hey everyone! im posting in the mens section because i need a little help from you guys lol. actually just your preference is all i really need ( i’ll try not to make this too complicated )
let me just start out by describing myself first.
im a young college girl, my hair is always done, wavy loose curls usually.
i dont wear ALOT of makeup. well .eh. well, i always paint up my eyes and usually wear like a blush or something since my skin is clear. no lipgloss.
i have a pretty average body, average height 5’6. my chest, waist, and back are usually emphasized.
i’m naturally an outgoing person, i’m really charismatic and i love talking.
but ever since i’ve became more and more confident, and grown into my “big girl body”[recent]] i’ve been more distant, but still there. more like.. mysterious. (sorry about all the grammatical mistakes, this is just my natural way of writing. im alot smarter than i sound i swear lol) and believe me i can pull off the mystery.
i guess im just tired of always being the sweet kind outgoing, social girl that can capture a heart so easily. and yeah it is extremely undifficult. lol. so im just trying out a new, skin, i guess. seeing how it goes. but i need a peak behind the minds of the general male population.
soooo my question for you guys is,
how do you prefer your crushes/love interests,
being as more open, social, lovable, orrr being more mysterious, soft spoken, magnetic?
any and all tips/advice/answers are welcomed and they will help my dilemma! thank you.
interesting question - i don’t know if our preferences will help you … i would rather say that it depends which guys you want to attract…
If you want to attract the mysterious guys and want them to work harder to get you then it helps to be mysterious yourself - be a challenge and you will attract guys who will challenge you (if its too boring with the nice guys).
If you are open and lovable you will attract interesting guys as well (and MAYBE even more caring ones as the mysterious guys) but you will also attract a LOT of boring guys - and as you said its no challenge.
YOU have to choose what you want and what fits your personality…
i personally like both types - the open ones more for a relationship and the mysterious ones more for short encounters… but for me to have a crush / love interest depends more on chemistry and looks as on personality types. (which doesn’t mean that i am superficial — rather flexible)
Yeah it’s a difficult question to answer, because I’m sure there are guys out there who digg both types of chicks…
But with that being said here’s my thoughts on the matter; personally I digg the cute, friendly and outgoing sort of girl. They are FAR more enjoyable to be around. I know a lot of girls out there think it’s cool to be what they consider “mysterious and magnetic”, no offense but most guys I know usually take that that sort of attitude to mean that the girl’s a bitch. And personally I wouldn’t bother giving the bitchy/high maintenance type the time of day. Although I know that some guys out there enjoy that sort of challenge.
My advice to you is this: I know it’s a cliche but just be yourself. Even if you could successfully pull off this transformation, sooner or later you meet someone who will be attracted to that attitude and you will get comfortable. And you will likely at some point let your guard down and be your normal self, and in the process you will likely alienate the person who the person who thought you were someone else.
If your have a problem with guys falling in love with you you should take a good look at your interpersonal relations and maybe pull back on your friendliness a little, and be careful not to lead guys on. Which would probably be a lot easier to do than taking on a whole new persona.
Ugh, I’m starting to feel like Dear Abby right now, anyway those were my thoughts…
I like women smart, accomplished, honest and outgoing but I realize many men are threatened by that so what the hell. You can never be all things to all people, so forget about fakin’ it. Like the soulful one wrote, “just be yourself” and eventually you’ll hit paydirt.
I’ve gone through stages where I acted a role to the hilt and, while I was good enough to get results, ultimately I wasn’t happy being someone I wasn’t. I seem to get the best results just doing my best to be me.
Open, honest, cute, lovable, and soft spoken. Those are good combinations.
On top of that, I would look for someone who has her head on her shoulders.
A girl who takes the initiative of doing something with her life, not partying and getting drunk every weekend and then feeling guilty/bad about what happened after all is said and done…
and looks as on personality types. (which doesn’t mean that i am superficial — rather flexible)