check out this article and tell me what you think?
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?em
That is a really interesting article! Some stuff in there I was close to figuring out on my own… haven’t read the whole thing yet, though, but one thing I’d like to say is this:
My experiments with subliminal audio aphrodisiacs show that measuring sexual arousal through “penile response” is a very poor way of doing it. I usually feel aroused in my chest long before I start showing any sort of erection from exposure to these subliminals, and sometimes, I don’t get an erection at all, while I am going crazy with lust! I think heart rate, skin galvanic response, and measuring the brain activity would be much more accurate. Erection is a sign of arousal in men, but it’s not the only indicator of arousal by far.
Oh, and as for what women want? If it’s impossible, then they want it.
Just kidding. 
Women, in my experience, want to be brought to a state of arousal through what’s between their ears. Especially with imagination and fantasy…
I have an opinion or two.
First, I can’t help but wonder if the act of measuring response causes a response. I mean, if you put a light inside of me and I know you’re using it to detect physical responses to X Y and Z, who’s to say the response you get would not happen if I didn’t have the light there?
Second, I think the author’s right on with “Arousal doesn’t equal consent.” I might be very aroused, but I’m not gonna whip off my panties if I’m wearing my chastity pelt, no matter how hot you get me.
No sir.
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