Hey thanks for your kind words WildFlower. I approve of your post… so… reps back at ya!
By “play it right” I do mean what you refer to, learning how to “use A314” in particular, there is a knack to it that is actually mostly subconscious, it seems to me. But people do it all the time and the learning curve is very quickly negotiated for the vast majority of new A314 users who post to the forum.
Well, everyone’s situation will be different. But Bobofgog should find out that he can give this woman something that only a select very few men can (and they’re scattered all over the world!) like that nice beatific feeling that will come from her being exposed to IFM, and the feelings of safety from being around the A314-alpha male. These will help Bobofgog immensely with confidence in this relationship, and he will see how to progress.
Bobofgog, if all goes well you can see the good reactions that your pheros cause, and just act cool but caring, and in fact just imagine the situation from her point of view. I have found it difficult to try and understand what might be going on in the head of a woman feeling the effects of A1, but… ah here we go: Ladies, a little something on IFM from the female point of view, if you would, please
And then with the A314, she is probably feeling a little overawed, but intrigued, with the Ishine, she is probably feeling “shiny”, etc. The “second person perspective” should help you figure out your next moves.
WildFlower, it is admittedly rather a dry and soulless term to use but: “Pavlovian Conditioning” - one can even phase out the use of the pheros in theory after a certain number of exposures (and each “conditionee’s” mileage may vary in this respect) because the psychological association between the proximity of say an IFM wearer and the nice feelings a woman will get are so strongly established. Of course, it is not quite so simple as that, the guy might have to start wearing IFM again at a later date to reinforce the stimulus-response thing again. So intermittent periods of use of pheromones/no use of pheromones should be a perfectly good strategy, it saves on expensive pheros and stops any tolerance being built up too much with the target.