option).
I told my friends “before 09, she’ll be mine.”
I was wrong.
I’m tired of hanging around, and I’m growing impatient. My friends are taking me “girl hunting” soon because they think I’m wasting my time with this girl. Slowly, I’m starting to agree with them.
All the drama… ack!
All I can say is, thank god I’m not 18!!!
HAHA it ain’t SO bad.
The bright side is, college is SOON, that means a NEW group of girls.
Hello… Loveline?
good move with the IFM, it is loooove mone.
Androstadienone combined with Instant honesty
my gosh what a mix it would be.
Well, today in class, I was kinda worried about some awkwardness and animosity between her and me, but she was talking HER HEAD off to me before class started. Telling me about how she didn’t wanna be in school, how she wished winter break would just start, and how she had a test and if ‘I could take it for her’ cuz she thinks she’s gonna fail.
Then, being just 2 days before winter break, we were watching The Matrix in class (on philosophy unit). I could be wrong, but I’m PRETTY SURE she was turning around ever so often to give me a look. BUT, I could be wrong, cuz she does usually look around the room during class A LOT.
Yeah, at first I was against wearing IFM b/c of the negative effect it may have on guys, but I took a ‘screw guys, I’m here for the ladies’ approach to it.
First couple of times I wore it, like the Ammo, it made her uncomfortable. Now, she’s VERY comfortable w/ me. Seduction on the way??? I sure hope so…
Got a reply from my last msg to her:
“thanks, ya i wouldn’t think about telling other people. this is between our group”
This msg DOES have MOVE ON written all over it for me.
OH WELL> 
Dude, I know where you’re coming from. I hope you don’t think I’m putting you on blast or anything. It seems like you’ve been literally racking your brain, trying to figure out how you can get this girl to be yours. You’ve been on your mission for a couple months now. It sucks to put in that much work and to be left with nothing.
This whole time, you justified your desires by explaining her interest in you. She does this all the time, she flirts, she’s talkative, etc.. Yea, I mean how can a guy not consider trying to be with a girl that’s always showing interest in him, if he’s interested too? I feel it.
The one that got away from me? Man, she gives me the tightest body to body hugs when we see each other. She looks into my eyes like no one else is around and when she gets drunk, she admits how much she likes me and how hot I am. Anyone that doesn’t know she has a bf eggs me on to go for her. I know better than that. She’s dating a guy who fucked up by embarrassing her publicly and made it up by buying her jewelry. What a trick. Anyways, the end of the matter is that she’s with him, not me. It doesn’t matter how many IOIs, confessions, or whatever she sends your way. If she doesn’t actually choose you, you ain’t chosen man.
There really are plenty of girls for you to meet at college. I can’t speak for you, but I think you may just have been infatuated, wanting what you can’t have. I mean, on her own, I’m sure she’s worth it, but not being able to be with her makes you want her more is what I mean, not that you wouldn’t want her otherwise. And you never know, you come back for summer, turns out she broke up with her bf and is single. If that time comes, then you can always step back up to the plate.
I’m sure some girls aren’t too pleased with the way you’re all over that one girl, when they know she’s got a bf, even if they don’t know about all the other conversations. But that doesn’t mean you’ve struck out, you just need to show some genuine interest in other girls..which is a problem because:
On a bit more humorous note…I’m sure you’ve heard Luda’s song One More Drink
Just take one more drink, there are plenty of cute girls out there kid. 
Disclaimer
I did not encourage underage drinking, they could be drinking apple juice.
Disclaimer
Some people will start to look real good after alot of apple juice
Huh??
After some Bacardi, I thought like 2 outta 12 girls were hot at this party I was at last weekend.
Normally, probably wouldn’t.
Word of advice for you Lakerman - I’ve been following your story for a while. I think the posters here have given you good advice. I met a fantastic girl in september at a party and we hit it off great. However, her friends wouldn’t let us do anything but dance because she has a boyfriend. I said alright and took the high road even though she told me to kiss her.
Most girls in that situation are just going to use you for the night and then run back to their man, even if they like you. If I was still 18 it would have been a much much different scenario with lots of drama afterwords. I’ve learned. You can let girls go no matter great they seem at the time. Soon you will realize how many better girls there are.
Thanks, man.
Yeah, she, the one girl whose been helping me out, and this other guy are hanging out before school starts up again, (we are having a sleepover dance partay LOL) and I’m expecting her to talk to me about it. The other girl told me that she was gonna say something to her when I wasn’t around like “you guys would look so cute together,” and I guess it’s still OK to HOPE that the ‘talk’ is going to be favorable, but I’m expecting the inevitable. What I’m basically gonna tell her is that I respect that she has a BF, even though I’m upset with it. I plan on telling her that I’m not gonna tell her ‘I just wanna be friends,’ b/c the other girl in our group is basically a sister to me, and I’m not looking for ‘just friends’ from a girl I want to date. So, I’ll basically tell her, not to expect me to be available when her relationship is through, but never to say never on us. I’m sure my name is more valuable on the market than her BFs is, but for w/e reason, she likes him better, and it’s unfair to her for me to try and convince her otherwise.
I’m usually very good w/ the words 
Basically, I’m just gonna ask her, not to dump her BF for me or to ever even go for me, but to just re-evaluate if she can get more from a relationship w/ some other guy, and if she’s any happier dating him than she was being single b/c frankly, I don’t think there was any difference.
That may work for you, but I would go for a more direct approach. Just straight up tell her to her face that you like her and would like to date her. Tell her you know she has a BF but you don’t care. Ask her on a date. If she says no then just say that if being friends is what you want than so be it. Don’t make it feel weird. I’ve learned that the more clear and direct you are the better. This may end up kinda weird and she may not want to talk to you much after, but most of the time it is worth the risk. If you don’t have anything to lose but everything to gain go this way. My 2 cents.
Maybe I’m just being stubborn, but I SWEAR this girl likes me!
I KNOW if I wait around for her, I’d eventually get her, but life’s just too short and I’m too young to worry about one girl. IDK if I’m willing to wait until April to get her.
Yeah, if she approaches me at our lil hangout (which I’m anticipating she will) I’m going to straight up tell her I like her, I would LOVE to go on a date w/ her, and who does she REALLY think is more boyfriend material for her, cuz I think this kid can’t even tie my shoelace when it comes to this girl. I see her EVERYDAY during school for AT LEAST 2.5 hrs., we have to work w/ each other outside of school on school projects (it’s a mandatory thing), she’s secretary of my group, I go online she ALWAYS IMs me first, the girl is flat out in love with me. I may sound redundant, but if she says she wants to be “just friends,” I’m going to straight out tell her that I don’t want to DATE any of my friends. Also, the other girl in my group is basically a sister to me, I don’t need another sister.
Making her choose?
I don’t see why not. I think I’m gonna go all in if the situation presents itself.
I’ll let you guys know how it goes!
We’re with you man, good luck.
Good luck, hope things go good. Better to have no regrets than to second guess yourself for months!