Um.. I need my hand held with this congruence thing can anyone explain to me what it actully means? I mean I know that congruence is a similarity between objects, but im trying to grasp what it has to do with Pheromones / personalities. Welp!!
OK - I see Tisha is here too and she will probably give you a much better answer.
The bottom line is that congruence means that your behavior matches the signal your pheromones are putting out. Remember - the pheromones creat suggestions to others - but you have to do or say something that causes them to act on those suggestions.
Say you wear Instant Openness which creates the suggestion to others to have a conversation. If you are being congruent you will be friendly and initiate a conversation (to give them something to act on) or will respond to a conversation they attempt to start either directly with you or through open indirect comments.
You are not acting congruent if you sit there, scowl, refuse to start or respond to conversations.
If you are not acting congruent people will react to your behavior and not the subtle signal/suggestion the pheromones are putting out.
Like wise you can wear A314, Ammo or TUTH but if you are passive then that behavior will override the impression that those products create.
For a really good read on this, read the thread in my signature block about congruence. It was started by one of the smart guys here and had commentary from a lot of other smart folks.
Sure no problem, it seems some people are confusing congruency with Placebo effects so its a good question.
Lets break it down a little…
Instant Openness Its a fun chatty friendly mix.
Suppose you wear it and then sit in a corner, dont get up and interact or mingle with others or just have a unpleasant look on your face. Your not being congruent. Now you dont have to approach to be congruent either. Just smile, appear approachable and friendly. If someone makes eye contact, make eye contact back. If someone says Hi say Hi back, sometimes they are just looking for that opening.
Instant Honesty, is a more deep communication mix. People feel close to you and will talk about more meaningful subjects. They feel your a person they can connect well with. Once they make that connection be aware of it. Listen to them.
Suppose someone starts telling you something important to them or deep and you just ignore it or brush it off, Your not being congruent. You just broke that connected feeling and they may back off feeling mixed messages.
A314 is a big one when it comes to congruency. It makes you the leader of the pack, so you gotta lead, if you dont they wont follow and any respect they felt from the mix will be questioned. Now by leading I mean giving ques being somewhat outgoing and willing to make that first move.
Its true that pheromones are just part of the picture in human interaction giving you a edge and sending stronger subliminal messages to the subconscious mind.
Tisha
Oh.. I thought that it was alittle deeper then that, but now i got it thanks.. shank.. hopefully tisha will give me
some more clarity.
Edit: Yep she did thanks tisha.
Deeper? It can be, if you approach it with that mindset.
Essentially, if you see a Benz rolling down the street, you don’t need to guess, you know it has leather seats, a pretty good engine, nice design, and a very expensive price tag.
If someone came up to you and told you he had a brand spanking new SL500 for 12,000 USD, you’d be a little skeptical, right? You’d wonder, what’s wrong with this car, that it’s being sold so undervalue.
That’s the same thing with congruency. More or less, to put it simply, you need to be who you say you are, otherwise people will see you’re not the real deal, and lose interest.
Another way to describe it, would be you can put a shelby kit on any mustang, but it’s not a shelby without all the other mods as well, most notably, the engine, followed by the suspension.
Essentially, it’s about as deep as you’ll get. Be true to yourself, especially if you’re going to present yourself as a intelligent, “alpha”, social person.