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Ha! ha! I thought you went back to the desert!
Was wondering though!
Thanks to you too, Terry. May God bless you and your family with all the good things in this world. Take care ya!
Mohammad
Bronzie, please be carefull with these requests, i think you may be dealing with a little firebrand here with this one, She appears to be nice enough though, but do you think she would wait upon you and bring you steaming little cups of fragrant tea, as well as massage your back and bring you your slippers of a night, mind you sometimes opposites attract, so i suppose anything is possable, and there is a great probability that she would fall in love with you, as it looks a little like a little attraction is already in the equation directed from her, so good luck and happy fishing. 
hmm..i’m gonn ahave to be honest and admit that I am always initially attracted to the best-looking biggest jackass in a room. Not enough to actually engage him tho.
What will make me like a guy?
- Good grooming
- A warm and friendly personlity - important that he can be funny too.
- A Great attitude and good manners (this is what will make me take him seriously)
I hate to muddy the waters further, but here is an observation. I am married to a wonderful woman and I am glad that women will give men a second chance. There are times when all people are not themselves which could be from illness, drugs, drinking, and a long list of other reasons, but everyone deserves another chance and I am glad that there are people out there that will give you that chance.
The first time I met my wife I don’t really remember it, I was 2/3 of the way through a bottle of Bacardi 151 and don’t remember much. She thought that I was an ass. When I was sober, about 3 weeks later, I met her and it was a different story. I was myself and it made all of the difference in the world. She realized that I was not the same person that she met the first time. That was 15 years ago and we are still together today.
Glad you got the second chance! You’re a perfect example of being yourself, and having the attributes a lot of the women really care about – which in the end made all the difference.
Congrats on fifteen years.
you wish!
i would have thought a guy who has found himself and knows what he wants in life would be up there in the top 3??
my top 3 for a girl would be;
. some1 whos love never changes
. doesnt judge others and treats them like they would like 2 b treated
. has a goal/s in life
Its a tough life sometimes fkorr, especially for some of us real nice guys, actually i had to remove my avatar photo because the girls around here thought i would be a good catch and i had to perswade them otherwise excuse my english as i was dragged up with little schooling.
Oh yes i think i actually did secceed in removing the crush that some of these women had for me thank goodness.
Another good trick is to start wearing a wedding band on your left hand and they get the message really fast and that leaves you in charge to go in and pick the one of your choice.
So many fish in this sea its just sooooo easy for us men to catch a good frisky one if we can visualise what we want and more importantly if we can see the big picture and understand what will be best for us.
But the most important thing is to love the woman enough so as to want to give her the very best of everything forever.
i think you may have to re read the whole thread.
it goes back quite a ways!
someone whose love never changes is not growing/evolving/expanding.
i hope the person im with is constantly changing, or adding-to whatever was felt yesterday.
finding someone who isnt judgmental is a trick, because people confuse judgement with preferences.
i agree with you on this, but isnt it easy to see most people as judgmental when really they are just super picky about likes and dislikes?
i was always judgmental about heavy drug users until i realized my preference was the company of legal activity. now im perfectly fine with drug users and only hang out with drunks.
a guy who has “found himself” and “knows what he wants in life” is delusional. so is the woman, they dont exist.
oh sure, in the moment they know what they want,
but i think we all agree once we get what we think we want our mind changes… and then you have to “find yourself” again
i know your talking about substance.
so some of the girls here like nunya mention “good grooming” as a first choice, because who is going to know you have goals and substance if you dont wash your hair and shave?
Very good advice, Lor!!
Tying this with dating.. when should one go for a first kiss with a woman who is nice and can be naughty? 2nd meeting/date ? Or even first if she shows interest in you like touching you etc ?
I’m wondering. Any more ideas on how to be ‘playful’, ‘fun’ etc..
This has been a very interesting thread to read. The 3 things that I notice first about a guy that I’m attracted to are: his eyes, how he treats those around him, and his sense of self. Also his sense of humor; I cannot stand to be around someone who whines and plays the blame game.
do i have ideas?
mua hahahaha…
definatley wait for the second date.
i think alot of women expect a kiss on the first date, and when they dont get it, it inspires consideration.
if she drops out over the lack of a first-date kiss, then you have saved lots of money and time.
someone who wants you (yes i mean wants you) isnt playing the pick-up games you hear about on the forum.
definately play the pick-up games if you want superficial.
its all good.
being fun and playful is as easy as making a list of things of naughty things, and nice things, and TYING THEM TOGETHER.
ideas can be taylored to your ballsey-ness factor,too.
miniature golf night? missed shots get dares.
(dare you to pretend your an airplane and buzz around that couple over there…)
want to be cute?
pass her a note -
want to get some dinner? circle YES NO MAYBE
of course you can change the question, so that she can take it two ways
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also, being playful and fun it a secret way to see how far someone will go and use that as a measure of interest.
once you have measured the interest to be pretty freakin’ interested,you can basically try whatever you want with relatively low or no risk of losing her
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Phoenix, my philosophy is that flirting is a custom art.
For this reason, I disagree with the PUAs. I think learning your own style, as opposed to a formula, is what brings your charisma to the forefront… and who doesnt want to make-out with a charasmatic date?
thanks for the ideas..
I agree with you.
The heart-based stuff I’ve read pretty much agrees with what you said re having your own style.. I like that.
Yes, I don’t wish to find someone who is superficial. I’ve found too many of those, it seems.
haha thats funny, yeah sometimes its hard to get rid of them… i like the wedding band idea, would have helped in some situations if i had kept 1 handy in my pocket 4 use when needed… i didnt explain myself properly b4 but im glad u knew that i was talking about the important things in life… to be honest i read the topic too quickly and didnt realise it said, the 3 things you like when you “”“”" first"“”“” notice a guy …but nevertheless ill eloborate the points i made;
love never changes — i didnt mean it as never grow, but more like “unconditional love” like when a mother loves her child even if its rebelious swears and hits her.. the relationship is viewed differently but the love for her son still remains, or another example when some1s loves someone, 1 day there friendly and fun and would do anything 4 u and the next day its like there completely change, like i dunno how u can get into a fight or have an argument if u really love some1, sure u can disagree and state ur point of view, but i know i could never bring myself to a point where im angry at her “cause my love doesnt change” the best example i can give is the way God loves us… its always the same even when we sin or if where in hell, just the relationship in which we share would be different if we were in hell.
ok the other 2 points ill leave to ur imagination to expand on
p.s 2day i received my 1st lot of pheremones will let u know how it goes
The things I notice first in a guy…
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How he interacts with others…is he loud and obnoxious or quiet and in the corner? I like them in between…not too shy and quiet like he doesn’t say much but not a nuisance to others. Maybe one that is loud enough that you can tell he’s having fun but doesn’t have to be the center of the whole building/place that he’s in…if that makes sense
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Lauging and happy…it’s refreshing to be around someone who is happy and is funny. I think a nice smile and teeth goes with this one
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His eyes…blue, brown, green , hazel…love em all but some people just have killer gorgeous (sp?) eyes
Malia
oooh i think we’re looking at the same guy,malia!
Lor, you MUST have great taste in men! lol!
Malia
Here I am!
But I was here first! You’ll have to stay in the queue!