I decided that on Thursday I would go out sans any mones. OK actually I just forgot to bring or wear anything mone wise.
While the night was still pretty awesome, it was a lot of work. Sheesh it’s no wonder guys give up on women and resort to being hermits, monks, or even worse, creepy dudes that hang up against the wall at dance clubs making fun of the guys dancing with women. I love those guys when they make fun of me. It reminds me how hot the woman I am dancing with really is - LOL!
OK, OK, but wow it was really tough to get anywhere with this Katy Perry look-alike. I plowed and plowed and while I made some progress it was nothing short of all on game, and I was using my A-Game to get anywhere with her.
I saw her on Friday again and it was night and day. Mones make the world go around so much easier. I guess its hard for me to understand how some people can’t seem to get a grip enough to understand them and utilize them like their secret weapon. If you have any type of game and some mones and you can’t get laid. Reexamine yourself and see what else is not happening that is preventing you from getting laid. There is no reason you shouldn’t be. I LOVE what I do!
I’ve definitely noticed the same thing. I can pull 9s and 10s without any mones on, but it’s like my game has to be 100% and even then it’s still more or less a crapshoot. But when i have the right mones on, everything just flows and it’s all so much more effortless. Hell, I even get 10s approaching me when I have certain mones on. But it’s still all part of the 90% 10% thing. It isn’t just the pheromones that bring you success, it’s your game, with pheros pushing it to a different level. One without the other makes you the wall flower laughing at the guys dancing with hot chicks.
One thing I’ve discovered (and am still working on) is the inner self. I’m an introvert (but have lots of extrovert qualities) so I’m good at knowing what I am. If there is one thing that I’ve learned since high school it is that the number one thing that holds most men back is…THEMSELVES.
Doubt. Insecurity. Lack of confidence. Unresolved issues. All these things can destroy your game because even if you get in a relationship they can come back and bite you in the ass. That’s why I think it’s important that any guy that comes here looking for a “quick fix” go outside, lay on the grass and just look into the sky and think.
When I was a phero noob all I wanted was some cupid arrows to shoot at girls so I could magically get pussy. Then I just quit using pheros and started working on myself and praying (yes, praying). I started not giving a shit about what happened, I started putting myself out there, being more outgoing.
I did get laughed at sometimes, and there were times where I was like “why the fuck did I even say anything?” But the more I failed, the more experienced I became. So once I got to college that same attitude carried but I actually got results BY MYSELF first. I ACTED like I was the man. Like I could do anything. Then once I put on A314 (and everything else ) everything just flowed and my natural social skills blended with pheros made things 10x easier.
Of course right now I’m reexamining myself again but I think everyone needs to examine themselves again at some point.
Main Point: work on yourself first, THEN use pheros.
Great points. I used both though: mones and personal evaluations! Here’s why… When I used the mones, even though other things were preventing me from getting what I wanted (all internal of course) the mones still showed me a world of possibilities. So when I was ballooning up to close to humongous status although I was not going to get laid, or at least I thought, it made every interaction more plausible, something to look forward too. So once I saw potential I started to make the other changes and sure enough with the mones, going to the gym every morning for hours, eating healthy, inner game, everything I could do to improve, guess what? Life did in fact improve!
When I was younger I seriously underestimated the impact eating better could do but once I started working out on a consistent basis I found my demeanor much more positive and my outlook on life much better.
This is a quote from Ladder Wiki that really has helped me in the past.
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Every experience you have and how it makes you feelis a direct result of your perspective on life.
YOU are the one who controls your perspective. No one else can change that. Unless you let them. No advice given on this forum will help you, unless you let it. Unless you absorb it. If you see something that doesn’t sound right to you from your perspective, you’re going to reject it. Right? Sounds like real life, right? If someone gives you advice that makes sense to you from your current perspective, you might absorb it and change a little. Yes?
What I’m saying is, advice isn’t going to help you. But changing your perspective on life, will. And you’re the only one who can do that, not us. Think deeper.
For example, let’s say you were single. Let’s say you’d been single for a year or so, and the girlfriend factor just isn’t there. And you go to a bar hoping to meet some cool new girl, and hopefully take her home. You get to the bar, you talk to some new girl, she turns out awesome, but then isn’t too interested in you, doesn’t give you her number. You come home sad.
Let’s look at the events here, with the emotions thrown out:
Was single
Went to bar
Talked to cool chick
Came home alone
But now, let’s say you go to the bar with intentions of having some beers and just kickin’ it. Listening to some music, talking to some friends, throwing some darts. You go in, you have some drinks, you meet a cool chick, she’s fun to talk to, you think she’s awesome, you say you should hang out sometime, she turns you down and goes home. You hang with your friends some more, go home alone, no crying. What just happened?
You were single
Went to a bar
Talked to a cool chick
Came home alone
But this time, not sad. Why? Your perspective on how your night was gonna go did not involve some chick being interested in you when you set out. Your self-validation did not hinge on that aspect, and even though the end result was the same, you come home significantly happier. "
You are absolutely spot on K-Train. I am a relatively new user of Pheros, started just a few months back; from a work perspective, I was always insecure and not very popular with my fellow engineers. I “was” just a plain old workaholic (I haven’t seen the inside of a club for crying out loud). However, since the last few months of using Pheros, mainly A314 and social combos (with a few Ps here and there) and going thru similar failures (small ones though) and learning from them, the positive transformation in my behavior and attitude is just so dramatic. I consistently get comments like ..“something has happened, you have changed..”.
I totally agree with your main point, it was the extra effort I put in to improve my outlook/demeanor to “match” my Phero signature that played a big role. Pheros acted as catalysts to bring about the changes. I was on top of my game at work even before, but now I actually enjoy what I do and instead of being all stressed out working late hrs, everything has become so effortless/smooth.
Very true, time and time again I’ve had to re-examine my self and take into perspective all the things that I am, that I could be, and how others are.
But the best quality to discover in one self is the ability to improve. I’ve discovered that many people have a hard time braking out of their mold or common thinking. But once you found a path or inspiration to look at yourself, its a key success factor to making something of your self and in the end happy with everything that is ‘you’.
SO in the end, regarless of good times or bad times, its easy to be happy
I’m married, so I can’t chime in with anything relevant to a single man. However, I have had a good amount of chances while wearing pheromones where I could’ve had success IF I was single.
The same things that attracted your spouse to begin with, should also continue to work if you simply change it up a bit. Also it’ll add spice to your life. Seriously, a guy can game his own wife and should.
Yes, definitely I meant to say that I have had scenarios where girls have given me the green light while wearing pheromones but I couldn’t because of me being married.
) everything just flowed and my natural social skills blended with pheros made things 10x easier.