Not to thread-jack, but tell me how this is? Serious question. I absolutely hate going to places like the mall by myself, because i feel like a loser when I see everyone with their friends. I can only imagine going out to clubs by myself. I just wouldn’t do it. But seriously whats a good way to get over that?
i like going to the clubs alone. i just have fun and i dont care what other people think. i talk to women, go for a dance. and when you wear mones people treat you like a superstar, mr cool guy. i dont think that im a loser who has no friends to go out with, i have a lot of friends. sometimes your friends can do something stupid and then you gonna be sorry for going out with them. when youre alone, youre in control of everything.
Totally agreed Mika. I don’t have a lot of buddies but the one’s I do have aren’t trying when they go out, just being total pussies. Every time I hang with them in a public/social setting they just stand there like bumps on a log or talk shit about the girls in the place. It’s a lame vibe that kills any game I might have for the rest of the night.
Hello Glidarn,
I was also recently divorced a few years ago and have been going out clubbing solo and only a couple of years older than you. 2s Ammo and 2s IO is your friend. Ammo just makes me want to prowl (socialize with the ladies ). I recommend IO to IH initially to help you open up ladies, “shoot the shit”. After you get comfortable opening up ladies you can switch to say 1s IO + 1s IH. p75 (don’t care attitude), p96 (comfort), TAC (comfort), TUTH (sexual) and IJ are good club mixes if you are daring. Check out my personal rankings of various club mixes after I discovered AD a couple of years ago.
I hope this helps you. Good luck.
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i spray ammo on my neck/chest, adams apple.
most users spray io on wrists, forearms, back of the neck, hair (but you should know that sometimes -nols that are in io and ih transform into -none and -none is very sticky, it can be very smelly the next day and youll be forced to shave your head). its not recommended to spray io to your front or sides of the neck, because it can affect you and then youll become too chatty. BUT sometimes i think im still too shy and i spray some io on my neck. so far didnt have any problems. but thats only my opinion/experience.
i think me and Kiev already answered this question. sometimes your friends can be pussies. also they can be in to the same chick as you are and become a real cockblockers. then you are in a competition.
I don’t like going out alone in my own hometown, unless I know I’ll be meeting someone I know later on. In that case I have no problem having a beer or two just chatting with the bartenders or whoever is nearby and seems friendly.
When I’m working in some other city or on a trip alone, I can go out all by myself and have a good time. I’ve been doing this since I was young and almost every time people have approached me. Don’t rightly know why, I don’t think i look overly friendly and I usually don’t smile without good reason. I guess it’s enough to just look like I don’t have a care in the world.
Thing is I do get self conscious sometimes when I’m out alone like that but when I’m in another town, I can ignore it. I just remind myself that I most likely won’t ever meet any of the people around me again, so it doesn’t matter what they think of me and how I may appear to them.
Just need to learn to apply that kind of mindset while I’m around people I know I probably will see again and I’m golden. People I don’t know but who see me out and about regularly in my hometown don’t approach me like perfect strangers often do in other places. Go figure.
Malls and such are no problem at all, I rather enjoy going there alone so I don’t have to wait for anyone or listen to others complaining if they have to wait for me.
I completely agree with misein. The best mindframe to have is the carefree one. I take the fact that I will most probably never see people again into account whenever I’m out because THATS when I have the most amazing times. What I’ve come to realize is that it’s the attitude that you need to carry because you’ll want to have fun when you’re out with friends. Care-free is key
I go to clubs and bars often enough with friends, that when I do go alone, which has been a lot more now than not, I am comfortable. I just kind of force myself to talk to people and make new and interesting friends.
No one has ever asked me where my friends were. Even if they did, I tell them we got separated, or that I have no friends because I killed them and ate them. Having confidence is the single most attractive trait a man can have.
I’ve been to clubs and bars with numerous friends for years, but in the past 6 months, I’ve gone solo twice, and they were the best nights I’ve had.
Whenever I go with friends, they try to pump up the night so much beforehand, like ‘yooo, let’s go to Ivy, we can pass by KOI after, yoooo YOOOO Karina’s!’
Then we get there and they just stand up against the wall with their drinks, paying $10 or $15 to just stand there grazing with the rest of the cattle.
The first time I went solo to a club, as soon as I walked in, I went up to order a drink from the bar and this guy starts talking to me. Said he could tell from my body language that I was here alone, and that he was an expert PUA. I was shocked. He was there alone also, and then we met two other guys who joined our little group, and we had like a small in-the-field bootcamp. It was such a fun night and the PUA and myself ended up kiss closing (not on each other…).
The next week I went out with my friends again, and it was the same boring stuff, hyping up the night, then just standing by the wall with drinks, saying how all the girls are nasty (as an excuse not to approach).
Of course, if you have the right friends, I’m sure it can be fun, but finding the right friends is tough. Even extroverted friends can be a liability, especially if you’re not at the same energy level as them.
and what’s WORSE, is when you walk away from standing on the wall and start talking to a girl, ALL your friends think “he approached, he did the hard part we were too scared to do, now we can go in”, and they all swarm over you and the girl and it destroys the set. And even worse than that, is when they swarm in and try to discredit you with jealousy, and may even just plain insult you to try and get with the girl you approached.
Then after they demolish what you created, you all go back to the wall with your drinks.