Hi, I am a young man, 28 yrs of age , who am trying to become the boyfriend with a woman some years older than me (she is 41). Problem is, she does seem interested, but there is soemthing stopping her from wanting to take things a step further than friendship. I was wondering, is there any of the pheromones available on the market that could help me in opening more up and not being afraid of showing initmacy? I’d really appreciate some input on this.
There could be any number of factors in play as to why she won’t take it beyond friendship, Smellthat.
From a strictly pheromone POV, a high dose of androstenone from Heavy Ammo, Turn Up The Heat or maybe Instant Jerk - but be careful, she’ll smell another woman on you - might work if you influence her with them at the right point in her cycle.
Alternatively, go the gentleman route instead of the caveman and use the socials - Instant Openness, Shine, Honesty to open her up.
A314 might work if she’s looking for a man she considers to be mature and more her type.
Musk
Cheers, MuskCloud, I think she wants to open up to me, there’s just something stopping her, she seems nervous and it does really feel like she’s got feelings for me, just that she doesn’t want , or doesn’t dare to confront them. I reckon instant openess maybe is the right then ?
I reckon getting her to open up is the way to go. After all, if you want to “go into battle” it’s better to know what you’re up against, so try and get her to open up more. That way she might let you in on why she’s hesitating. It could be anything from her having been badly burnt in the past and therefore being wary of getting close to anyone, to hang up’s about age difference.
I’d say go for the comfort and intimacy vibes with the phero’s to find out where you stand, then bring out the big guns…the -none
MuskyCloud suggested IG and either IO or IH… I think that sounds like a plan 
Cheers Xiphoid .
I think I should also mention that I’m a very shy guy, and I generally find that women don’t find me sexually attractive. I’m also pretty low on confidence, and it might reflect on my outside, that I dont really have that much positive to say about myself.
Well, first of all… There’s no way that all women find you unattractive. Everyone has different preferences and I really believe there is someone out there for everyone. Take Stephen Hawkins for example; a man I really admire, I’ve read several of his books. He’s a very unfortunate looking man but he’s been married 2? 3? times?
I reckon what you should focus on first is improving you own confidence and try to fight the shyness. Phero’s can really help in that department. I’m not just saying that to be nice, I’m saying it because I have first hand experience of it, and believe me, I’m not the only one. There are many of the forum members here who can tell you about how phero’s helped them break out of their shell or fight social anxiety.
I’ll back Xiphoid up on this, Smellthat. If you need help believing that you can be attractive to women, try my advice in this thread: Good Openers...need help!
The eye opener is a low-risk option for the shy guy. There’s no rejection, no ridicule, you don’t have to follow up if you don’t want to and I guarantee you’ll get a smile out of her at the very least. You’re up and running.
Yep. With the hits I get, my confidence level has gone through the roof. Hobnobbing with executives, chasing blondes in Glasgow, an encounter in the elevator… jeez, I’m surprised I can fit my ego through the door sometimes.
Musk
What ever you decide to wear be sure to include Instant Shine and Instant Openness to the mix. Instant Shine will make you feel good about yourself and Openness will make you and her chatty … a good thing …
There’s two things i forgot to say.
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she sees me as a coward.
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She’s attracted to what she can’t get. I mean, she falls in love with people who are allready taken or lives too far away. Might be some intimacy problem.
I’m wondering wether this added info will swing the compass needle towards other stuff, or you people still reckon that what’s been said is right in this situation.
Edit: 3. She loves James Bond and Clint Eastwood, both alphas. hehe
This is a matter of self confidence. If you don’t believe you can, then you can’t. That’s the easiest way I can put it. This is something you have to work on. Something that helped me gain confidence in the past was smiling at every girl that I walked past. Didn’t matter if they were good looking or not, I smiled regardless. If they were hot, I’d say what’s up, and often times they would initiate conversation with me. Conversation with every woman, hot or not, is good practice. I actually made a pretty long post about it all here: Help me out! Need some general advice from all you dating guru's out there it’s about halfway down the page.
Pheromone wise, try A314 if you haven’t already. 2-3 drops should be good. All the TUTH and -none in the world won’t do a thing for you if she isn’t attracted to you to begin with.
Then there is most likely nothing you can do about it, she is hard-wired to be self-destructive. Don’t be surprised if you don’t get anywhere with her. She was probably burned very badly in the past and is still getting over it.
Also, are you trying to have a serious relationship with this woman or just play the field and see what happens? If you have your mind set on her then I guess pursue it, but if it’s just something you are curious about, you may want to rethink it. Have you thought about the possibility that she just isn’t into you? Or maybe she doesn’t like younger guys?