i’m meeting a girl later which i like, she’s older then me by a year. she treats me like a close friend, a “bro”. i’m trying to get her to start liking me. for further background about us, we gettin kinda close, our conversation have gone to talk openly about sex and stuffs, sometimes i joke with her about giving each other oral sex and she would be shy about it.
maybe not shy but, she wouldnt be mad and stuffs, even when i joke in front of our friends.
from what i know, i think she trusts me.
i’m not trying to get in her pants, (at least not yet!!) but just wanna see her start to like me and see me differently.
here are the pheros that i got. can someone recommend me a good combo to work on her??
A314 1.29a IH , IS, IO (1x str) IG (2x str) Ammo (2x str) TUTH (ver1.1, str 2.5mcg)
I really hope you take what I’m about to tell you to heart. It comes from seeing so many dudes repeat most of what you’ve said.
Ok, older than you by a year is not a big deal. Treating you like a close friend - also not a bad thing all of the time.
Ok.. well.. a girl talking to you about sex does not equal interest. A girl who is interested in sex would be more subtle. It just means she feels safe - that you wont actually try to have sex with her.
Alright, here we go. She isn’t acting shy - you are embarrassing her and further, you are hurting her trust with you. You do it in front of friends as well? Its not flirting - its harassing. Yes, even friends can feel harassed.
I don’t believe that for a second - if you want advice, don’t lie - of course you are trying to get into her pants. Own up to that and come clean with her about how you actually feel or walk way, two choices.
Sure, pheros can help but what you need is SUBTLETY. If you keep pushing on her with the oral sex jokes, especially in front of friends, all you are doing is chipping away at her trust.
Instant Gentleman, Instant Shine, and Instant Openness - build the trust back - stop being immature with her and then you can start to build actual attraction with Ammunition.
thx dude! nah i’m alright bro! i’ve had harsher advice before. everyday i’m learning and understanding more of myself, n i personally think that ppl like you that are willing to put the effort to advice are golden. it makes me see myself in another perspective and see where i can improve myself.
I tried to be the best friend I could be but when I had opportunities to show sexual interest I really went for it. It worked. worst case, Jealousy is the number one thing that makes a girl go… why am I jealous? Oh, I guess I do like him… Go to the club and dance with her, be very kino… but slow don’t startle her make her curious I guesss. Don’t take her shit though.
I personally have never been in a friend zone with the opposite sex, ever… Infact i have never had a female friend that I dont engage with sexually. Grant it i do have good female friends, just not since i was 12 did i have any for platonic relationships. even the ones that are hitched..
I never though about this until i read this thread
Honestly I dont know, this is how it always ends up for me
Ill also state that if i woke up tomorrow with no sex drive, I wouldnt have a single female friend at all. I think that all my relationships with females (-family) are driven by sexual desire.
I have one current friend right now by the name of kathryn, whome to me is a female reflection of myselfin personallity. I realise that all females im friends with are like her and subsequently are my friend and sexual partner. But never platonic, once a girl finds her roots or settles and theres no option for sex i think i subconsciously move on. But to be honest in my mind a platonic relationship is fiction. females are always willing for sex no matter what, it just has to be with right person. I have no feeling of love, just feelings of friendship. when you think of sex like eating food or using the latrine it puts it into a perspective for you. Its just like anything else and friends help you, just as i take kathryn out to eat and have fun i also pleasure her at night (and sometimes morning).
I personally attract and am attracted to females looking for a male friend in a sexual way, aswell as for fun and bullshite and all the other crap friends are for.
I think this is the only way to explain it.
So of the past 6 girls i have met, all 6 of them are friends and all six of them i have shagged and could still do so if i pleased, and 1 of them is a good friend whome I actually am going out with tonight for some bubbles.
Ill add also in essance that I only use pheromones as ice breakers or when im lazy and want more girls to approach me rather than the reverse. Most of the time i find that sexual partners are gained naturally and not through the use of pheromones, to me its hard to determine how much of an effect if at all they have on getting me laid.
Honestly having decent looks, being confident with a sense of humour, Dressing very well, and my accent are all way more powerful than any pheromone. the nose or rather the olfactory bulb is only one sense. why limit yourself to that.
Honestly I dont know, this is how it always ends up for me
Ill also state that if i woke up tomorrow with no sex drive, I wouldnt have a single female friend at all. I think that all my relationships with females (-family) are driven be sexual desire.
I have one current friend right now by the name of kathryn, whome to me is a female reflection of myselfin personallity. I realise that all females im friends with are like her and subsequently are my friend and sexual partner. But never platonic, once a girl finds her roots or settles and theres no option for sex i think i subconsciously move on. But to be honest in my mind a platonic relationship is fiction. females are always willing for sex no matter what, it just has to be with right right person.
I personally attract and am attracted to females looking for a male friend in a sexual way, aswell as for fun and bullshite and all the other crap friends are for.
I think this is the only way to explain it.
So of the past 6 girls i have met, all 6 of them are friends and all six of them i have shagged and could still do so if i pleased, and 1 of them is a good friend whome I actually am going out with tonight for some bubbles.
