Really the pua stuff has attraction/value switches down to a checklist for all sakes and purposes. However most of that stuff is stuff to build during an interaction. For more instant chemistry or that quality that makes women attracted to you very early on, what you’re looking for are displays of masculinity that can be communicated quickly and over a distance.
Visually, indicators of size and strength communicate high sexual value (relationship value can be built on that) now granted you will no doubt hear women deny this and claim that men are visual and that women go exclusively for personality traits, if you ever hear this argument as the woman making that statement to explain why Chippendales is the most successful stripper review in the country, Women throw money at these guys (among other things) sometimes it’s their husbands money they throw and they know absolute fuck all about the dancers personality.
Now I’m not saying ripped abs and a handsome face are all it takes, nor am I saying that you even have to look like that, simply that women are still visual creatures to a degree same as men and looking healthy and fit counts for a lot. You want to strive to look like a man that can both provide great pleasure in bed, and play the protector role should something come from that union.
Other visual signs they look for are things that communicate confidence, assertiveness and dominant masculinity. Facial expression (smile dude), posture (pretend mom is watching and telling you to stand up straight) developing the back muscles, glutes, traps and rear delts all help to build a tall posture that’s easy to maintain unconsciously. Also deliberateness of action. Know where you’re going and go there, looking like you’re wandering about aimlessly says that you’re not a man with the plan, you’re the guy waiting for life to happen to him. If you don’t know where to go or what to do then consider where you are right now to be the place you want to be and look happy to be there until you decide on the next move.
You ever go to a club and see some dude wandering about looking left to right like he’s trying to decide who he wants to go talk to?..yeah, don’t be that guy.
Auditory, much like A1, studies have shown that a deep masculine voice can have an effect that is both calming, comforting, relaxing, and at the same time arousing. There are a few books you can look up on how to train your voice so as to sound deeper. I’m not sure how safe that is or if the techniques can cause any damage to the vocal chords or not. However androgenic/anabolic hormones have the same long term effect as a deeper voice is a secondary sexual characteristic developed during puberty. IE following a diet and exercise program designed to increase size and strength will cause your body to produce more testosterone and thus possibly cause your voice to deepen somewhat. Chest work, especially heavy bench pressing and heavy ab work should help develop lung capacity and diaphragm strength to add projection and that booming powerful quality to your voice.
Also, learn to drop ummm, uhhhh, yeah, and “yanno what I’m saying” from your vocabulary. It communicates a lack of certainty in what you say. If you’re searching for words, throw dramatic pause in while contemplating…uhhhhhh just says that you don’t know what to say but you feel the need to keep making a sound so that people don’t cut you off while you search for the words you want.
Olfactory…dude you’re on a pheromone site.
Tactile, touch..touching even in a casual platonic way can over the course of an interaction create a sense of comfort in women. For one it communicates that you yourself are comfortable and confident enough to touch her without worrying that she’s going to get weirded out or slap you. Plus little touches lay a foundation for bigger moves later. IE going for a kiss when you haven’t even shaken hands yet can be a big step, starting at small touches and working gradually up can help acclimate the woman to contact from you and make each touch feel like the next logical step.
In the more long term, learn to develop (and enjoy) the personality qualities that people associate with masculinity. Men are protectors, providers, hunters, warriors, and builders.
Now working out helps fill the protector/warrior element, you can further enhance that role by taking a martial art.
For the hunter I don’t suggest you go out and blow Bambi to hell, in fact I’m no big fan of sport hunting, but outdoor skills and an appreciation for nature can be attractive to a lot of women, even those that themselves don’t usually think about such things. Go camping with some buddies, learn to fly fish whatever, remind her that you came from big hairy cavemen.
For the provider role, this can be summed up in one word…ambition. Consider your current state and how it can be improved. What can/should you do to improve your status at your current job, or even moving to a new job. Think of promotions and raises and how to get them. For attraction, the ambition for success is even more valuable than success because it communicates a lack of complacency and that is something a woman cannot afford to have in a partner.
For the builder role, consider the things you might normally call a repair guy to do…now learn to do it yourself. Learn to do a tuneup on a car, fix a leaky pipe, dripping faucet, creaky floorboard etc. Dude you have no idea how many women have told me that the sexiest I looked was when I was covered in dirt and oil and sweat after working on a car.
I’d also throw in that playing a sport is good. I’m a huge fan of sports not only as a spectator but from the perspective that when applied right they teach great masculine traits that can be helpful in life…teamwork, competitiveness, the ability to handle setbacks and defeats, the ability to be humble in victory etc. Plus it helps to build your social circle of guy friends which both serves as an aspect of social proof and helps build a social network through which you might meet more women.
If you’re a student, go out for one of the school sports teams, if you’re out of school, look up local softball leagues or something. You may build a leadership role by organizing a corporate softball league and captaining your employers team.
