Okay. Just finished going to the bars tonight. Once again, I failed miserably. I sorta know the reason why (in the back of my head) but I still need someone else to tell it to me. I want to get this settled out before I try on the pheromones, which should be arriving next week (VERY EXCITED!)
Even though I stated this in my introductory post, I should probably give you guys an idea of my history, since its very important to my questions.
I was very anti social in high school. In fact, I kept completely to myself. I was extremely shy. I had never gotten into a sexual situation in HS. Through these last 3 years of college, I have changed from being a complete anti social introvert to a relatively social-loving person. I found a group of guys that I can relate to, and that I feel comfortable in. As the years went on however, I grew…and I felt that I have grown to the point in which I am much more socially adept than they are. The group of friends that I am with are reflections of my former self - socially awkward, not good with women. I found I ostracized myself, for the simple fact that our interests simply do not meet. I dont enjoy hanging out with them anymore because all they do is sit around, smoke weed, and have boring conversations about life. I want to go out and meet people, and flirt with girls. In fact, I found myself looking at some PUA which I find some people using some terminology here on the forums 
This is a problem, because I ask people how they met their boyfriend/girlfriend, and alot of the times they say they meet him/her through a friend. But I dont have that luxury. My friends NEVER EVER meet anyone new!!!
In the last 3 months I have experienced more hook ups with women in my ENTIRE LIFE. In fact, the experiences that I have had this year have been so radical to me, I feel as if I had woken up from a deep sleep. A very deep sleep.
But I am still frustrated. Most of the hookups I have had were with mediocre looking women, women I wasnt very attracted to and mostly did it for the experience. I find I excel at talking up people in low key environments, like small house parties. But these small house parties are few and far between, the majority of people here go to bars and large banger parties. But I dont know what to do when walking into bars. I go into a bar, and find myself intimidated by the loud music and all the people talking. Alot of the times, the bars at my college are very crowded, full of people. Its hard to talk to anyone, because the music is so loud. And I havent the slightest clue of what to do. I feel weird grinding up against girls that I just meet. I’m afraid of looking like a creeper being forward. Am I alone here? What am I doing wrong?
What is so appealing about bars? I cant share a good conversation in there with fun flirtations that I can do at small house parties. Really, I’d like to know. How do you meet girls? My “friends” cant help me. They never bother to meet new people. I find myself in a rut. Talking to girls in day to day activities is difficult, let alone flirting with them. The ironic thing is, Ive been told I’m not bad looking, hell, some girls say I’m cute.
How can I turn my life around? Please, help me. I want to experience what other guys experience with girls; flirting with girls they find attractive, dating them, etc. But I have never had a girlfriend yet, and I only have another year here (I’m staying a 5th) before I leave, and I want to turn my life around so I can say that I finally really enjoyed college. Because right now, I’m not. I’m simply frustrated as hell, and not just sexually.
No wonder why my avatar is a caged lion, because thats exactly how I feel right now.
I honestly can’t remember what brought about this change in me, but it changed everything for me. I stopped caring about what people thought of me and did things because I wanted to and because I liked it. I also stopped caring what girls thought of me. If I hit on a girl and she denied me, then I just thought screw it, there are tons of other girls that would be into me, and I would find them.
. But yeah, don’t feel weird, and even more important, don’t feel bad when you get turned down. I say “when” and not “if” because you will get turned down, we ALL do. It’s all just a numbers game really, especially at a bar/club. Don’t let one, two, or even 10 rejections make you feel bad and make you stop trying. There have been times when I got shot down like 4 or 5 times in a row by different girls, only to end up with the hottest girl in the club by the end of the night.
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