I have been reading all these forums and I can’t understand some of the descriptions. I was wondering if anyone could help with me some advice? I am in a live in open-relationship, and I want to try to spice things up. We used to be active 4-5 times a week and now we are down to 4-5 times a month. Now of course I am up for it but she keeps pulling away. So I want to try to find something that will work to stimulate the sexual attraction she had to me when we first met. Any Suggestions?
im no expert but turn up the heat seems to be what u are looking for. Im sure a more knowledgable member will come and help tho
TUTH, Ammunition and Instant Female Magic, try these!
well it would be easy to give you a recommendation, but here’s a question - why is she pulling away?
Hey thanks I was looking at getting Turn up the heat( although I am worried about using it when her kids are home) and I was also looking at Instant Female Magic. But also since we have such an open relationship I was wondering about what to use when we go out to or if I go to the clubs by myself. If I am understanding descriptions right i could use the same ones for both situations, But I think i am going to wait and see if I get any more suggestion before I buy something.
I am not completely sure. Honestly my performance has been lacking a little. But she has also been getting reserved and she is actually away on vacation right now, and I think that might help a little. Cause we are always together but we are getting a week apart.
I would try Pre-Release Dirty. It’s in the guys section.Sounds like the Dirty will do the trick. I’m all female but I use it along with other feminine mones.It gets my hubby really hot and bothered and we’ve been together forever.
it may. absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that.
is there any possibility she’s feeling resentful with your setup? I only ask, because in most of the open relationships i’ve seen (of various configurations) there always seems to be the one partner who’s having the time of their life, and the one partner who harbors resentment, insecurity, etc etc. very few are ever willing to rock the boat and talk about it tho.
How about trying this - get some Instant Honesty, spray that all over yourself when she gets home, and jsut talk for a bit. Just about the trip and blah blah. Maybe y’all can get the relationship back on solid ground a little bit first by opening the lines of communication, before going straight to the sex.
That sounds like some good advice there. Although we do talk when she gets home from worm work I have her tea ready for her, she sits down at the computer and I massage her feet and we normally talk for 2-3 hours just about her day my day it doesnt matter if we talk about why the sky is blue as long as i get to spend time with her. For me its not all about sex but right now we haven’t been intimate with each other in over 2 weeks.
what nunya said.
definately.
IH has this way of making detailed conversation easier.
i really dont know why, but i challenge its behaviour and it comes through everytime.
not that you arent part of the equation, but it sounds like she needs an issue resolved.
other than that, my opinion is instant shine. possibly Ammo.
light-heartedness might help here.
Lor,
The only thing I can say about her is she does have a wall up she doesn’t want to get too close for fear that i will turn out like ex but i dont like using the past as an excuse for anything i dont live in the past i live for the future but it might just an emotional hold so i guess i will hold off on the more aggressive formulas for a little bit anyway
an aggressive formula would be TUTH.
a soft, mood enhancing mix would be instant shine or IO.
Lor you and Nunya might be right, maybe i just need to work on the emotional aspect of our relationship first. so I guess i could just start off with something less aggressive at first atleast. Now the only thing i can say about her is that she does try to be reserved in that she is afraid that i might turn out like ex and hurt her, but I dont like to use the past as an excuse. I don’t live in the past, I live for the future.
After reading this, and your PM. P93 for sure. It’s sexual with a strong element of closeness (but not super deep). It gives off and “I get you” vibe. Think of it like the type of closeness you have with your best friend. They just get you. The beauty is that I haven’t seen any negative results on women or men, and all you need is some alpha nol and taa to make it inviting for clubs or with your lady.
Talk to jasmin about the recomendations I gave you. I am even more convinced p93 will be good for you.
People, get on these p93 tests. The stuff is great. Maybe i’m crazy, but it’s slowly becoming my favorite. (it’s also called mx201)
12.5 mcg is a nice, light sexual vibe. 2 sprays could be to uninviting, but as long as it’s buffered it’s great. By its self, I think it’s not as sexual, or maybe too sexual. Probably the later.
yeah - i mean if you get her feeling comfortable again, then the sex will come naturally - not just superficially. we like giving our best, when we feel like we are understood, on the inside.
Well nunya what do you think of the idea of using p93? would that be to much if i am trying to open up communication lines, even though i would like to get back the sex too. but if i can get back the closeness and talking i think might be just as happy
Well Honestly Dewey - I have no experience with p93 to say. But it does sound like something i want to try as well. Here’s the thing tho - it will take a bit for the P93 to come, since it’s custom, so if you are on a timetable, maybe that’s not the best idea for right now. If you got some Instant Honesty now, tho, and maybe one of the sexual ones that are ready-made, what you could do is set the scene with the intimate vibe first, and then play it by ear. If it looks like she’s ready to give ya some, go in the bathroom, and spray some of the sex stuff on. it will add an extra little something to the deed. And then get the P93 to experiment with when it comes in.