What do you mean by this? This is a compliment right?
I view the sex thing as a secondary objective. I want a woman to recognise me as an attractive male and want to spend time with me. And maybe the sex will come then. I see a clear distinction between fucking and lovemaking. Seeing a hooker will not solve anything. One can only fuck a hooker. I guess a girlfriend or love interest you can fuck AND make love to. I’ll go see a hooker when I decide to definately throw in the towel…
Most women of my age I know are more acquaintances then ‘friends’. Most are the girlfriends of my buddies and I only see them when I see those buddies. Last year I realised I need female friends and it looked I was going to succeed. I was hanging out with one but I fucked it up big time. I fell in love. This is pretty easy when you are close to a woman, which usually never happens. Ofc I told her and did all the needy clingy stuff and was FZ’d. In hindsight I think I could’t handle doing stuff with an attractive woman, she spending time with me I mean. This is the girl I broke of contact with some time earlier. My reasons for this are a couple of pages back.
At this moment I do not have ‘acces’ to female friends. I don’t know how to get one or more either. I never meet any women who are single anyway, they always have boyfriends. Most guys are too possessive to let their gf’s have male friends.
Hey Bolkie, would you mind posting a picture of yourself while out or dressed up as you would be going out so we could take a look at your going out attire? Maybe you’re wearing stuff that’s not attention grabbing enough or is too “stuffy” for a younger woman.
Well it looks like your dress attire is ok. And you’re definitely a good looking guy. I have a similar build and skin tone to you as well. Hit the gym a little harder to bulk up and hit the tanning bed once a week and that will both do wonders for you as well. Also make sure you are always clean and smelling good. Make sure your nails are always cut and not too long and keep your smile bright with a tooth whitening system…either over the counter or if you can afford it by your dentist. All this stuff does wonders for a good first impression…it will make heads start to turn in your direction and keep them there.
Actually I’m glad you posted these pics. 2 things I noticed. Hands in pockets and you don’t appear to be relaxed. Also, I can’t understand how you don’t have any female friends. Maybe there is a cultural difference? Females will help polish you. They are good to have around to bounce your thoughts off of. How often do you get to talk the opposite sex? You need those connections to help you grow. Find some girls that you can talk to. Even if you think they are ugly. This helps you with other interactions with women you do like.
My suggestion for the rest of the week is socials. Lots of io. Drop the -none and the a314. I don’t think those are helping you right now. Spend time just talking to girls for thee sake of talking. No agenda. Just talk. Meet people.
Like I said in an earlier post, I think I come across as serious, on edge and overall not relaxed. When my face is in ‘neutral’ it might look like I’m a bit grumpy, definately not having fun. Do you know of any techniques or other stuff that would make me grin/smile more? I needed to do a smile for a photo the other day and it felt so very unnatural, like my face muscles don’t know how to do it anymore. When I was younger I had no trouble with that…this needs to be fixed indeed.
OK well then I’m sure that this is a major problem with attracting women. That’s why I want you to drop the A314 and any -none products. If you look grumpy and give off a high test or high value vibe, it’s going to be hard for people to talk to you. You need to come off more playful. I seriously suggest that you start using high IO doses. Have you done a sweet spot test with IO yet? If not do it.
Practice smiling in the mirror. I used to do that everyday when I remade myself in HS.
Do you really think this is a huge issue? Maybe I am underestimating this. It is not that people think I am unfriendly or something. But then ofcourse they have already talked to me.
The -nol products I own are all in to-go (half full), so if I want to start experimenting with them I need to order 30ml’s. I can allocate some money once again to buying these. Shall I order 2x or 4x straight away, so I can save money on them? Or would this impede to much on the sweet spot testing?
edit: Money is starting to become an issue. I will only order IOx2. IH will come in the future.
You posted 6 pics. You look approachable in 1. Obviously I haven’t met you in person, but from the pictures I would say that you are closed. Even in the picture with the big smile where you appear approachable, it looks like you are closed or hiding something because your hands are in your pockets.
You should be able to get some decent test with the togo bottles. If it’s halfway full you should have 20 shots left. do the sweet spot test. You should get 5 days of testing out of that. That lets you test up to 5 sprays. Once you know if your sweet spot is over 5 sprays you will know what to order next.
Yes I really think this is an issue and JosieW is 100% right. You need to lay the heck off of anything other than socials except a small dose of ammo. I just sent you 4X Ishine and IO so don’t be alarmed by the order. Its on “Loan” until you clear up your money issues. Here’s what you can do to pay us back though; you can welcome our newest members to the forum whenever they sign up. First second or third gets reward points and when you have enough calculated I’ll deduct them and you can live in happiness knowing I won’t send the HIT MAN to collect.
Or you can simply make payments until you are cleared up over time as your finances allow you to. Either way it’s important what JosieW is saying because if you feel like you’re unapproachable, act like you’re unapproachable, talk and smile like you’re unapproachable, then you’re unapproachable! Smiling is a HUGE part of this and I had to learn to smile too. A man who gets the pink and squishy often is always smiling. Socials for you my friend, socials.
Steve, you scared the crap out of me !! I just got 2 emails with order confirmations on my phone. Within one minute I logged into the shop and wrote a ticket to tell you guys I did not order anything ! I kinda panicked and thought my account was hijacked. So what to do now?
EDIT: Allright, Mickaelia was lightning fast to respond and was aware of this custom order. Now I feel bad about panicking. Alpha’s don’t do that
EDIT2: I want to write all kinds of thanks and hallelujah’s but quite frankly I am speechless…
This weekend will be a prime testing occasion. I am again invited to watch my favourite football team at an away match. This time I am sure it will be a real skybox in which we be chilling in hardcore fashion. The guy who invited me and my buddy is a 27 year old millionaire. He drives an Audi R8. Who knows what kind of entourage we will encounter? This will be so much fun.
The match is on sunday but it is all the way across our country so we will travel there on saturday. Saturday evening we will go out in the city centre, I have never been there, but everybody has great stories about it. It is a college city.
So there will be going to bars on saturday and the match (beautiful students will probably serve our drinks there) on sunday. I am going to take your advice to heart. I will be bringing the to-go’s of IO, IS and Ammo with me. The a314 stays at home.
I understand the max amount of Ammo is 1 spray for me from now on. Shall I go wild with the IO and IS ?
This is easily corrected. Smiling is very important in all aspects of life. Even sales books will stress that you need to smile at all times…even when you’re not happy. This is easily accomplished by the half smile or grin. It’s not a full smile so you don’t have to stress out your face muscles and feel unnatural. Practive this by looking in the mirror and with your mouth closed start to smile just until the edges of your mouth start to curve upwards. Don’t go too far as it’s not necessary…just go until they start to curve upawrds. Now look at yourself in the mirror and notice how even though you’re not particularly happy at this moment, you actually look happy! And the funny part is that as you are looking at yourself in the mirror with this “smiling grin” you will actually start to feel happy inside just as someone else would that see you like this! You can and should practice this everywhere, looking happy all day and night. Anyone who is looking at you will see that smile and start to feel good because it will be perimantly plastered on your face. Smiling is like yawning…it’s contageous! You will be amaized at how people will respond differently to you when you do this.
I kinda postponed the report, because I feel there is not really anything to report on. I’m letting you guys down.
I went out saturday night and to the match on sunday. I had a great time but as usual nothing happened in the attraction and or women department. There were no approach invitations and no woman looked me in the eye. Apart from the people I was with and guys in general, nobody gave me a second look. I went heavy on the IS and IO. It feels like light bends around me…
Tomorrow one of my friends is turning 30 and we are throwing him a huge surprise party. A lot of people will be there, but all women will be with husbands and boyfriends. The friend zone girl will be there…that will be interesting. She will be throwing all kinds of stories my way to see if I will get jealous. I am going to hit her hard with at least 3 drops of my a314 rev 27 extra none ( I’ll be opening the bottle just for this).
Saturday I will be at a large wedding party. It is a muslim wedding, so there is no alcohol and I am guessing the women there will be insanely inhibited. I think it will be fun though, me and some buddies are suiting up of course.
Good luck at the wedding tonight. Don’t worry about hooking up…it will happen. Just smile, have a good time and try to flirt with as many women as possible. lol I know you don’t drink, but a little aclohol will help put a smile on your face. Why don’t you drink? Personal preference or religous?
No I am not religious. Well I believe in God, just not in religion. I quit drinking some three years ago. I drank a lot back then and I decided to live the rest of my life with a clear head. I changed a lot of my lifestyle since then and not drinking is just part of that ongoing change.
The wedding was…different. My friend, who got married, is Turkish and muslim. There was no alcohol. There were over 800 people there. I have never ever, and I swear I am telling the truth, seen so many absolutely beautiful women in my life. It was insane. Me and some other buddies were literally gazing. These turkish women are still really feminine in relation to more western women. These women are ofcourse also western, but different. I don’t know how to explain. The men are men and the women are women. Unfortunately it was impossible to mingle with them. There are invisible shields around them, the brothers, cousins and fathers. And when you are not turkish it is impossible to date one. But man, if you like brunettes, go to a turkish wedding.
Yesterday, at the birthday party, a strange thing happened. I appears I got a hit. The friends zone girl told me today. She had observed me. Apparently a girl I do not know very well was hitting on me. Being the guy that I am I did not even notice. But thinking back, I think she was right. The girl was gazing in my eyes all the time. But I did not think anything of it, because she is married and her husband was around all the time. The husband is a cool guy. Also I am not attracted to her. What gave it away the most (according to FZ girl) was that the girl lit a cigarette in her own mouth then offered it to me. Apparently this is considered flirty behaviour. Why is this so hard for me to notice? I am not autistic. Btw, I looked like a million bucks.
I was wearing 3 drops of a314 rev 27. Shortly before the hit I added a spray of IJ, because I felt like it and I know the FZ girl is ovulating. I know I shouldn’t even bother with her, but it is out of my control…all logic goes out of the window when I am dealing with her.
