Eye Candy: What we like in a man ...

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Oh I absolutely agree, however, that is not what this thread was about.
It’s about eye candy, what you can visibly see.
Ive been out w/what I would consider “male bimbo” and he was fine for a first date, but I quickly learned I just could not do it.
He rubbed me wrong in every way possible. I rolled my eyes so many times Im surprised they didnt fall out.
I could go into details but I wont lol.

Now, my bf is extremely intelligent too smart for his own good really.
Honestly, if you looked up “geek” in the dictionary, his picture would probably be there.
He’s not supremely tall (5’8), he doesnt have a six pack or those big muscular biker legs I like (he reminds me that he did when he use to ride his bike 10 miles a day two and from college lol), he actually has chicken legs.
He was born to be an engineer basically. He is extremely mechanically inclined and can pretty much take anything apart and put it back together. He knows his stuff, I find that extremely sexy, we dont need to call anyone to fix stuff, he gets the job done. :cool:

I think he is very good looking, he has good facial bone structure, but he’s not a “male model” or even close.
People have said he looks similar to Harry Potter and Sean Lennon.
He is half Korean and half German.

He has dark hair, brown eyes, taller than me, nice obvious veins in the hands, arms, & neck, strong jaw line. Arm hair that lies perfectly in line like someone took the time to brush it that way lol. And lots of other good stuff inside and out.

He is exotic in so many ways, and yet so familiar. Does he fit that “ideal” image I described? Uhh no, but that is more than ok. I love him more than words can say, and Ive tried. Oh and I know we will make beautiful babies, and in the end that’s what we (humans) were meant to do. :stuck_out_tongue:
I dont think Ive ever met anyone quite like him.
There’s just something about him,
I admit he is not for every girl, many probably couldnt handle him, but Ive seemed to manage him so far. :cool:

He was born in Seoul Korea, but grew up in South Carolina primarily w/his paternal German grandparents, so he has that southern gentleman charm about him.

Opposites do attract, but at the same time you still need to have enough things in common so that the gears can still run smoothly. So while we are very different, we manage to compliment eachother most of the time.

I admit I do care about what someone looks like, I have certain things I am attracted to physically, but I dont need or expect perfection in a person. Lord knows Im far from perfect. Imperfections are what keep things interesting.
I think it’s natural to be physically attracted to our mates.
The looks get them the “interview”, substance is what gets them the “job”.

Our relationship sometimes reminds me of that song, “hate that I love you”.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vm_PT7wBiJU YouTube - Rihanna Ft Neyo Hate That I Love You Music Video

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Strong jaw line?
In general Id say for me personally, yes.
I like things to be proportionate, like Im not attracted to facial bones like say Skeletor or Marc Anthony (but hey he’s good enough for J. Lo, to each their own.)

and suits?
In general, not really.
Im more of a blue jean, tshirt kinda girl.
It’s all about context/circumstances though.

All of this depends on the girl though. So I cant speak for every woman.

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Ashesblue:

i know what the thread is about, i tried answering way back when it was originally started !

:smiley:

my post basically said i cant “see” eyecandy.
im blind to it until they speak.

i have had way too many men flex in front of me to get a free drink i guess :roll_eyes:

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That’s very awesome of you. I respect that.

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Well Hell Bella LOL I thought we were just taking visual. If were talking about up close and hands on its a whole different ball game. If I told you what I like then Steve would hunt me down and spank me. :open_mouth: Hey that sounds fun LOL :stuck_out_tongue:

Tisha

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You’re right, this thread was started because when guys ask us what we women go for, what turns us on, our answers on the forum are usually about internal qualities, persona, behavior or attitude, or how they make us feel. The guys, being so much more visual (as a group) were feeling kind of unsatisfied with those answers. This thread was an attempt to give them what they wanted >> women being purely superficial lusty wenches :smiley:

We aim to please. :stuck_out_tongue:

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Oh gosh I wasnt trying to say you didnt know what the thread was about, that wasnt my intention, I was afraid it might come off that way.
I hope you were not offended by that, I just wasnt sure how to start off my thread.

I just had to defend my previous post lol. It’s not like I dont give a crap about what’s on the inside. I just couldnt help myself.
I think neither of our views is more valid than the other, just different.
:cool:

When I was single and use to go to dance clubs, I very rarely got offered free drinks. :frowning: lol
It’s kinda funny that both me and my current bf went to the same club about ten years ago, but never knew it. I dont think he danced very much though lol.

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im too thick to get offended
dont give me too much credit :smiley:

actually, my response was a lame attempt at being funny .

:cool:<--------me, with very dark glasses on.
cannot get excited over someone who works out to get noticed.

now, working out to be healthy, thats entirely different.

i find it interesting that we come a little closer as a gender to getting what we are looking for in a partner,
the guys on the other hand dont as often have or get what they are describing.

atleast, not in my biz.

they really really describe one thing,
but their girlfriends/wives are the opposite
:confused:

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Have you some examples? And why do you think this is?

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Gosh I really hate to assume what Lor meant, however Ill take a stab at it.
Maybe because what the average (now dont jump on me, Im not saying every man, in every circumstance) man finds the most attractive is someone similar to a Playmate or Angelina Jolie (perhaps more during her Tomb Raider days, rather than now) or similar type, but they end up not actually marrying someone like that?
err I dunno lol.
I can think of all kinds of reasons why that could be true.

While maybe she has read us describe what we (females) find attractive in general, and then from other posts have read what our mates actually are like, and she finds a similarity of what we find attractive and the our mates?

Also I know a lot of women who have posted pictures of actors they think are “hot” (in other forums I go to)and they arent what id consider “models” or men that would be considered as commericially beautiful. This could be because women will mesh the characters/actors personality w/their unorthodox good looks? I know a lot of women who find Hugh Laurie very attractive, but you wont be seeing him on People’s most beautiful list.

I mean there are many of famous musician’s, that I personally find creepy and unappealing, but they have tons of females falling all over them.
Something about them makes them appear attractive, like a magic spell.
Wether it be wealth, power, attitude, all of the above.
The musician that pops into my head are Mick Jagger, no offense if you happen to find him “hot”. :stuck_out_tongue:

While I dont think I have ever personally heard a man I know go gah gah over a woman that isnt considered “commercially beautiful”. I think men and women are just different (obviously) and that’s what makes it us both so interesting.

Ive also never found “muscle heads” attractive. They tend to spend the majority of their time at the gym and not at a lot of other places. To me it sort of shows me what’s important to them. Of course there are exceptions.
It just seems like an unhealthy glorification of what it is to be a “virile man”.
Their definition and mine are totally different.

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I guess the men who considered Angelina Jolie to be stunning would marry a look alike if a woman like that would be interested in him. But if they don’t look like Brad Pitt and are not so rich they can attract a golddigger, plain Jane is more available. Or maybe they would want to sleep with a girl like that, even if her personality was unattractive enough to repel the handsome/rich competition, but would have other priorities for a wife.

I think women are a lot less likely to be aroused by men who are not marriage material.

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Yes, that much is true. There arent a ton of Angelina Jolie’s out there.
I saw a show that said studies show women are attracted by the “buff macho” type men for shallow/casual coughs relationships, but when it comes to marriage their ideal mate looks different.

My bf’s build and some of his characteristics are similar to my father when he was younger. Nearly the same height, weight, hair color, skin color, but their personalities do have some striking differences. I dont think thats by accident. My bf is half Asian so his build isnt exactly “incredible hulk”, more like “spiderman” haha, he has muscles they just fit his smaller bone structure.

I just think our descriptions have more of a leeway than the men’s description? bleh who knows.
“They” also say men are more visual creatures overall than women, and women are more emotional.
They also say men can be totally turned on by just looking at a picture of a female (porn lol), where women tend to be a bit more complicated
I also have to remind myself that the largest sex organ is the brain. :wink:

I was looking at a book called Amazon.com A Girl’s Guide to Dating a Geek , and the author mentioned that when said geeks are teenagers they arent exactly what every girl looks for in a boyfriend, but once they are adults, they actually can make really good husbands and fathers, and tend to have a lot of the attributes women want for the long haul
I cant speak for all geeks, but the one I have fits into that niche very well.

I hope my posts dont come off as me “hating” men, because I don’t, I love men. I have also always been a daddy’s girl and I have a very good relationship w/my father.

Im not really sure of my point really lol.

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cause we want what we don’t have. Whatever is “missing” is what we “want” and describe. Or thats the way I see it.

Me, I’m kinda like Lor, cept I don’t have the same willpower (i’ll give you the time of day if I find you extremely attractive physically even if you’re dumb as a door nail for about 30 minutes or until I want to bash my head, whichever comes first). Hottest thing for me, if she doesn’t give a fuck what other people think of her. She’s just herself. That’s insanely hard to find. Intelligent women are beautiful. Independent women are sexy.

Eye candy wise… smile and the way they dress I suppose. Sucker for a girl who’s got a great smile in a white t and jeans (if it looks good on her).

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Eye Candy Wise

Height: 5’7-and up I love tall guys, they can reach the high stuff off the shelves; btw I am 5’2-5’3
Hair Color/Length: I love dark hair on a guy. So dark browns, red and pure black. Any length except buzz cut, fade, or bald. Short-long hair it really depends on the guy’s face structure.
Eye Color/Eye Shape: Eyes color doesn’t really matter to me , rather the amount of emotion expressed through them. Almond/cheeky eyes.
Lips: Full lips
Skin Color/Ethnicity:While my motto is “Taste the rainbow” I have a weakness for Asian guys. East Asian and middle eastern.
Style: Fashion Forward- he can wear anything and look hot.
Body Type: Tall lean with muscles. The v-shape can be appealing if its balanced out with broader shoulders.
Facial Hair: Not really a fan of facial hair.
A guy with a blend of feminine and masculine features
Symmetrical face, high cheekbones

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I hear you girl.

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Eye candy for me are guys who show me that they think I am eye candy. It is a turn on for me when a good looking guy shows me that he finds me attractive and it’s usually what makes me notice him. I rarely ever notice guys who are just minding their own business. I like guys who are physically fit who have a good looking, above average face. I notice the whole pacakge and while I have my preferances, I am not picky. I’m married though and only interested in platonic relationships so maybe that’s why. I enjoy hanging out with the eye candy, but I also enjoy average looking guys just as much as long as the personality is good, that’s what I really care about.

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So who wants to go first? :smiley:

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Sorry P. I got a Pakistini hottie that is not letting me go.

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Sry I already have my eye on this Korean/japanese hottie.

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Damn tough crowd