Superficial Humanity
To a degree we all have at least an iota of superficiality its programmed into us by people around us.
We can choose to overcome that or not.
Assumptions..
There’s this thing about being too hot.(or thinking you are)
Nasty ego from some people who are super attractive.
People who think they’re too ugly.
Nasty level of self loathing or insecurity.
The trick either way is to be happy with yourself but not consumed by yourself good or bad.
Yes, people can be cruel and people can be superficial but not everyone is that way. A certain part of that is genetic, people are attracted to facial symmetry and complimentary genetics.This is not to say someone has to be stereo-typically attractive. Stereotypes suck and we can overcome both stereo-types and our genetics in terms of thinking.
Complimentary genetics means if you have small shoulders as a male you might like broad shouldered women low testosterone men may like women with higher than normal testosterone.Speaking strictly in terms of breeding we unconsciously and sometimes consciously go for complimentary and diverse genetics.
Some people like big noses and some people like button noses.
There is a certain leg up for attractive people.Socially and in terms of getting jobs ectra.
Personality means a lot.Looks fade over time. Sure in today’s society we can plastic ourselves up until we fall into our graves.Yet in the end its the mind and heart of a person you’re left with.
Grooming is essential but there are certain medical conditions no amount of grooming can deal with.A guy who hasn’t got a clue as to how to deal with this stuff.Try asking a woman.Strictly in terms of courting most women have a pretty strong opinion of how things should be or at least what they personally want.
Most people should have at least one friend of the opposite sex.
Chances are if you can’t coexist with a member of the opposite sex even on a basic friendly level something is wrong.It means you’re doing something wrong and should look at your own approach methods to see what isn’t working.
What does help.
Respect.Treating someone right.
Both of these can lead to other things not only is it worth it from the basic angle of making someones day but you get positives in return.
People eventually notice if you treat others with respect.
The post that started this thread was lacking in respect and drew a lot of responses that weren’t entirely respectful.You get what you put out.
If you have that low opinion of yourself and the people around you something needs to change and its probably your way of thinking.
We tend to reflect ourselves on others.
Tearing down those around you isn’t helpful to you or them.
Focus on more positive things for example if your friend is good to talk to focus on that.
Btw. Most girls like being able to talk to a guy try listening.
***I think when you meet someone that’s good for you and makes you happy and vice versa someone you enjoy being around not just for sex.Then you have something.
Hyper focusing on trivialities that will pass and on sex is bad idea in general.
Sex comes and goes can be good or bad and even boring.
When we focus on trivial things too much we loose something.
When we stop looking at people as people we loose something.
Focus on the things you like in people and in life .
Focus on the things you like about yourself and those around you.
***Strive for a healthier mindset and a healthier you.
Just a thought..