Hi Im 25 Female From FL. I’m currently in a dilemma, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now but I don’t trust him. I’ve seen several compromising things on his phone and computer. We broke up and I gave him a second chance. I’m hoping he’s not doing anything behind my back but I can’t trust that he’s being truly honest. I’m looking for something powerful like a truth serum to get him to reveal the truth about every and anything. He’s more introverted but kind of secretive as well so I just want to find out what’s on his mind, what he’s thinking and feeling. Anyway any thoughts and advice on this situation?
Hey, sorry to hear your struggle! 
Straight away Instant Honesty springs to mind, as, by you can probably tell by the name, makes people more inclined to confide or reveal things they may otherwise not feel comfortable saying. However, I wouldn’t catagorize it with truth serum qualities, as, with all pheromones, it requires you to do your part; create a comfortable vibe where he is likely to feel at ease to open up. I’m afraid without actual truth serum, you probably wont find something that will so intrusively make him spill the beans, without his conscious control, but pheromones will definitely be a huge aid! Just be weary that if the product does serve it’s purpose, which with AD products they usually do, you may or may not like what you hear!
Aside from your relationship, could you tell us a little about who you are? Just things like your type of personality, the kind of people you usually look to attract, and what type of places you frequent that you believe will be good testing grounds for pheromones?
We’re all hear to help, you don’t need IH with us. We’ll gladly provide our personal support no matter what. So, welcome to the site 
Ooh… Its a good question. I do know that Instant Honesty does help a bit with being a “truth serum” in larger doses, but if he refuses to talk to you about it and is really cheating on you, then I don’t think you will ever get it out of him. Pheromones do help, but they are not “magic potions” that will work every time.
Relationships are based on trust in each other. If you don’t trust him, then I don’t know how pheromones will help you. I know, it sound hard, but in some cases pheromones do work, in other cases I think that hearing the truth will do you more damage than you might think. Also, note that Instant Honesty can also backfire on you, since its not only him who is affected by the “truth serum”, but also you since it has an “area of effect”.
The main ingredi?nt I am talking about here is Beta-Androstenol, also known as bnol. The effects are described pretty well on this website: Beta Androstenol (bnol or beta-nol) - Pheromone & Social Influence Research Forum
It sounds a bit harsh, but my opinion would be to quit dating him. If he cheated on you he is most likely going to cheat again, even if he is telling that he quit. Trust is what made my relationship last so long with my girlfriend, if you are suspicious about him then I am pretty sure that it will end up in a redlight-greenlight situation.
IH, yes - with maybe some Instant Shine or P74 to promote comfort in being able to say anything to you.
This is no truth serum though and you will need to use some caareful discretion around him, without being too prying. Its more that these pheros create the atmosphere where something will just slip-out in an ungaurded moment and it might not be the whole story even then - which may only emerge with time/further exposure.
You know, it sounds like on top of the pheromones, it could really help you to have an open discussion with him about how you’re feeling.
It’s hard to know when you’re in an instance where you’ve been cheated if you’re feeling suspicious for the past, and still need to develop the present, or something else is going on.
If you can’t have a solid open conversation, then in all reality, what is the point of a relationship? Be mindful of the ownership you use in the things you say to him.
The ownership you use is key if you want to have a non-confrontational discussion.
Using words like “I feel like this when…” or “This makes me feel like…” “When I see…I feel…” “It made me feel like…” “I am afraid of … happening again”. “I need to feel like…”
A quick tip to better understand: try your best to remove the word “you” from the conversation with him.
When you own your feelings, it takes a lot of the blaming aspect away. If you remove phrases that sound blaming, or accusatory, like with the word “you”- he’ll be more likely to open up with you because you’ll be providing an open trusting atmosphere. As I am sure, if you go in guns a blazing, no amount of pheromones are going to remove that innate defensiveness that comes from the guilt/shame of cheating on someone. Because if he really is cheating, regardless of how justifiable he feels it could be, if he’s not telling you: the guilt and shame aspect is probably a big factor.
Also-being passive aggressive is just as aggressive as an accusation, everyone feels passive aggressiveness it’s like having an elephant in the room. You know when that’s happening too, underhand comments, there’s a deep anger you feel in the pit of your stomach, be aware of your actions and what your body is feeling in the moment. Anger isn’t bad, you have those feelings for a reason, and be aware of that. Just saying if you’re going to douse yourself with pheromones and then sit there with all that hurt and anger, expecting him to say something magically, then you’re in for some disappointment.
We live far too much in a societal atmosphere where the expectation of feelings is that they need to get shoved under the rug. Well, you can only shove so much garbage under a rug until you trip up all over it. Then people explode in epic blame battles and its real nasty.
People here seem to discuss the need for congruence between the pheromones you’re wearing and your actions. Being mindful of that in the moment is likely to help. So: " I’m wearing this is a reminder for me to act like…" Its the same with your thoughts, feelings, and outward expressions and actions.
A side note just because you’re removing the innate blame words in the conversation, does not mean that you are not justified in feeling hurt for the past, the fine line is between accepting what happened, and what is now. It can be difficult when trust is broken. Feelings can’t just be fixed ASAP. And the more you own that aspect of your feelings, the more likely you can come to a place where he will feel like it’s safe to share what’s going on with him.
Summary:
Describe what’s going on with you. Be open, own your feelings, express them. Assert what you need, try to balance between getting your needs across and sounding passive aggressive, or just plain aggressive. Keep in check with your body.
Hi BHGirl!
Welcome to PheromoneTalk!
You’ve got pretty awesome advice in here, Girl!
I just hope you’ll soon pass this little bump in your life and have a future full of laughs, smiles, and love.
Everybody deserves one loyal and loving partner.
But for now, let the truth be sayeth and heard. And here’s the first step towards the truth, and freedom. The GC. It’s now in your email and is ready for use.
Good luck Girl!
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Hi Everyone! Thanks So much for the advice! As for myself I’m an Outgoing Introvert if that makes any sense. When I’m in comfortable surroundings I can let lose and shine. I take one a alpha leader role in those scenarios. Outside of that, when I’m alone or in relationships I tend to be introverted and passive/ submissive. I’m very artistic and feminine. I like more alpha males but I tend to usually attract a beta or more submissive male. A lot of times I have to assume the dominant role in my relationships because the men I attract are more submissive. I’m quite social and work in customer service so I’m open to all walks of life as far as who would be exposed to the pheromones whenever I use them outside of my boyfriends presence.
Anyway thanks again for the amazing advice! I’m going to try IH and see if it helps out my relationship any. Hopefully it helps to at least open up communication more between us.
What’s up in Florida now BHGirl?
I see you’ve already placed an order and used your GC. Hope you received it fine and now already kicking ass on helping you up with your boyfriend. .
Don’t forget to share your test results my friend. You can create your own journal here to keep notes of your dosages and usages, plus its different effects, including those you consider a “failure”. Journal helps a lot. Its your own phero time machine.
For further questions, you can also create your own help-seeking thread here. Expert pheromone users usually browse this area.
Also, please drop a feedback here or via PM about how the shipping goes for you.
Thanks! Chat soon!