Im sorry but thoughts dont just pop out of no where unless your psychic but thats a whole different subject. There is something that is triggering these sudden thoughts in you. In other words its about you not about her and her being a therapist she is going to know that the second you bring it up.
These questions are for you to ponder not answer here in the forum. To help you find whats causeing these sudden thoughts.
Has anything changed in your relationship ? She been working more or connecting less with you ?
I assume your using mones, do you feel guilt for using them ? Do you feel like your doing something wrong ?
Do you feel guilt for something else ? Like maybe you have come across someone you feel an attraction with. I am not saying your acting on it or even thinking of acting on it but that can sometimes trigger guilt.
Your wife made a mistake in meeting a potentially dangerous client outside of a controlled setting. She didnt betray you or cheat on you. Even if there is a attraction, attraction in its self is not betrayal. She may have met him but she didnt act on the attraction. We feel attraction for many people we meet in our lives. The attraction is not a betrayal.
I am not saying her meeting him was right. It was very dangerous and I dont blame you for being pissed about it but if your mad there was a connection and attraction between her and him (that wasn’t acted on) then thats about your own insecurity not about her. She cant do anything about that and even knowing why is not going to fix your insecurity. What is triggering your feelings insecurity ?
Ok look at it from this perspective…
If I think about killing someone am I am murderer ?
Thoughts are just thoughts until you put them into action. They are not wrong or right.
Flirtation is just a way people connect. Its not wrong or right until its acted upon.
I am not saying to hold your feelings inside because that is not healthy either but before you say anything know what is triggering this because I guarantee you she will figure it out.
You mentioned you forgave her and your marriage has been good since the incident. I believe you have forgiven her.
My question is what do you need to forgive yourself for ? Thats your trigger.
Do you need more of a clue ?
Here read this >>> Ladies, I need your insight
Its not about her, its about you.
Tisha