Ok now I know you have to be alpha but now lets say you are in a store pushing a cart and you and a cute lady are about to go the same way at the same time and she looks as to say sorry you can go…now do you do the more gentleman thing and say its ok you go ahead or is that being to beta and you should just go and be the man so to speak??
hows that being the man. When they say alpha it doesnt mean slap your women around and wear a wife beater while drinking beer in front of the tv. Being an alpha male means being the hunter, being the mn in charge. in that situation being the man in charge would be smiling and telling her to go ahead before she gets the chance to say it to you.
I think you might be confusing A314 congruency with Instant Jerk congruency. Alpha guys don’t sweat about things like that. Just let the lady pass, make some eye contact, and maybe shoot her a grin. No biggie. Or, better yet if she’s worth it, go ahead and game her.
I agree with you both and thats the route I went with, I had read a post that showed a man showing emotion or caring for his lady and he was labeled as beta and the other man who was somewhat in a whatever look and non emotion was the alpha.
Im glad my thoughts where right cause I dont think I can change that way and therefore this stuff would not be my choice, but all is good…GAME ON 
This situation is all about framing. How YOU perceive your actions in the situation.
Your reaction:
-You let her go first
Beta mentality: …because you put the pussy on a pedestal and society dictates that men should let “ladies go first”. You can’t protect her, but care deeply for her well being.
Alpha mentality: … you give her permission to go first. You are the man, you make the rules. You’re in charge. However, by doing this, you are here to protect her.
Jerk mentality: You don’t even notice her, she’s just background noise.
There are many interpretations of how to “be” alpha, and differences in interpretation over one single state of mind.
Being an alpha isn’t about what actions you’re taking, but its about bettering yourself and others around you. Little things like insults and put downs don’t matter to you, it’s because you are SECURE about yourself.
This all boils down to how chivalrous behavior was interpreted. It all went away with the culture that we have now. Think back to it of why do we let women go in front of us, or hold the door? Was it how we were raised and conditioned by society? Or was it common decency to hold the door for anyone or let a female go by. It really is intended on why you do it, if you do it because you feel that its the right thing to do at the time, and then you have to come up on excuses on why you did it, you’re probably trying to validate things too much, if you’re doing it just because you want to and you feel that its the right thing to do, then you are carefree and the little things don’t bother you.
As for dating and interacting with women, I believe that you have to respect yourself, and put that and your morals first before anything.
Also,
As long are you aren’t smothering her or trying too hard, there isn’t anything wrong with showing emotion out there. Again, its up to you to perceive how that is. If I love a girl and it was the right “moment” I’d show care and emotion towards her, good or bad. You’re human, and you have to know that sometimes that’s ok, just you have to know when the right time and place is for that. This whole dumb macho mentality is all a cover for insecure men to cover their insecurities and faults. They’re acting, not being, and that’s the difference. Do you know how many juiceheads I see cry like a little bitch when their 95 lb girlfriend dumps them. And most people view them as an alpha when they’re really not. When you are, you don’t care how people perceive you, you don’t need to act it, you don’t need to try. It’s the ultimate comfort in your own skin. It sounds arrogant but for me, I don’t really care what people think of me, if I’m an asshole, then I’m an asshole, I say it how it is and when people have things they need to improve on, I tell them, but I don’t break them down to the point they won’t do anything about it, I kick their ass hard enough so that they can jumpstart what they need to.
It’s the same thing with women. Respect for ANYONE is a must, and for women it shouldn’t be different. If she’s a bitch, she just gets ignored, if she gets annoying then she gets put in her place, in a classy mature way. The more you stoop down to their level the more beta you become. I see these douchebags all the time curse women out and call them a number of names because they don’t know how to deal with it. Don’t be that guy. Treat women like how you want the women in your life treated. It will only make this world a better place one person at a time.
Same thing happened to me today,
Look at her and smile, gesture and say lady’s first
Dude… ya… I have seen this way too many times. People think these people are the alpha, because they’re big and cocky, but that’s just a front hiding how vulnerable and scared they really are. I have a friend that is semi-like this just not a deuche, and a lot of girls think that he is alpha. Makes me laugh.. I just wait and let them figure it out on their own 