I’ll agree with Styr here. The friendship with her mother is a different relationship that doesn’t need to be changed, except that maybe you should talk to her about other things than her daughter. Now if she (your ex) is coming into town and asks to see you, tell her NO. You have to work, have plans, a date, organizing your closet, ANYTHING. Then meet her on YOUR terms. Arrange to “accidentally” bump into her somewhere. Keep it casual, not personal. And skip Valentines day with her. If she asks about it tell her you already had plans, and there’s always NEXT year. I know it’s hard to do, but ya gotta leave her wondering! Absence really DOES make the heart grow fonder.
Thanks again Styr, BluDrgn.
Sure hope I’m on the right path here.
Although I have to admit it’s been easier for myself as well, having a clear plan and not thinking constantly about her and what to do. That, or might be the increased confidence and self-appreciation from the few days of A314 I’m learning to use.
So, I’m executing the plan of not contacting her. Pretty easy to do, not doing anything.
I still wonder though what I’m going to say when she asks me at some point why haven’t I been in contact at all all of sudden…
Also I was wondering if there’s anything I could “drop” to her mother, as I know she’s going to let her know about it anyway, unless I was to forbid it. I could for example tell her I’m taking distance from her as I’ve already tried everything I can and she is unmoved. That would deliver the message to her and save me the trouble of explaining anything. Not sure it’s a good idea though. Any thoughts on this?
BluDrgn, as for meeting her mother, we do talk about everything, not just her lovely daughter. We discuss politics, news, weather, movies, all the stuff people normally do.
Actually I have been very surprised she’s so open and telling me things I wouldn’t personally tell anyone but a really close person! I guess she trusts me a lot since I’ve told her so many of my secrets about my love for her daughter etc. I’ll just wait and see what happens when I wear IH around her… 
I’ll be sure to introduce my new phero sig to her and Her (while accidentally bumping), and her friends too as soon as I figure out its composition. I want to get the mix pretty close to what I’d like it to be from the start, without having to adjust too much on the way.. I have some ideas for mixes I’m going to have you experts to take a look on some day now!
More than anything I still need to experiment and get some personal experience on what the different pheros will do for me.
Meanwhile, I begun a journal about my love quest and generally of getting to know mones. I got pretty interesting results already in my 5 first days. I only have had time to write up day 1, but even that was quite awesome on its own, lol!
Find it here: My chemical love story
Now for the offtopic Styr:
Nice guess, dude! My non-serious’ boyfriend is indeed an estonian builder! They met at the construction where they both work. I haven’t met him personally, so I’m not sure about his IQ… What I can tell you though is that while she got the looks and boobs, she herself isn’t really the sharpest knife in the box… Maybe they would make a good couple.
However, now it seems like he blew it somehow at the last minute. I didn’t ask her for details about what happened, but it seems I get to keep her for now. That is good news, as I need someone to test my mones effects on!
I got the impression he was too beta for her somehow, but I don’t really care for details all that much. Too bad for him, good for me.
-AT