I agree 100% with Phya on this issue.
I used to be fat. Hell, I graduated HS at 320lbs. Yes, I played football but I was so slow because of my size.
Since that time, a little over 2 years in total, I’ve lost over 100lbs. Ya, I was the jolly fat kid. Of course, I hated myself. I couldn’t see my pecker, either. So that didn’t help my self-confidence any! lol
I’m SOOO much happier, healthier, more confident since I’ve lost the weight than I ever was. Of course, it’s really all about how you perceive yourself.