very very very very low libido

Uh… nope.

Have you tried testing out this theory? Here’s a way you could do it. Go up to your lady friend and tell her you want to knock her up and see if she starts ripping her clothes off for you.

Diane

Actually, the notion of conceiving gets most of my middle-aged lady friends VERY hot.

Especially the ones who have had none or only one. They don’t really want to make babies, knowing the risks and the problems, and use contraception like IUDs, but they sure get with the fantasy - all most all of them. Some of them start picking out names.

The fact that I’ve sired (and raised) five children (with five grandchildren so far) and have had a very active and productive sex life over the years impresses most.

Yes, I am a breeder.

Frankly Diane, I think you owe me an apology. I’ve tried to share a valid scientific hypothesis with great explanatory power, field tested and with proven practical application, and you make personal slurs on me.

Once again I raise the question why the ladies tend to be very upset when the argument that women desire sex less than men come up? Just because a woman gets less biological pressure toward sex doesnt mean in anyway she is worse than a man. In fact I think its the opposite because modern men’s sexual behavior reflects our primitive basic nature and shows that we may actually be less evolved than women. :smiley::smiley::smiley:

that really depends on the woman.
I could find you a few who desire it much more than most men.

you assume we are upset because we feel less-than or “worse”.

we dont feel “upset” at all.

the fact we debate it is because we have REASON to.
we in fact ARE women, silly.

we know how we feel,
we know what our girlfriends are going through,
and nothing regurgitated from the internet can make that different.

making the statement that we feel you are incorrect, is not being upset.
its simply stating the position.
if we saw what you said reflected in our lives, that would be different.

In my experience, women are usually more desirous of sex than men, but in order to keep them from acting on their natural desires and control them, various aspects of society have made it unacceptable for them to express this or act on it freely.

Thus… it seems like they want it less, because they don’t usually care to be labeled derogatorily.

This is why the man who understands this, and takes responsibility for the sex that happens (it was all his fault, it just happened, I couldn’t help myself, etc.) gets more sex. He makes it acceptable for her to act on her natural desires.

I know this first hand. Multiple ex’s loved me because I created a safe space for them in which to express their natural sexuality and instead of being considered in a negative light, I made it a safe and fun thing. They were allowed to be as “naughty” as they pleased, and I never told anyone or judged them, so they were safe. And let me tell you… give a woman the go-ahead and make it safe, and you will see some truly amazing things. Women usually have a much higher sex drive than men do… they just rarely feel safe expressing it because society has them in a catch 22.

wow.. this thread took off over the weekend. where is the OP and his results? I just realized that he posted this a YEAR ago. talk about thread revival…
I still stand by my idea of “giving my all” because if it didn’t work, the habits you’ve formed will carry over to the next relationship in spades. chemistry aside, everyone wants to feel good, regardless of how that happens. I’ve had some serious breakthroughs just asking that question. “how can I help you feel good” and as dumb as that sounds, straight forward, idiot questions are the fastest way to solve a problem.

I’ll have to bring up that jewish law to my wife…

i think that is a great idea

A synastric chart comparison is a good idea, come to think of it. I don’t see why that did not occur to me before. It will show you what she needs and how to give it to her.

Of course… if she’s dealing with some sort of medical condition that she wasn’t born with, you’ll need to be able to read transits and progressions to see it… and it’s not likely to be much help then.

come on shoot

gimme the exact date that you were both born

day /month/year

do it today if you can cause I am leaving after tomorrow

send it to my private email along with your normal email so that I can send you a nice report

I will gladly take the time and give you my opinion .I will send you als a visual chart with the low-highs of sexual stamina.very helpful(plus it works.I have backtested it with many many women )