Im not sure what is happening lately but everytime I wear any mix of pheros, men are asking (and assuming) I want sex with them. Wtf???
I had some strange musclebound guy follow me for about 5 blocks today (IS/A, cops and Instant Honesty).. start chatting me up, wouldnt leave me alone, then he started insisting I would really be into his body if only I had the the chance to see it!!! Eeewwww.
Last nite I was out with my girlfriends and some young kid came over to me and told me that I had been flirting with him all nite and that I was sending him some sexy vibes LOL!!! (I in fact had not noticed him, I was like totally with my girls).
Today I was coming home and my neighbor stopped me to tell me how wonderful I look (hes married) and hed like to continue our “friendship” now this was indeed flattering, although older and kind of nerdy, he is extremely well-off and very powerful… but still not sure how he got that vibe of a “friendship”.
Someone please clue me in here… although I covet my phero-enhanced sex appeal… I do not want to be throwing around “I want you vibes”… any suggestions…
actually i laughed outloud,
i totally know what you are getting !
its funny,
when we as women are putting out sexual-vibes through natural/synthetic pheromone messages,
men act on them exactly the way they want to be acted upon.
think about it,
reverse the conversation they are having with you so that YOU are the one saying what THEY are saying…
make sense now?
you are actually getting AWESOME hits,
and as you become a seasoned pheromone user
(with any and all pheromones)
you are going to learn to read IOI 's and manipulate the attention so that the conversations are more enjoyable, and less
umm
surprising?
Be glad honey, this is what you’re supposed to see with that mix you’re wearing.
If you want to tone it down, try leaving out the cops for a while. I/Sa will turn heads without leaving all nearby males in a drooling heap.
Of course, with Instant Honesty, you’re getting what you asked for, instant honesty. It’s supposed to make them want to tell you how they feel.
I think with a little more experimenting and practice you are going to find this very fun. Buckle up!
Lor… I guess it is the whole “reverse psychology” thing… its funny that men think we women are instantly attracted to strangers the way they are.
As far as the IH “Ive known you forever” thing I think you hit the nail on the head…
I am really bad at superficial BS and I find when I wear IH people around me really open up to me and relate with a little more realness or depth which is totally how I like it. I am just not a small-talker or a social butterfly, and IH just extends who I am in an inviting way.
Bosshank, I do have a big or a rather extra-large boyfriend (soon to be husband).
I absolutely adore him and he is a greatest most romantic guy ever and very alpha, but jealous he just is not.. He tells me all the time he trusts me.. which is nice… but when I tell him about the things that happen to me, he just laughs and sometimes even LIKES to hear these things. I do wish he were slightly more jealous- and I know that probably sounds awful!
Moonwhisper.. I totally love how IS/A makes me feel I just cant explain it… My boyfriend also LOVES my signature (although I add est and more cops around him).
I think its probably a good idea to cut out the cops and add est instead out in public… maybe every guy I see wont think Im out to bang them! Thanks for the invaluable feedback.
Lady…, I can get really jealous and heated so I assume theres something wrong if BF doesnt.. I suppose I hadnt thought of it any other way. Its good to get another perspective, Thanks.
“Why” is a complex question in biochemistry and physiology. As yet not completely answered. The cartoon version is you’re painted with chemical secreted by young women dering the fertile phase of their cycle, touching off a biological urge in men to mate with you.
From a practical standpoint, observe, and add another tool to your toolbox.
The issue I guess is boiling down to accentuating SEXY without seeming as if I am ready to fornicate… In my mind I check out guys, think “ok he looks attractive” not in as I want to jump their bones… as in oh he looks well-put together or sexy.
That Sexay is the vibe I assumed my phero signature was always enhancing, at least the feedback was telling me so.
Recently, the feedback I have been recieving has changed (blatent pick-ups and things I havent even shared here) and I have taken steps reflecting those changes (cut out the cops) thanks to the suggestions of moonwhisper.
Anyways, I am feeling as if I am spending far too much time defending my experiences, thoughts and feelings here in this forum which I had come to recieve support and advice.
To everyone who has given my helpful suggestions, Thank You.
Unfortunately, that is not how the minds of most men work, and is one of the great “separators” between the male and female genders. I get the “I want to jump her bones” thought every few seconds when at the mall or on campus. I don’t want to but the wee man keeps whispering in my ear. But, alas, my mother taught me manners so I don’t blurt it out very often but, yeah, I’m thinking it, usually in graphic detail…
Its all down to level of testosterone. Average men have 3X higher level of testosterone which controls aggressiveness. When a man see an attractive woman his testosterone level suddenly jumps up and takes control over his judgment.
As others have mentioned, there are fundamental differences between men and women. (You’ve probably already figured that out)
That’s one of the reasons for the seperate men’s and women’s forums. So each sex will have comfortable conversations. If I have clumsily expressed my ideas here in your forum in a way that makes you feel you must defend, I apologize. That is my failure in communication.
You have received great advice on cutting out the cops. I think that will reduce the effect you are trying to avoid.
To shift to a behavioral psychology perspective, certain male behaviors lead to greater reproductive success. One of these is believing and acting as if every fertile female is willing to mate with the male. Males who believe this mate more frequently and successfully than ones that don’t. Never mind the reality of what the females are actually thinking.
This also helps to understand the prevalent belief among males that “no” means “yes.” In fact, anything means “yes” when coming from a fertile female. Females often don’t understand this. Also, the justice system has to be blind to it in order for society to function in a somewhat orderly manner. Most men have some kind of understanding of this, although many will deny it.
Ok, I think I really get it for the first time and I think everywoman should read this post, especially the ones who pour cops on like they are going out of style… its hard when you’re wired to think another way and now I really understand a few more of the differences between men and women, thanks to everyone who took their time to really explain. Gone… you really summed it in up for me with clarity and unconventional wisdom.
Is it possible it at all for a man to look at a woman and think “shes very attractive, wow” in an admiring way without wanting to sleep with her? or is that just not possible. The reason why Im asking is because I really do not want to have that F-me now vibe at all… in fact I fight against it, recieving respect is even more important to me to the point Id change my signature to reflect this (Im in grad school).
