and Im an addict lol Just kidding.
My name is renee but everyone calls me savage.
I am 18 years old and born in the beautiful california central valley.
I now live in Sacramento. I like being around people and I like to party occasionally. Im really honest, and friendly and usually a peacemaker.
Ive always been a bigger girl, and for some reason, every guy I end up with turns out to be a douchebag lol. Im hoping that pheromones might be able to help me seek out one of the nice guys. Im tired of being under appreciated and this is also the first step to getting over my shyness. Maybe someone other than the controlling guys will approach me now.
Thanks for reading!!
G’day Savage, welcome to the forums. Hmm, douchebag repellent… you know if I had a formula for that I’d be a billionaire! Although I wouldn’t be able to stand my own product A big part of avoiding DBs is learning how to spot them, you should be getting some practise at that. Try Instant Sexiness, I’m not sure which version. B is a softer more kittenish vibe, which may attract protective “nice guys”. You may also be teaching guys to treat you badly through your behaviour. When a guy violates your values, punish it by withdrawing attention. Don’t get mad and start a fight or whatever, just start paying attention to something else. Humans generally will do whatever they can be rewarded for, and you seem like you may be someone who is too accomodating, to your own cost.
I know I teach them to treat me badly. Im definately over acommodating, and overly apologetic. I usually apologize to avoid conflict. Even if I know Im right lol. Thus my peacemaker comment. I usually end up bottling up how I feel in the process and the problem just persists. I just had a fight with my boyfriend yesterday, and he called me some pretty nasty things and then proceeded to tell me that I was immature and crazy. Never once did I raise my voice, or call him names, or say anything that I didnt have evience to prove and Im immature. (thats usually what happens when you date someone thats 8 years older than you) I was hoping an older guy would be more mature in these situations lol
I was looking at the openness spray to help me be more comfortable with talking about how Im feeling at the time they arise instead of waiting until theres a whole pile of problems to deal with.
The openness is a bit better for an ‘ice breaker’ type effect. This could help in your situation but I think something like Instant Honesty would be much more suited for your needs. It should help both of you to open up about the underlying issues… and keep things on a bit of a deeper level. The Openness is more of a chatty sorta shallower type of conversation unless you try realllllly hard to gear it to be something more.
The suggestions for the Instant Sexiness line are good too. I think the Instant Sexiness A would be more empowering for you and maybe edge you towards not being so submissive or accommodating.
I know what it’s like to want to please people all the time… and it’s tiring.
Definitely read through the womens forum as there’s a lot of really amazing ladies who have all kinds of experience with these products. I’m sure some of our fantastic female members will give you some more awesome advice.
thanks reclipse. ill have to remember that when im trying to order something lol im really loving this forum already
a free trial of the product and the support to help you on the way. this is by far the most awesome forum ive ever been to lol
We’re all here for similar reasons and we all are happy to see each other travel down the paths we’re traveling. Some things may be inspirational to you here.. some may be a lesson in what NOT to do too hahah… but overall this is one of the most positive forums I’ve ever been a part of.
Normally I’m a bit of a forum troll but here it’s just not needed. Lots of good people and no bullshit.
Definitely let us know how things go for you. I know it can be tough dating someone much older/younger. I’m constantly plagued w/ that type of situation because of my social circles.
They don’t quite work that way… but I’m sure with a bit of work you’ll find something to have him wrapped around your finger so he doesn’t talk back or act like a lil bitch
lol… You 2 are probably about the same maturity level… mostly… cept when he’s acting like a lil bitch and calling you names like a child.
Just keep on path with what you’re doing. If he doesn’t shape up tell that mfer to ship out and go find someone who is a little more mature than acting like a child when you’re having a fight
Love makes you do stupid things and forgive for some really horrible shit sometimes.
You should definitely work on taking back a bit instead of just giving in all the time. Guys normally dont want the overly submissive accommodating type. As much as we hate it, sometimes we really need to be put in our place by our GF/Wife/SO.
The fact that you keep letting him pull the shit isn’t doing any favors for the long haul… so exert some of the control back over things and keep moving forward. You did real well by not resorting to his tactics, but he needs to be made aware that his tantrum bullshit wont fly.
I know it sounds a bit like being a mom and raising a bratty kid, but sometimes that’s what a guy subconsciously needs.
I didnt give in this time. hes probably over at his house still throwing a tantrum because I didnt end up apologizing. At least this time i can give myself credit for being strong.
Although I wouldn’t be able to stand my own product 
A big part of avoiding DBs is learning how to spot them, you should be getting some practise at that. Try 
