On Monday night, I went on a date with a girl I met online. We met very quickly; the time between the first message I sent and her standing in front of me was just four days. There were no bumps along the way or last-minute postponements. At the same time, the hits I got were very confusing. It’s why I waited a day to integrate all this properly before posting a report. This lady is 33, Caucasian.
I wore the following. I originally wanted to wear more MX353, but decided to stick with 1 spray, to avoid possible ghosting or OD’ing. Here it is:
MX353: 1 spray on front of neck
Instant Honesty: 1 spray on forehead
Instant Gentleman: 1 spray on forehead
Cover scent: Lacoste cologne, 2 sprays
Self effects
I found myself rambling a bit here or there, on date-appropriate topics only. (Except one instance; see below.) I was also more forward with my physical affections than usual on a typical first date.
Hits from venue employees
Nothing I noticed.
Inside Caribou Coffee
She waited outside the coffee shop, and greeted me with a hug. It’s a greeting I adopted for myself on all first dates, because it achieves a critical task: breaking the touch barrier. We ordered our drinks, and sat down. We talked about the usual date topics, and the conversations flowed very smoothly. At one point, I decided to start escalating things, and put my hand on hers. She smiled, turned her hand upwards, and gently squeezed my hand. “Touchdown! MX353 in action,” I thought.
Walking around the mall: before
She affectionate and touchy-feely, and showed no negative reactions when I did things like put my arm around her and hold her hand. Even better: she responded in kind, pressing into me or squeezing my hand each time. As we walked around, we stopped at a candy store, and bought some chocolate-covered gummy bears. The mall was quite empty that night. We sat down side-by-side in a booth in a deserted food court. As we talked, there was that pause where the only right course of action is to go for a kiss. So I did.
Walking around the mall: after
She did not allow the kiss, effectively turning it into a peck. Right after, she started talking at length about what she’s looking in online dating, the guys she’s met previously, and how she slept with one of them on the first date. This isn’t an IH hit; it’s an IH knockout! In an attempt to push back when pushed, in a way, I mentioned a one-night stand I had, and even changed a few details to make it sound more exciting. Toward the end of the date, she seems to have calmed down, as was as affectionate as earlier, but a bit of low-level awkwardness persisted. As we parted ways, said she wants to see me again, and was practically trying to sell me the idea (by saying how she’s free most nights and likes getting together with people, and I can call her anytime), but I’m wondering if she meant as a friend. To be safe, I’ll do the three-day rule before calling/texting, even though it’s not universal anymore.
The aftermath
Whoa! This has got to be the most confusing date I’ve had in years. All I’m feeling toward this girl now is a mix of annoyed and confused. I don’t know if I even want to see her again. (Although the possibility of sex makes it worthwhile.) Her signals were so mixed, they were blending together. On one hand, she was enjoying me touching her everywhere non-sexual, and even responded in kind. On the other hand, she refused the kiss and talked about other dudes she’s been with (a MAJOR date etiquette breach).
Conclusion
I’m trying to figure out the following.
- Was her rambling about other guys a counter-reaction to the potential chemistry she felt and got shocked by? Or was it IH talking?
- Was her rambling about other guys a sh*t test? Did I pass it or fail it?
- Until the rambling, she seemed like a cool girl. Any potential here? Or should I beat her to the punch by telling her I didn’t feel a connection?
- Was her behavior toward the end an attempt at damage control on her part?
- If I see her again (unlikely), what pheromones should I wear?
On the plus side, I’m going to a salsa night with my sports group this weekend. Another girl I like will be there. I know her in person, and flirted with her a few times. She’s 24, Latina. She’s shown some low-level IOI’s. I’m planning to use MX353 on her instead. And maybe lay off IH. If all goes well, a report is in order.
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