I find this girl cute, but I don’t really have any feelings for her.
She’s a freshmen (in college, I’m a sophomore), and she has a long-term boyfriend (went to high school with him, but doesn’t go to college with him).
I always talk to her, even though on of her best friends likes me. I usually hang around with her when I’m around the girl that likes me. It’s quite obvious to me that they are trying to make me “jealous” by mentioning boys that check out the girl that likes me. It’s mostly this girl that says things like “that cute boy was checking you out, you should hook up with him.”
This girl also ALWAYS tries to put me down. She calls me an old man, says my colognes smell bad (haha, wearing my usual Old Spice deodorant, SOMETIMES the A314 w/ CTTM2 and a little Ammo), and just spews “hate” to me. All of her friends (except for one, a girl that I’m friendly with but she’s VERY attached to her boyfriend) have hit on me in the past. I’ve given this girl many opportunities to mention her boyfriend, but she always seems to go away from the topic of her boyfriend when I’m in the room.
Now, I constantly tell her I hate her, and that I want to fight her, and she always gives me a look and says “I’m fine with that.” When she gets drunk, she always screams my name and comes into my room.
Now, again, I’m not going to make anything out of this. I’m just curious. Is it a girl that likes having a guy to hit on with her boyfriend away, or is it just a girl that sees me as a close friend and possibly dating one of her best friends soon (which is probably not the case, I don’t think I’m interested in her friend)?
She gets your attention and the sex from her boyfriend.
Don’t be that guy, I say though, try because we’ve all done it, and that’s the only way you’ll learn, that’s how I did and learned that it’s not worth it, but this is specifically why I don’t touch taken.
She’s not getting any sex. She’s a virgin and is very open about it haha. I do sneak in virgin jokes here and there.
Nahh, it’s not like that. She’s a girl that I’d hit if the situation arose, but I’m not working for anything. If things stay the way they are, I’m perfectly fine with that. IDK maybe it’s best to hang around and if she breaks up with her boyfriend, be the rebound guy.
Girls like attention, we are more social. Thats it LOL It doesnt mean we want to go out with you.
I would say she likes you ok as a friend. She probably is trying to get you jealous when she mentions other guys to this girl who does like you so that you make a move and ask the friend who like you out.
She rags on you because your her friend. Girls tend to not do that with guys they hope to date.
Especially since I said I may live in an apartment next year, and she said “I wouldn’t mind living in an apartment with you, if you’re quiet.” Another girl said no way she’d live with me because there would be so much sexual tension between us, and it may ruin our friendship.
I think the latter makes sense, the former is basically saying “we’re friends, no sexual tension will be involved.”
With the other girl (one who likes me) she’s a sweet girl, kind of cute, very naive. As an undergrad, “getting some” is quite important to me, and with her I will be “getting none,” and I think that may be keeping me from sealing the deal with her.
I don’t know if her friends think I’m oblivious to the fact that she likes me, or if they actually think I really do like her. I have NO CLUE.
A wise man once told me (AKA my pimp cousin ) “If you have to think about if you like her like that, you probably don’t.” This is probably why I’m not sealing the deal, but I know if I were to ask her out on a date tomorrow, she may play the “I don’t know” card, but I’d eventually get it. I don’t know if it’s what I’m looking for right now though.
So when your done being a undergrad you wont want to “get some” anymore ? (snort)
Umm I dont think that has much to do with you being a undergrad. Last time I looked it was important for most 20 to 70 year old males. Good news is that means your normal LOL
Oh, its so good to be female! I think I’d be depressed growing older knowing I’d left behind my sexual prime years/decades ago.
Anyway, I think I agree with Tisha, but it is hard to say. Think about it: if girl A does like you, she is going to feel very serious pressure to repress that, because her friend girl B likes you. She may feel somewhat attracted to you but her friendship is more important.
I think any relationship that comes out of this may be a little twisted
The best thing for you would be to do things that insure your having fun and not limiting your options. Then treat these girls as something to have fun with but not be emotionally invested into. Don’t even think about if they like you or not, think if your having fun or not. They will gravitate to you by having less ‘pressure’. If the time comes and there is an opportunity to get what you want if these girls are what you want then go get it. Personaly I would aim for something more emotionally mature.
It also sounds like shes not totally into none products (hence the being old comment), maybe try some socials if you want better chemistry, like instant shine with cttm2.
Could be the alcohol talking, could be the IS crash doing some yelling. Just had this lightbulb of a thingamajig as I was reading this
You could try a couple of mixes, bring both of the girls on a night out, probably the beach, look out point or having some “drinking games” in your room and see if any of them might land you a threesome. From none, to thinking you should get some, to.. well.. three-some. A whole lotta fun.
If you get around to testing any and if it does work, we could call it the “threesome mix”
All girls flirt, question is how far they go. If she’s with a guy and gets some loven from you then she’s bad news, if you ever ended up with her you can be sure another fella is also in the picture somewhere lol
What you should do is bust her balls on hitting on ya and that your not that kinda guy lol tell her if she doesn’t knock it off she is in for a spanking..oh wait I think this may encourage more LOL ma bad
) “If you have to think about if you like her like that, you probably don’t.” This is probably why I’m not sealing the deal, but I know if I were to ask her out on a date tomorrow, she may play the “I don’t know” card, but I’d eventually get it. I don’t know if it’s what I’m looking for right now though.