Looks like my next reading project is The Dependent Personality by Robert Bornstein… one might begin to think that certain personality types (the Dependent type is sort of an amped up Oral-Passive who had, ummmm, “issues” with rebellion, autonomy, and parent-child differentiation) will naturally fall into dependency relationships with just about anything… including pheromones as The Answer… often the human-human relationship dynamics will have a closed in, energy sucking need… suffocating cuddly dreams of big down comforters and heaping plates of chocolate chip cookies (sinfully rich!) and cozy, cozy, cozy… one wonders about the natural audience for all those foodie lyfestyle publications, tankards of foamy beer, puttering around in big sheet steel uteruses called SUVs, while suck, suck, sucking on a 64 ounce Pineapple-Vanilla-Strawberry-Frostee Frappe and much, munch, munching on a nice big greasy Big Boy (eeeewwwwww… )…
Needless to say, the same dynamics can be turned loose on the playground of the psyche known as Pheromones… making them RESPONSIBLE… you know the drill… something out there MADE ME do something… those Big Boys MADE ME eat them ! That booze MADE ME drink it by… well.. by being so irresistible I just had to… pass out in the stall with my head between my legs…
This may be counterintuitive as all hell, but I think Pheromones combined with the right mindset actually increase one’s awareness, and as a result they increase one’s SELF AGENCY (taking appropriate and self reflective responsibility for one’s state of being)… because they may loosen the set-in-epoxy early socializations enough that one can step aside and inquire, WHY did I believe it was necessary to think (about myself, about my social connections, about the way the world in general is put together) like that ?
This may explain why some people appear to have moments of existential shock when a basically inauthentic, rigid, contrived, artificial, or other form of psycho-bullshit identity suddenly experiences the fresh, liberating air of real emotion…